a message to everyone else on the brink of chucking it in

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Having had a fairly torrid time with serious confidence issues with my horse and bitching at the yard and was about to sell my horse as I felt it was an irretreivable situation and I was so unhappy. I decided to just stop taking it seriously and try and have some fun while I still had him - we tried a trec training day and won - on my 16.3 anything but handy pony cart horse, did our first novice dressage - just because it didnt matter any more and got 60%. and best of all found a lovely track through the woodsand had the best long canter out on him ever. I love spending time with him again and enjoy going to see him. less worried about what other people say and am really glad I had my 'final fling'. I would just say if it is all going wrong stop trying so hard. I never beleived it could be fun again.
 
Good for you :)

Nice to hear a positive post and happy outcome. Long may it continue for you!
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wonderful post - and i so agree with you.
Ive decided to stop the lessons for a while and just enjoy my horse - ive also made a concrete decision to stop clicking on every link referring to terrible road accidents, general horsey woes and just enjoy being a rider with my boy.
Of course i keep safety in mind - hi viz etc but i do think i have been reading far too much "what ifs and what can happens" - when i was a kid I jumped on and went and have survived to tell the tale!!!!
Good for you and ty for sharing - excellent xxx
 
What a great post, so inspiring, thank you. Lots of us in your situation and that is just the kind of gentle kick up the bum we need, its all about the enjoyment and love of our horses and it should be fun. Well done you, long may your new found confidence last, and hopefully the same for a few more of us!
 
I have just been talking on the phone to my friend who was on the edge of selling her boy and I have advised her to do almost exactly what you did so I have text her to read your post as I think it will give her a bit of belief!

Well done you and thanks for posting :)
 
I have decided to chuck it in after two years trying to get somewhere with mine. II go home after every ride depressed. GLad you had a good experience, sometimes I think when you say to hell with it you turn a corner.
 
That's lovely to hear, I think sometimes we all get caught up in way too much, its stops us from seeing the simple pleasant things what we already have in front of our very eyes.
 
Good for you! It's amazing the amount of people who let their worries get in the way of having fun. I was in the exact same situation with my horse 18 months ago. My confidence was rock bottom, the yard was so bitchy, my horse was a git and I broke my arm. I decided on a fresh start as a LAST resort before I sold my boy. I even wrote his advert. I moved to my friends farm, just me and her. She encouraged me, gave me moral support and I joined the riding club with her. My confidence and enjoyment of my horse has gone from strength to strength, I started jumping again (and got rosettes to prove it!), did my first xc and went hunting. Neither of us give a monkeys what anyone thinks of our riding or our horses, we just get on and have a right laugh. Our horses are happy too. We even take our horses to dressage comps at the old bitchy yard and do you know what? They are all nice as pie to us, and we do a heck of a lot more with our horses than they do!
A great message to everyone - Horses are FUN, we are very privileged to have them so ENJOY!!!
 
I think its so easy to over analsye what we do and why we do it, and then great cross with our selves when we don't get it right. And its always to easyier to ride a horse when you are stood on the floor and it not your horse!
I have seen the post appaling incorrect riding ( like my spelling) out hunting by riders who have ridden for years but they just get on with it and have fun. I think in our efforts to be better, and lets face it most of us are ladies and we always assume its something we've done wrong, we sometime lose the joy of just poddling along and enjoying the moment like kids do.
Well done to you for breaking the pattern and getting the enjoyment back.
 
I totally agree with this. I decided a few months ago to stop worrying about how bad I am at riding and what people must think of me. As soon as I changed my way of thinking everything became much more fun! I went on a TREC camp last month and even went out on the XC course, which for me was a HUGE deal. We had the most amazing time and learnt so much. The best thing about it was that we had fun.
I now look at my horse everyday and tell myself how lucky I am because as a little girl it was my dream to own my own beautiful horse and now I've got her.
 
Glad you gave it another go! Gingabella i totally agree with the non reading of horsey woes and abuse! The amount of times i click on a link on H and h to see a disturbing image then im devastated for ages.
 
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