q105
Well-Known Member
After honest opinions or advice please.
I have a TB on share, responded to an ad 4yrs ago expecting to be told I was too novice for this youngster who was OTT and needing full retraining. But I got on well with the owner who has a second OTTTB a little further along in training. So we gayly proceeded and its been a good partnership.
Work takes me away often (hence no horse of my own), but so does owners, so we are supportive of each other. I ride about 3times a week, I have taken horse to clinics and the beach, camps and rallies. Its been fun and Ive learned so much. He is NOT an easy horse, but its always been a very therapeutic relationship.
About 18mths ago, owner moved in with boyf and rented out her house. She also moved boys to a new yard which is lovely with great facilities. Its now about a 70min drive for me, each way.
I currently pay £200/m for the share. I also have one lesson a week at £40/hr. I spend a lot on diesel driving to and from the yard, Ive bought tack, rugs and gadgets etc over the years. Not to mention the time I spend in my car.
Over the last 6mths or so, Ive lost connection with this horse. Hes bratty and over attached to his mate. Ive had serious trouble with napping and last week he reared during an argument and I came off, I injured, but it was a nasty shock. Im not nervous around him, I know hes trying (and succeeding) to dominate. Hes fine in the school, but takes real offence to going out alone with me. Its my riding. No one else has any problem. Hes been checked for all sorts. Owner is away til next month, but poopooed suggestions that hes in pain or unwell. I cant do anything with that.
Thing is, Im just not into it now. I dont want to pay the best part of £500/m for a fight that takes up all my time. Like I said, I used to love this, I NEEDED it, but now it makes me pretty resentful. Im starting to feel like its not fair on the horse either. Shes paying someone else to ride her other horse at the moment.
I dont have a written contract, but I dont know how to approach this. Im an adult, so I should be able to have a grown up conversation. But the owner is quite domineering, and shell tell me Im being weak, followed up with having to sell the horse due to finances.
This feels like its kind of a break up with a guy thats just not right for me...so I guess Im asking for relationship guidance!!
I have a TB on share, responded to an ad 4yrs ago expecting to be told I was too novice for this youngster who was OTT and needing full retraining. But I got on well with the owner who has a second OTTTB a little further along in training. So we gayly proceeded and its been a good partnership.
Work takes me away often (hence no horse of my own), but so does owners, so we are supportive of each other. I ride about 3times a week, I have taken horse to clinics and the beach, camps and rallies. Its been fun and Ive learned so much. He is NOT an easy horse, but its always been a very therapeutic relationship.
About 18mths ago, owner moved in with boyf and rented out her house. She also moved boys to a new yard which is lovely with great facilities. Its now about a 70min drive for me, each way.
I currently pay £200/m for the share. I also have one lesson a week at £40/hr. I spend a lot on diesel driving to and from the yard, Ive bought tack, rugs and gadgets etc over the years. Not to mention the time I spend in my car.
Over the last 6mths or so, Ive lost connection with this horse. Hes bratty and over attached to his mate. Ive had serious trouble with napping and last week he reared during an argument and I came off, I injured, but it was a nasty shock. Im not nervous around him, I know hes trying (and succeeding) to dominate. Hes fine in the school, but takes real offence to going out alone with me. Its my riding. No one else has any problem. Hes been checked for all sorts. Owner is away til next month, but poopooed suggestions that hes in pain or unwell. I cant do anything with that.
Thing is, Im just not into it now. I dont want to pay the best part of £500/m for a fight that takes up all my time. Like I said, I used to love this, I NEEDED it, but now it makes me pretty resentful. Im starting to feel like its not fair on the horse either. Shes paying someone else to ride her other horse at the moment.
I dont have a written contract, but I dont know how to approach this. Im an adult, so I should be able to have a grown up conversation. But the owner is quite domineering, and shell tell me Im being weak, followed up with having to sell the horse due to finances.
This feels like its kind of a break up with a guy thats just not right for me...so I guess Im asking for relationship guidance!!