A bit evil

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There's 2 people on my yard who go for a 2 hour hack together every morning.
There's another livery on my yard, she's 14 I think, and has no confidence due to a couple of bad falls before I met her.
She asked if she could go with them on a hack, don't know what the reply was but one of the two that go out was talking to me after and was saying that no way was the 14 year old going with them as 'she won't canter' she then altered this to say 'if she comes she'll have to either hold her horse at bottom or canter with us, because we aren't going without a canter'
I just thought that was a bit mean, imo it wouldn't be hard to have one hack without cantering if she doesn't feel confident enough.
Since then she has asked me if I can go hacking with her, I've said yes though it will probs not be until saturday.
Nickie
 
yes it is a bit mean of them. obviously they have their routine and dont want to change for anyone. Doubt shed manage to hold her horse if they canter off and leave her.

good for you for saying she can go out with you. shell probably love it and enjoy every moment and maybe get some confidence up for next time, then in no time shell have the upper hand on the two meanines
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That is mean! We have all sorts come hacking with us (myself included in that!) but as we go out more they get more confident and we can do more/go further together. There's no need to be rude to novices/people who lack confidence...just be patient and give them and chance and then you can all have fun!
 
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Deffo mean, that's how most learnt from having people you could ride with and would "look after you" and go at your speed til you confidence grew. I did after 20 years out of riding, i had some lovely people when i was at livery that would ride with me while my confidence grew.
I hope they never lose their confidence and want someone to help them out
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Bigger BOOOOOOOOOOOOO the more i think about it.
 
LOL! I think calling them evil is a little extreme. I wouldn't like to have to babysit a nervous child when I go for my usual hack.
 
Agree that calling them evil is pushing it a bit! However, I have benefitted from lots of people babysitting me when i was nervous, so if someone wanted to come out with me to build their confidence up I'd be quite happy to take them out (though its never likely to happen as my horse can be a bit funny in company, and is probably the last thing you'd want to go out with if you were nervous already)
 
Im not far off 15 and have a confidence issue and my mum wont let me out on a hack without being with me on a bike ! even though our liv. yard is on a country lane, one day when im confident enough ill go by myself
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but the girl in your advert will never gain confidence without going on hacks so i agree it was mean to say that about her
 
Very mean - I hope the girl finds someone kind to hack out with , before she begins to think about giving up .

When I was 16 , ( long time ago
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) , I'd just left school & used to go hacking with the ' Housewife Group ' as the R/S called them . I was longing to canter , but the woman behind me begged me not to - so I didn't although I wanted to !
 
Hmm, I can see both sides here. I used to do alot of nanning with my previous horse she was a super hack and any time someone was nervous it was always suggested that they go out with me. I was normally asked in front of the person putting me in a position where I couldnt say no. Now I will nanny/help anybody for the short term but the reality with alot of nervous riders is that they will always be nervous and 6 months down the line they are still hacking out with you, as they trust your horse and wont hack with anybody else. I used to compete the horse in question and she was also a good doer so she needed lots of work and hacking with nervous people nomally involved lots of stopping and waiting on my part and def no cantering or longer hacks that involved a "scary" bit. Now after a while this would get annoying. I now have a young horse and none of the people who I used to nanny will hack with me as my horse is nuts apparently when the reality is that all she needs is a bit of nanning!!
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I understand not wanting to go out with a nervous person every time but she's at school a lot of the time when they go out, so she'd only go out with them once or twice, so hardly going to hold them back.
She's going to come out with me and Roo next time I go out, and I'll let her decide where we go and how fast.
Nickie
 
I think it is a shame that they won't let her go with them just once or even twice, but I suspect she might end up in tears if she did, so luckily she has someone nice like you to take her out occasionally.
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sorry but my time to exercise my pone is precious- particularly as the nights are now drawing in so weekends are only time to get some proper miles in and he needs cantering to stay fit enough for competing. I am happy for anyone to join us but they must also be happy to go our speed.

I also wouldn't be happy taking responsibilty for a nervous minor.
 
Ester: I understand if you need to keep them fit for competition, and as you say the nights are drawing in, however these two don't compete and do go hacking every day.
And I don't believe it would be taking responsibility, she may only be 14, but she is in charge of her pony, not me.
Nickie
 
thats a bit diff then, I will happily help friends out and have done but but prefer to sort things out in advance so I can plan our work.

the 14 thing still bothers me, if just me and her and unusually frank was a tit and I fell off I don't think that would do a nervous youngster any good but I have always been wary of taking younger people out with me unless I was working, or if I know they are capable.
 
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