Would you quit?? *rant!*

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Daphnelia

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I finished at my allotted time, totally knackered, checked my little job list and made sure everything was done, got paid and headed to my car.. then thought, I wonder if Boss would like me to grab those last two horses in for her, as a favour.. so duly waddled down to see said Boss to hear her ranting about me to whoever would listen, I interupted (to stop her digging herself a hole) and said politely that, even thought she hadnt asked me to, would she like me to bring the last two horses in for her? Cue a bollocking in front of all the customers as to me not doing jobs I was told to do etc etc and yes she WOULD like them brought in and she DID want the other two mares turned out like she asked me.. ok I'm rambling now sorry, I'm so ashamed to say I felt tears come to my eyes because I was so tired and to me it was all so unfair, and I quietly said I'm sure you didnt tell me, and anyway I don't do any jobs you dont tell me about because you get upset with me if I act off my own bat, and tottered off before I started bawling. How sad is that, 22 and a grumpy old lady made me cry. She can be LOVELY, but I know she slags me off to customers when I'm not there, other employees too. I attend uni two full days a week, the other days I work at the yard. I try my best, maybe I am a bit useless I dont know. She does this about every 3 weeks, and makes me go home feeling really bad about myself. But I've been there about 9 months now, and she still makes me feel like sh*t. I think she thinks I'm stupid. I'm going to stop now, feel better for writing it all up though. Gosh if you've managed to read all the way to the end kudos to you. No nasty comments please about me getting upset over nothing etc, I know its all very trivial. Straw that broke the camels back innit
 
How unprofessional to be talking about you to her clients.
I'd fire her as your boss...wouldn't work for her...
If she makes you feel bad about yourself, it's not worth the money, is it?
There is usually a shortage of yard workers - find another job through the agency.
Or if you're rich, you can come and do my three and I won't shout at you
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although I won't pay you either.
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She sounds a right cow!!
Bosses should be improving your confidence not making you feel worse!Don't care if its cos of her own insecurities she shouldn't be treating you like that!She really sounds like she has a problem
Personally would look for another job as you really don't need to be made to feel this way!
Feel really angry at her!!NO-ONE should make someone feel bad about themselves!!
 
Ah, not a nice situation. Perhaps you should start looking for another job, where you will be better appreciated. I've found in the past that this type of situation doesn't improve unless you change completely and become very assertive - and if that's not your style, move on and let someone else take the grief.

Good luck!
 
poor you [[[[[hugs]]]]]

The one thing that I think is that whatever she thinks of your performance, however good or bad your performance IS... she has no right to slate you to the customers or other liveries - if she has a problem with you or your work she should discuss it with you. If she thinks you are forgetting things that need to be done then she needs to address this with you, perhaps by writing a list for you in the mornings? That way you would be able to prove that you had done everything on the list...

She sounds thoroughly unprofessional to me - chin up love, have a look round and see if there are any nicer yard jobs around, this time of year lots of yards are desperate for more part time staff as the horses start to come in at night.
 
Completely agree with S, it's so unprofessional for her to bitch about you to clients.

I'd look for something else
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Some people do seem to operate on the principle that if they make you look bad, they somehow look better.

When you have calmed down a bit you need to have this out with her, in a civilized way and point out that being shouted at and demeaned in front of clients will not make you or anybody perform any better and that if she has issues with the quality of your work she should address them with you privately. Be quiet, dignified, but persistent
 
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My thoughts exactly
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I think you would be better off finding a job in a private yard where you would be appreciated.
If this was a one off I would say ignore her, but as it seems she does this regularly why on earth are you still there?
I'd go and get a job anywhere but work for her..
old cow, how horrible is she? I would leave asap and see how she likes bringing in her own horses..
 
Leave and find another job with nicer people. I did that (my problem was more YO's best friend who was about the same age as me (40 something) and treated me like a snotty nosed kid whenever there was an audience about). Best thing I ever did, and I found something before I left the other place.
 
You have every right to rant, maybe she too was just ranting?
it's so wrong to slate you to clients (i agree taht people often blame others for their inadequacies)

As for working for a private yard and being apreciated, well i can talk from experience...if someone is a rancid bitch, it's a natural occurance, where ever you work. Private or not

it's a shame really, when i free lanced it was hilarious, whingin old codgers that have nothing better to do than dodge work and moan about others x
 
May be if you tell her you are so hurt you will be leaving, she may never do this again. She will surely miss you and your usefulness.

(((hugs)))

If you need the job, the money and the proximity of the place, give her a chance to apologise, with any luck if she's not a total a**ehole then she will be feeling bad right now about all of that.

Poor you. xx
 
tell her to stuff her job where the sun dont shine and get a job for some nice people...
very unprofessional of her to badmouth you to her customers...but Im sure her customers also realize this and it actually makes the YO look bad.
They probably pay you a pittance for working long hours at their yard, but that doesnt give the YO the right to treat you badly. Stand up for yourself
 
I would say calm down and consider whether you need the job, and or the reference. Don't act in haste and repent at leisure. Yes, she's been foul, a lot of bosses are, but it's no help if five years down the line, you look back and find oops no references!
So think carefully before you act, and certainly don't be rude, that would be descending to her level.
If the other clients etc know you are hardworking and nice, leave them to draw their own conclusions, continue to work hard, look for another job, and wait til you 've got a reference before slagging her off!
 
Well, if her clients have anything about them at all, they will see her for what she is, an unprofessional bully with very few people skills. Maybe she can be very nice at times, but you never really know where you stand with people who show multi personalities.

May the fleas of a thousand camels infest her ar$ehole
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I would definalty leave and if you need a part time job to help you thru Uni seriously condsider MacDonalds. It will be better pay, cbetter onditions, better hours and you'll have protection against people like her.

I worked there and I loved it.
 
I personally would have handed her the head collar and told her to go do it herself.I have been a groom for years and have come across people like that .It would be her loss if she did lose you good grooms are few and far between and there is no shortage of decent folk out there looking for people who are hard working and dedicated like you. Trust me i have had to turn work down because not enough hours in the day.You are worth more ,but i would say hang in there ,bite your tongue until you find something so you have money coming in unless you feel you can cope ! Nowdays i do not think an employer is allowed to give a bad reference anyway . If you are mobile you could always offer your services as a freelance groom .Hope all goes well but you sound like you are worth your weight in gold and noone should be spoken to in this manner.Good luck!!!!!!!
 
Can you not advertise your horsey services as a freelance groom? Not only do I earn more than when I was working in an office, but I actually get text messages from "clients" stating "You're a star!" and "Fantastic!" - makes you feel appreciated! I only started advertising on boards at the local shop, tack shops, feed merchants etc...now I'm turning work away because I'm so busy! PLEASE don't work for peanuts and let some miserable bitch slag you off!! I'm so happy working with horses and you should be, too!
 
I've seen bullies like that at work. It's definitely not you and don't feel that. After you go it will be somebody else and then the next one. I've known one woman at work victimise a whole string of staff down the years (one at a time so they don't take a case against her that will stand up). Her own boss knows that she does this but doesn't have the guts to make her stop.

I actually mentioned this trait to her superviser yesterday and just got a weak smile of agreement about it, and was told that her current victim wasn't brave enough to stand up to the woman!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Don't worry I'm sure everybody else recognises the womans unpleasantness even if they can't/won't do anything about it.

Best wishes for getting a new job. Never accept being treated like sh1t. It will only make you depressed and miserable. You don't need to take it.
 
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Some people do seem to operate on the principle that if they make you look bad, they somehow look better.

When you have calmed down a bit you need to have this out with her, in a civilized way and point out that being shouted at and demeaned in front of clients will not make you or anybody perform any better and that if she has issues with the quality of your work she should address them with you privately. Be quiet, dignified, but persistent

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I totally agree with the above. Some people in authority think their position gives them the right to bully & demean others, which obviously it doesn't. When you speak to her about this I would ensure thsat I told her that you are doing this in private as conversations of this nature should be a matter between the 2 involved & not for outsiders amusement. That should hopefully make her think. In the meantime I'd look for another positon because the YO may decide to make your life difficult.
 
Huge thank you to everyone who replied - I was still in a tiz last night but reading the comments really cheered me up. And also made me wonder why I am still there! I loved the comment about fleas of a thousand camels
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Gonna give the freelance idea a try i think, so Keepers Cottage may pm you for some advice if thats ok?
Thanks again everyone, seriously you really made me smile
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Good luck in finding lots of freelance work. No way on this earth would I want to work for someone like that. Actually I think in some ways it was a shame that you stepped in to stop her digging a bigger hole for herself. Would have loved to have seen her face after she had finished ranting and raving and realised you were standing there... Stupid cow, makes me wonder how she treats the horses as well with a nasty attitude like that.
 
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