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Hi all,
Right i'm looking for some of you lovely guys advice.

I've had my beautiful pony on loan for 2 nearly 3 years now, I have seen her at least 3 times a week and she has taught me everything i know. I absolutely love her to pieces and she has been a MASSIVE part of my life, she's been there through all my ups and downs and i can always rely on her for a cuddle and a smile.

However, she is ready to be slowed down and i have reached my limits with her, the yard and the people have become a huge part of my life and are like family. However for many different personal reasons i can no longer have her on loan, she has gone to a lovely little lad who will have lots of fun with her, i'm going to visit her every 2 weeks, thanks to her lovely owner who said i can pop up whenever i like (for which i'm extremely grateful and means a hell of a lot to me)

I have begun to look about for a new horse to loan as this week is the last week with my current pony.
I went to the new yard last week and rode a new horse, i only walked as i was petrified! I'am going back this week for another ride and to make a decision. The pony i have seen is lovely, owner lovely too and very flexible. I took a friend with me to, who thinks it is exactly what i need.

But, there is just a little niggling feeling telling me this is not the right thing to? I don't know whether it's the thought of having a different pony and a new place and people, or whether i just need a break of a month or two before i start riding again. I originally thought i needed to know i was walking out of something into something new as i really didn't want to stop riding, but now i'm thinking is a short break to think straight and have a proper look around for something new what i need? but then would i be passing up the opportunity of a possibly fabulous new ride?
Although i can see my old loan pony as much as i want and whenever i wish, i'am heartbroken, absolutely broken, I feel like my heart has been ripped out and stamped on, I'm so utterly devastated and confused i just don't know what to do.
So from an outsiders point of view, i would love some of you horsey peoples opinions.
Many thanks Xxx
 
If you are having second thoughts already probably not the right thing to do, as you said take a few weeks to reassess , give owner of potential loan pony a call & explain x
 
Why not explain you are not sure to the new ponies owners and see if they will do a trial loan .
Horses moving on is something you get used to perhaps you just need a little time to settle with the new one.
 
Why don't you wait until after your second ride before you decide. Its hard moving on from a horse you love and trust. When my mare retired and I started looking for a new one I was terrified. I had not ridden anyone else (apart from the odd walk around on my daughters horse) for 10 years. Riding a new horse will feel strange, but it can be a new and exciting time. This one may not be 'the one', but you will find another. If this one isn't right perhaps you could try a few lessons at a RS to get you used to riding different horses again. Chin up, you will still get to see your old horse - good luck
 
My advice would be to try out as many other horses as you can. If you have only ridden the loan horse for 2-3 years then it may just be that you need to get used to another, but until you try several you won't know. I had the same feeling trialling a horse after my pony retired, but then I tried several others and found one that didn't scare me at all and I love. And she was the biggest I'd seen.
 
Thanks for your replies. I'm finding the thought of leaving my current pony yard and the people all a little bit overwhelming at the moment, and i leave this Sunday. As much as people tell me, "It's mean't to be" as i found him at the right time, and the aggreement fits me down to a tee, and the people are lovely, i just don't feel ready to leave my current yard as there is an option of another pony to share, however i cannot afford this agreement and the ponies lovely just not what i'm looking for. I don't know whether to stick with the other pony i've had offered to me, or go to the one i've been to try once, or even just give myself a break for a few months and go for some lessons, i really have no idea what to do.
 
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