Yet another decision to make..

[grandmaweloveyou]

So I wanted my boy to stay at present yard but it seems because I am leaving said yard that perhaps he might need to now too. Nothing is ever easy it? But I seem to get calls from mums with young children wanting to ride, nothing against that but not really what is best for him or vice versa I wouldnt think, or people that ask me if he is a "weight carrier" then when I politely ask "how much weight will he need to carry" the conversation comes to a halt or people that want to just turn up, pay a bit of money, ride and not help with stable duties? I have read on here for months that people are desperate for safe, low maintenance, bombproof, hassle free pony/horses but alas cant find anyone in the area at all - yes there have been lots of lovely pm's but long distance, do I try the long distance thing? Do I put him out to grass livery for a while? HELP.

 

[Hayleycob]

The summer is comming, hopefully ! Maybe if you have someone who can look after him until the weather is better, then turn him out that will give you a few months to think about what to do.
If you aren't going to be in the country a loan long distance that you trust might be better than a dozy person at your present yard.

 

[Tia]

If you don't mind me asking, how long are you going to be overseas for? If for only a year and then you are returning then I think I would be inclined to find the best possible livery yard, regardless of where it is in the country, and just turn him away for the year. I really wouldn't get into this loan/share thing whilst I was thousands of miles away.....I have heard so many horror stories so would be very wary to even leave the horse with a friend.

I know just how tough it is to come to a decision. I have emigrated 3 times in my life and each time there were horses involved. Apart from when we came to Canada, the other times I chose to find the best possible homes, which I did, and sold the horses. This move was different as the mare in question is my daughters pony - however I did sell my 2 horses, one which was my homebred who I had had for 13 years.

 

[grandmaweloveyou]

thanks for this. in answer to you tia - i am going without my partner who is staying. although we are not together anymore, the boy has been and is being treated as ours rather than just mine so if he goes on loan then she will be the point of contact (my eyes and ears). initially i am going on a 12month visa, coming back mid year to check on her, house and my (our) boy, then back to oz and then if the permanent residency is approved or i land a dream job with sponsorship, i will be in a position to decide if i am staying in oz or coming back to the uk so initially the move for the horse is 12months. its so hard, there are so many reasons why im doing this and the only pulling point is the horse! ive had some lovely people from the forum offer / ask to loan him and i am sure they would be / are perfect, one ive contacted tonight who is probably reading this, its just the distance, i am probably being silly and over cautious but you feel if he is closer to home ((ex)partner(cant get used to saying ex)) he is safer - not strictly so i know! if i turn him away for the year a) will he revert i.e. forget everything ive taught him b) how much work is involved from ex partner ie does she need to check him once.twice a day or less c) will people think i dont care about him anymore?! questions questions.

 

[ISHmad]

You're making HUGE life changes and it's only natural that you want your stunning boy to stay where he is. Maybe subconsciously it could be because when you are in Oz when you think of home everything will be as you left it, if that makes sense.

I'm a firm believer in fate TWH and whatever is meant to be will be. There is no way you would let your boy go anywhere that wasn't the absolute best for him, but naturally the closer to your current home the better for you and for your ex partner.