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Went riding today, and some of the other girls at my stables still aren't being too kind to me :(
I dont see what i've done wrong though :cool:

It's getting to me, i dont know. It's just annoying, I have one lesson a week and I am concentrating more on what they're saying than riding, which i know i shouldnt, as it's ruining my lessons.

Sorry for pointlessness, :(
 
Well i had a bad lesson a few weeks ago and they were laughing and mimicking what i was saying. now whenever i try and talk to them they just ignore me or give me blunt answers. Like i asked one how she did in a dressage test, and she said "1st" then turned away, then said something and laughed with her friend.
It's not me being paranoid, it's actually being said.
 
There are some truly awful people in this world and sometimes you have to wonder if the horsey ones aren't the worst.
If you can rise above it do so, it must be horrible to be them and be such evil people. Try to pity them.
Failing that - can you move yards?
 
Jealousy ;)
Trust me, I've been there!! Now I'm the only original one left on my yard out of them all :D
Next time something is said sweetie, all you need to do is go ":D hiya" and walk on past them with your head held high and concentrate on what you need to do.
Keep it in your head that they are obviously envious of somethig you have, or (more likely by the sounds of it!) the way you ride. Don't try and get too "in" with them, just be civil - once their "clique" notice they are getting no reaction they'll begin to turn on one another and it falls apart they'll probably fall over themselves to talk to you and want to be friends.
Don't let it spoil your lessons :(
K x
 
I could do if i wanted, but i've been going there for 7 years and i love it. Planning on keeping a horse there if i get one, hoping to make some other friends up there, if not, I'm just going to have to deal with it
 
Aww, if I were you, I would just smile sweetly and ignore them. Be nice but don't bother with them if that makes sense. try and make friends with someone/people who appreciate you for who you are and make you feel good not like poop.

But don't ever let these negative people bring you down. People who are nasty and rude to others, usually have insecurities. Ignore it and know your worth! :)
 
i remember (a hundred years ago:) ) when I used to help at my local stables, before getting a horse, a similar thing happened. I wanted to go coz I was horse mad, but would come home in tears. So I stopped helping out for while, just paid for my usual lesson and went home. Eventually I started spending the day there again and we all got on fine, i'm 36 now and one lass who was pretty mean to me is now one of my best mates....we were young girls and stupid, we grew up and became friends and still are after 20+ years:) maybe take a break, have your lessons and leave em alone. The green eyed monster comes up from time to time, and it hurts when you're just trying to be nice. Rise above it, take a deep breath and be civil, you will be the better person at the end of the day.
 
So next time you see them, take a good look and then image what they would look like, say with no cloths on;)! or covered in horsemuck! ;)bouncing around on their ponies with no stirrups!;) face full of zits!.:cool::cool: I know it hurts that they are being spitefull to you, but shallowness in the person, means they will be shallow for the rest of their lives and it will show:cool::cool::cool:
 
Sadly the world of horses can be filled with jealousy and cliques (sp). Try not to let others bother you and go and enjoy what you do. As others have said rise above it, smile and say hello and leave it at that. At they say, "theres nowt queerer than folk" Sometimes people cant have a normal conversation on a yard without it having a bitchy element attached. Dont let them get to you, life is too short. xx
 
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