QueenOfCadence
Well-Known Member
Hey guys
As you know my ponio is a bit under the weather, during his "off" time I've really been thinking about creating a more positive future for me and him and I've started considering switching instructors because I'm honestly miserable with the one I'm currently at. She is a brilliant rider (I'll give her that) and she's competed in the European circuit (she lived in Germany at one stage). However I'm not enjoying lessons with her AT ALL and I feel as if I'm making no progress, so here is the full explanation on why I'm considering switching:
Before the instructor I have now, I had another instructor who was also a brilliant rider (a better rider than my current instructor IMHO) - however I couldn't continue taking lessons with her as she moved away. My previous instructor and I got along very well (she considered me to be her daughter) and she went out of her way to help me, with her I went from having a horse who couldn't preform the basic gaits to Elementary Medium in 4 years and my current instructor just has really not lived up to my expectations. She is generally just rude to me and has basically told me that I don't deserve to be on the horse and that my own horse is far to talented for me and that if she were the one riding him they would be in Grand Prix already, not only does she say things like this to my face but also behind my back. She has NOT improved on my riding, in fact when I first started riding with her she made me practice even the very basics with her (walk trot transitions and a halt out of the walk - everything I'd gotten 8s for back when I was still in Prelim!), I haven't gone up a grade (or even gotten close to it) in the time I've been with her (a year and a half). My ponio is schooled up to Intermediate and I have done some of the movements on him (my previous instructor rode him twice a week and schooled him up. In fact she practised her Intermediate tests on him) but my current instructor refuses to help me any further than a simple Traver (while my old instructor and I had been perfecting the piaffe and working on the passage). It feels as if she is constantly trying to compete with me or trying to push me down - saying things like when she was my age she could ride the movements I struggle with bareback in a halter.
I'm tired of dreading riding a lesson. Would you guys switch instructors or am I over reacting? I want what's best for me and my ponio and my current instructor uses SO many gadgets (and I'm not seeing any results) - that I've started thinking it's time to move on?
What are your opinions? Should I find someone else? And if I do, how should I tell my current instructor that I'm quitting lessons with her and starting with someone else?
As you know my ponio is a bit under the weather, during his "off" time I've really been thinking about creating a more positive future for me and him and I've started considering switching instructors because I'm honestly miserable with the one I'm currently at. She is a brilliant rider (I'll give her that) and she's competed in the European circuit (she lived in Germany at one stage). However I'm not enjoying lessons with her AT ALL and I feel as if I'm making no progress, so here is the full explanation on why I'm considering switching:
Before the instructor I have now, I had another instructor who was also a brilliant rider (a better rider than my current instructor IMHO) - however I couldn't continue taking lessons with her as she moved away. My previous instructor and I got along very well (she considered me to be her daughter) and she went out of her way to help me, with her I went from having a horse who couldn't preform the basic gaits to Elementary Medium in 4 years and my current instructor just has really not lived up to my expectations. She is generally just rude to me and has basically told me that I don't deserve to be on the horse and that my own horse is far to talented for me and that if she were the one riding him they would be in Grand Prix already, not only does she say things like this to my face but also behind my back. She has NOT improved on my riding, in fact when I first started riding with her she made me practice even the very basics with her (walk trot transitions and a halt out of the walk - everything I'd gotten 8s for back when I was still in Prelim!), I haven't gone up a grade (or even gotten close to it) in the time I've been with her (a year and a half). My ponio is schooled up to Intermediate and I have done some of the movements on him (my previous instructor rode him twice a week and schooled him up. In fact she practised her Intermediate tests on him) but my current instructor refuses to help me any further than a simple Traver (while my old instructor and I had been perfecting the piaffe and working on the passage). It feels as if she is constantly trying to compete with me or trying to push me down - saying things like when she was my age she could ride the movements I struggle with bareback in a halter.
I'm tired of dreading riding a lesson. Would you guys switch instructors or am I over reacting? I want what's best for me and my ponio and my current instructor uses SO many gadgets (and I'm not seeing any results) - that I've started thinking it's time to move on?
What are your opinions? Should I find someone else? And if I do, how should I tell my current instructor that I'm quitting lessons with her and starting with someone else?