A heartfelt thank you - and a quick update . . .

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First, a heartfelt thank you to all those of you who took the time to either post or PM me your messages of support and kindness . . . they meant more than you know.

A quick update . . . the FB nonsense seems to have eased, but there is still a nasty atmosphere at the yard itself. There were pointed/snide comments made just this evening. The good news is that many (make that most) of the other liveries are being perfectly pleasant and some are going out of their way to let me know that they have heard what's going on and want to make sure I'm alright - which is lovely. YO's wife had a quiet word with me yesterday evening to say that she had heard (I didn't tell her) and would be "dealing with it" . . . quite what that means I don't know, I just hope it doesn't come back on me.

The latest bashing is directed more at my horse . . . he's a liability, he's naughty, he's a bully, he's a donkey (only I'm allowed to call him that!) . . . the very idea that he's a bully is a joke . . . he is kept firmly at the bottom of the pecking order in that herd - he can't even roll without being told to get up/moved on by one or both of the other two . . . yes, he is a lively boy, but he's not nasty, and he is often picked on/backed into corners by one or both of the other two.

So . . . I am looking for another yard . . . I am taking my time, though, we're in no hurry, and we may still end up staying where we are . . . I'm taking the wise advice of my wonderful youngest daughter (she's 14) who told me to think carefully before I either acted or spoke.

So . . . thanks again :). Sometimes HHO is an incredibly supportive, wonderful place . . .

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I must have missed your previous post, but i'm very glad to hear that it will hopefully be sorted out, and your YO is happy to intervene.

Hope it all blows over very quickly now.
 
Haven't a clue what's been going on for you, but hope it clears up soon.

It might not have been a good idea for you to put on here that you are looking for another yard if your current YO knows what is going on, she may well see this and ask you to leave or something.

Anyway, hope whatever it is sorts itself out sooner rather than later.
 
also must have missed your previous post but am pleased for you that you have a supportive YO who doesn't seem to be listening to the gossip and is willing to help sort whatever it is that is happening!

your daughter gives very good advise!
 
Glad youre getting it sorted out, id wait and see the outcome of the yo talk with them before thinking of moving on. Frying pan and fire comes to mind ;)
As for it coming back to you ..... Theyre the ones who've been shouting the odds, bullying and exacerbating the problem, so theyve only got themselves to blame.
 
Missed what's been going on with FB although sounds like someone has been giving you a hard time. :( Hope you're ok and are able to ignore comments from the morons concerned :)
 
i seem to have missed your post too and can't even search as i'm getting the 'busy' page when i try:rolleyes: too many of us trying to search lol;)
glad it seems to be getting sorted though:)
 
I'm glad you're feeling better about the situation. I read your previous thread and really felt for you.

It sounds like most of the other yard folk are aware of what is going on and are on your side. Take your time looking for a new yard, remain civil (great advice from your daughter) and maybe they will be moved on before you find anywhere!!

I don't think a horse can be a bully and a donkey at the same time lol. Your poor boy I hope he's blissfully ignorant of everything that's going on.

Big hugs.

Jx
 
It will fizzle out, it always does, and if yo's misses is on your side, then it will die down a lot quicker. Have you swopped fields yet ?

Why should you be the one to move ? -
 
PS your such a nice person you shouldn't be made to feel like this. Have you shown the YO the details on FB ? I would also point out to the YO why no-one wants to swap with you and go into their field.

They are making out that your the trouble maker but people wouldn't be sharing with you, they would be sharing with the real trouble maker.

I know how much hard work you have put into Kai- I used to be on another forum you were on. You haven't had an easy time of it all.

Is there any way that the YO if pointed out the full details would ask her to leave ? Or on the other hand I've been on a yard when the YO was ruled by a few people and it was living hell. I would cry all the way home and feel sick the whole way there but don't jump ship and then beat yourself up about it if yu could hang it out and she would be asked to leave.
 
finally got to read the thread, wow PS you should be damn proud of yourself that you haven't lost the plot with this woman and knocked her foul mouth into next week, :eek: I'm pretty slow to anger these days but that would have set me off i think:o
Whilst i think it's sad you have to leave because of a fellow livery, who seems to make a habit of bullying her field mates, i can totally understand why you want to go. if the YO can't put her in her place after something like this then he never will and by staying you leave yourself open to more of this type of behaviour.
I hope you manage to find somewhere peaceful where you can enjoy the grey donk, and in the meantime i hope the bully leaves you alone.x
 
ApacheWarlord said:
I must have missed your previous post, but i'm very glad to hear that it will hopefully be sorted out, and your YO is happy to intervene.

Hope it all blows over very quickly now.
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^this^

PS I completely missed this one and am sorry you are having a vile time at the moment, but it is good to hear that your YO is being supportive and taking action and moreover that she appears to have gone out of her way to approach you and reassure you x
 
Boxers said:
Haven't a clue what's been going on for you, but hope it clears up soon.

It might not have been a good idea for you to put on here that you are looking for another yard if your current YO knows what is going on, she may well see this and ask you to leave or something.

Anyway, hope whatever it is sorts itself out sooner rather than later.
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Thank you for your kind words . . . I have been straight with YOs about looking for somewhere else . . . I've been a good livery and they don't want to lose me (or the £££££) so it's unlikely they'll chuck me off . . . in fact YO's wife's interjection is by way of encouraging me to stay.

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LeannePip said:
also must have missed your previous post but am pleased for you that you have a supportive YO who doesn't seem to be listening to the gossip and is willing to help sort whatever it is that is happening!

your daughter gives very good advise!
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Thank you . . . and, yes, she does. Bless her :).

P
 
marydoll said:
Glad youre getting it sorted out, id wait and see the outcome of the yo talk with them before thinking of moving on. Frying pan and fire comes to mind ;)
As for it coming back to you ..... Theyre the ones who've been shouting the odds, bullying and exacerbating the problem, so theyve only got themselves to blame.
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Well, yes, I'm looking but also keeping a weather eye on what's going on where I am. We'll see what happens once YO's wife has had her say. Must admit I'm holding my breath a little.

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wallykissmas said:
PS your such a nice person you shouldn't be made to feel like this. Have you shown the YO the details on FB ? I would also point out to the YO why no-one wants to swap with you and go into their field.

They are making out that your the trouble maker but people wouldn't be sharing with you, they would be sharing with the real trouble maker.

I know how much hard work you have put into Kai- I used to be on another forum you were on. You haven't had an easy time of it all.

Is there any way that the YO if pointed out the full details would ask her to leave ? Or on the other hand I've been on a yard when the YO was ruled by a few people and it was living hell. I would cry all the way home and feel sick the whole way there but don't jump ship and then beat yourself up about it if yu could hang it out and she would be asked to leave.
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YO knows why no'one wants to swap . . . and tbh people have different reasons, not just that they don't want to be in a field with the other two (although that is a factor for a couple of them). I don't want the YO to ask the other two to leave . . . that's a step too far IMHO . . . I just want the nonsense to stop.

Thank you for your kind words :).

P
 
atlantis said:
I'm glad you're feeling better about the situation. I read your previous thread and really felt for you.

It sounds like most of the other yard folk are aware of what is going on and are on your side. Take your time looking for a new yard, remain civil (great advice from your daughter) and maybe they will be moved on before you find anywhere!!

I don't think a horse can be a bully and a donkey at the same time lol. Your poor boy I hope he's blissfully ignorant of everything that's going on.

Big hugs.

Jx
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Hey - thanks. Loved the above comments about being a bully and a donkey ;). My horse is used to being bottom of his present herd and knows how to get out of the way . . . he's happy enough so I'm not too worried about him.

Re sides . . . I really don't want folks at my yard to take "sides" . . . that's half the problem . . . there shouldn't be any sides - what has happened ought to be between us as fieldmates (at a maximum) or just me and S (at a minimum).

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Ibblebibble said:
finally got to read the thread, wow PS you should be damn proud of yourself that you haven't lost the plot with this woman and knocked her foul mouth into next week, :eek: I'm pretty slow to anger these days but that would have set me off i think:o
Whilst i think it's sad you have to leave because of a fellow livery, who seems to make a habit of bullying her field mates, i can totally understand why you want to go. if the YO can't put her in her place after something like this then he never will and by staying you leave yourself open to more of this type of behaviour.
I hope you manage to find somewhere peaceful where you can enjoy the grey donk, and in the meantime i hope the bully leaves you alone.x
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Why thank you! Losing the plot is not my style . . . I hate confrontation and it doesn't serve any purpose. I'd much rather we had discussed what happened just the two of us and dealt with it from there . . . however, we are where we are. Also, to be fair, the previous livery who left our field was driven out by the other fieldmate, not the person I am currently crossing swords with . . . but I don't think S is entirely blameless either. S and T together are a force to be reckoned with.

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