EmmasMummy
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They have now started in nursery up here - for 3 years olds - discussing foods and weight etc. Now I do not mind this, but the last 4 weeks have been a pain as she will ask if EVERYTHING has sugar in it, then cry if it does as she cant eat it........queue MASSIVE tantrum when we replied that milk as sugar in it. I have tried to take it further than the nursery have in explaining the good and bad fats and sugars but she will not have it and takes the nurserys teachings as gospel. A few of the parents are angry as - only the girls by the way! - came home and complained they were fat and could not have any dinner or they would get fatter. This included my daighter...........whos ribs and backbone I can see and is not a 'fat' child (nor is she super skinny but there is nothing to grab of her).
Unfortunately it takes group involvement.............as in my OH and try healthy eating, then his mother arrives and OMG, its like a freaking dustbin. And LO sees this and thinks its ok.......I mean the woman ate 4/5ths a block of butter from thurs to Monday afternoon........I dont even eat that in 6 weeks...but then blames her 'steroids' on her weight. And she gives LO chocolate and sweets EVERY day when she is here. I said before LO is not fat.......however I can see from 5 days of MIL being here LO has a fat face as she has eaten god knows how much crap. I try to hide it and say no but MIL gives it to her when we are not looking..........grrrrrrrrrr.
I was a fat child. My dad gave us all offshore portions of food, which we HAD to finish. Even though I spent the majority of my childhood outside I was always overweight.........at 10 yrs old I was 5ft4 and 10 stone. My mother was the same in her youth but now struggles to get any weight about 8stone.
OH thinks I am lax if I dont make LO eat all her dinner.......but I dont want her to eat past her comfort point. If she is hungry later then tough, she gets her milk before bed then the next day she can eat more of her meals if she is hungry.
Im currently obese...im 19stone and 33 weeks pregnant...........I have only put on 4lbs since I found out I am pregnant and putting on any more scares me so I hardly eat (well have no appetite or space for it anyway!). I need to get back to my healthy pre DD1 weight of 12 stone (which I am aware is still large for a 5ft 6.5 person, but any lower and I end up with continually ill)
) what if there are girls out there who are so easily influenced by what they see, like I was? 
) but if I look in a glossy womens mag I am overcome by guilt and horror and disgust at the way I look! They make me feel fat and horribly ugly! 
If its convenience food people want why don't they just spend 20 mins in the morning shoving stuff in a slow cooker, job done - thats convenient!
Are you some self appointed moderator telling us what we can and cannot discuss? For someone who doesn't seem to give a fig about how much weight horses should have to carry, you are spending an awful amount of time on these threads.
That whether you are thin or fat, that's your business and nothing to do with a single other person. And that women ought to be supporting each other, rather than ripping each other apart over patriarchal beauty standards.
to which she constantly reminds us of!