A man vs horsey lifestyle?

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Have just got into riding and just met a wonderful guy but non-horsey. I'm afraid that I will have to choose between one and the other because he has no interest in horses and I cannot imagine anything working in the long term because of this issue.

Have you had the same dilemna? What did you do?
 
Why wouldn't it work?
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My OH is non horsey, he doesn't get it... but I don't get his hobbies either
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Never been a problem...

But anyway

If it was a choice between new bf and horses then horses would win, but if current OH decided to make me choose (very unlikely
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) then he would win.
 
If he truly loves you, he will accept your hobby. If he is a control freak and wants you to give up your hobby, then get rid of him as things will only get worse after you get married (if you end up with him). This is a valuable life lesson I learned from my mum.

My OH is not horsey but knows this is my "thing". I don't tell him to give up his computers or sailing!
 
Hey, I don't understand... can you not have your own interests? Does your new man have no interests of his own? That sounds very unhealthy for a start, sorry. My OH is not horsey and has taken years to accept how much riding and my horse means to me but we are still a great couple...?!?
 
Put paid to my relationship after 2 years! I was finding myself short of time (balancing uni, horse, working part time to fund horse, squash and the man) and realised something had to go... ie the man in my life. For me it didn't work, I thought it would, I wanted it to but when it came down to the choice between a night out with my fellah or an early start to get my horse ready for a comp or simply an early start to do the horse (pt job as a groom) then the horse won hooves down every time. I realised it wasn't far on him and so ended it.
 
I agree with the others - if someone was making those sort of demands on me at the start of the realtionship what else are they going to demand you give up? I'm afraid at my advanced age (!) any man who comes into my life has to accept my horses and dogs as part of me and my life - as with all things there is a compromise and in return I have had to accept, in no particular order, their children, ex wives, formula 1, football, golf etc etc Having different interests is healthy and I learnt a long time ago if you shrink your world for a man it can be a lonely place when you are on your own. There are men out there who will accept you for who you are and the interests/hobbies you have.

In the end it really is only a desicion you can make as it is your life.
 
My Oh still takes the pee a little out of me horse riding (after six and a half years) and still sometimes refers to my horse as a donkey (I don't really mind - I like donkeys!).

I give it back about his sports though, stupid golf, and riding things with two wheels that you have to pedal - how stupid is that?!
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I think if you have an interest, then your partner has to have one too - whatever it is, otherwise the relationship can be suffocating. My friends wife has no interests, and now he spends his weekends baby sitting her instead of taking part in interests that he enjoyed pre-marriage (not pre-relationship however, she is the original ball and chain
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Why would you have to choose? A lot of men (most in fact) are non horsey, my b/f is so not into horses but it doesnt bother him that i am, at the end of the day i'm not into rugby or football but he wouldn't finish with me because of that.

If he doesn't like it that you like horses then get rid as noone should be able to tell you what you can and can't like.
 
My OH developed a very sweet relationship with my horse - on the ground they are great friends but OH has problems riding him because horse knows he is inexperienced and gives him no respect! OH now rides mental 22 yo mare that we were given and they are hilarious together - she does her own thing and he hangs on! OH's hobbies include running, football and Moto GP as well. I suppose I'm lucky tho' we've been together 20 years and for the last 6 years we have spent virtually every day together working or not!

I think it's good that couples have separate hobbies, there is no reason why you can't both do your own thing.
 
My BF hates horses
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He has grumbled a bit since I got Tara but I cheerfully told him he could either pay for full livery or shut his yap and leave me to continue doing DIY; he quickly stopped moaning
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Actually it's more that I think he doesn't understand the vortex of time that appears when I leave him and go to competitions - they are very long days and take up a lot of the weekend so I see his point.

However, he has his football and sailing etc which I hate and I think it's healthy to have separate lives.
 
Ditto what others have said.
Has bf mentioned horse being a problem?
Horse wins.OH knows I would resent him for it so relationship doomed anyway so be as well keeping horse to begin with
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OH wasn't horsey when I met him but is pretty good with them now.
Different getting rid of horses for dire finacial reasons but not just cos OH wants me to.
 
My boyfriend also not into horses but he has bought a motorbike so encouraging him to go out on that more while I go competing to keep him occupied! He is also allergic to horses which is pretty unfortunate. I was going out with him for a few years before I got my pony. He gets a bit fed up if I go to a show both sat and sun or every weekend so try not to go competing too much but if there is a show I want to go to I'll go to it.
 
So to take it to its illogical conclusion, every woman or man with a horse has a horsy partner or is single? I would be questioning how wonderful he is if right at the start of the relationship you are so incompatible that you are contemplating a major life change.
 
If I had to choose - then give up the man!

It's good to have different hobbies and as others have said if he's complaining at the start of a relationship then either get him riding or let someone else have him and find someone who loves you for who you are and what you do.
 
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