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Ok so i have a girl on my yard who HATES me as i dont do Parelli with my horse ( it really is as petty as that!!)

Its that bad that when i had the vet out a few weeks ago to do x rays,the extention lead wouldnt reach my stable, but hers are the closest to the tack room, and thus the powerpoint, and i asked er if i could borrow her stable for 20 mins, she said no way, i should use my own and if i cant get x rays done thats my problem (which it is, but youd think a normal person would be happy to help a horse in pain??????!!!)

Anyway, this girl has a horse that shes terrified off and NEVER rides. Hes a 6 yr old tb and she asked previously if we knew anyone that might want to part loan him (when we were on speaking terms/ begore it emerged that i dont do parelli)

Ive got a friend who would be perfect for her horse, but i dont know how to go about suggesting it! Shell say no as its my friend, but it would be great for the horse. Any ideas?
 
Can you give your friend the number of the owner and not mention to her that she is your friend until after she has seen the horse?

Or leave a note for the owner with your friends number, just say this person sounds perfect give them a call, again dont mention its your friend!

Its stupid how some people can be so petty.
 
Is your friend a disciple of Parellli? If not, I'd not be recommending to this girl. You might think the friend would be perfect, and perhaps she would. But the owner of the horse probably wouldn't like her anyway if she's not in to parelli -if in fact she doesn't like YOU cos YOU don't with your OWN horse.
 
Sam, just be the bigger person and hand her the number on a piece of paper.

She either follows it up - or she doesn't.

However, if she's that much of Pricsilla evangalist (and you're friend isn't) how will they get on???
 
Your YO should have kicked her backside for her refusing to let you use her stable to have access to the power socket.

With an attitude like that I feel sorry for any animal in her care. Re your friend sharing her horse I wonder quite how easy or difficult that relationship would be if it did go ahead?
 
there's no point in trying to pretend you aren't friends as if she did share the horse then it would come out and things on the yard could get worse.

i'd personally give her the number for your friend and let them sort it out between themselves, if you get involved anymore then it could get nasty!
 
If you think your friend can cope with her as well as her horse, then just hand her the number & what she does from then is up to her. Might be worth chatting to your friend first though to gauge her views on using Parelli, as if that is what the owner is into then that is the way she will want her horse trained. Nothing dispariging in that remark, if I was going to let someone part-loan one of my horses, I would expect them to respect the way I wanted them to handle & ride the horse. It is still my horse after all.
 
Just put all that other messy stuff to one side, be the mature one in this outfit and let her know about this person (be careful not to suggest/recomend them though, just be neutral) and give her the contact number.

Then it's up to her what she thinks or does with the number, least you've been helpful and nobody can knock you for that.

Can't believe someone could be so petty over the use of electic though, when it was needed for something important like the vet, I'm sure she'll feel like an idiot even if she doesn't show it. :rolleyes:
 
I would just give her the number and say person is your friend. However, to be blunt :) your friend will need the patience of a saint to deal with the owner if she is that doolally.

What a cow not to let you use her stable for an injured horse. I would not have had the patience of a saint in that situation and put her in the picture about her own horse :eek: she would probably still be crying now :eek:
 
if she's like that i would keep my friend away and protect her from trouble, your friend will find another horse, why get mixed up with someone who is already a problem to you and showing bad attitudes to other people and lack of concern to horses, don't involve another innocent person and if it goes wrong it could make your situation worse
 
If the girl has an attitude like that, then I wouldn't want my friend getting involved with her-if she's like that with you over Parelli, your friend would probably not having fun loaning from her!!
 
I wouldn't get involved, if it didn't work out then she might twist it to make it look like your fault and things might get even worse.
I am sure your friend will find another horse to share with a nice reasonable person.
 
Personally, after the attitude this girl has shown I would have as little to do with her as possible and I'd think very carefully about getting a friend to loan her horse. If she professes to be into Parelli, but can't handle her horse, then she is no good at it, and her horse will no doubt be totally confused.
 
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