A mini CC rant :(

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I posted a thread of my riding the horse of my life and recieved the most vile PM stating how unhappy my horse looked and basically i had no right to be riding her etc as i clearly couldnt ride a donkey. :(

I always ask for CC as i have a disability and i know my short commings, i injury my leg badly in a horse related inccident and as such my i am very nervous. I am not really supposed to ride but as long as i dont jump/xc etc i can school. Delicia was bought for me before my accident and was my strenght throughout the darkest times. I have spent hours crying in nerves before evening being able to be within 10 metres of her. It took a year before i would groom her and two years before i got back on her. Even then the first day she spooked at something and as i was being led to the horse she bolted through me and shoved me to the ground.

My mother wanted to sell her as she would be wasted as a pet, but i couldnt bare to be parted and so through gritty determination i learnt to ride again. I have been riding for 2 years now on and off, i have only really been cantering this year.

Delicia is not a novice ride. She broncs, rears and bolts off if allowed to. But she is my horse, and as stupid as it sounds, i love and trust her. Together we have built a partnership but she is sharp and sensitive. I know the theroy and i have tried her in snaffles. But the last time i rode in one she bolted for 20 mins and then fell down a ditch with me on top. If i had hurt my leg again they would ampuate above the knee. I all most sold her. I even wrote the advert out but i could print it off as i kept crying. So i found another trainer, stuck a bigger bit in her mother and with the help of my mothers stenght i got back on and walked her for about 3 months, a little bit of trot here and there but not a lot.

Today was the first day in ages i have enjoyed riding my horse again. Were i have felt safe and in control, and where i wasnt scared any more.

I am all for CC, i know there is a lot i need to learn and there is a wealth of knowledge on this forum. But my horse is my life. I have nursed her through two grave injuries that could have resulted in her being PTS and a very rare infection which she almost gave up on life with. I have placed her in the hands of others and watch overs with green eyes do what i so wish i could. I have cried into her mane at what an idiot i feel when my leg wont do what it wants and people ask me why i was bought a push button horse i cant ride. i wish! I bought delicia as a just backed 3 year old. I have brought her on and what i achieve with her is done to me and a team of great friends.

I must say i am rather upset at someone telling me my horse is being abused and i am an incapable rider. I use these threads to help me with my self confidence, and tbh, despte some fantastic comments i have recieved and some helpful hints, i wish i hadnt bothered.

I owe everything to my horse, her strenght carried me when i stumbled, and she has earnt a home for life. I would never abuse her or any animal.

Sorry for the rant but i needed to say this :(
 
:( poor you! Some people really can be horrible, I think the 'horsey world' can be quite nasty in general, and there really is no need for it!

I hope you don't mind but I looked at a couple of your pics and your horse is beautiful! Ignore the negative comments, sounds like you have come on leaps and bounds which is something you should be proud of! X
 
Well i hope whoever sent you the pm is reading this!
That is very sly and underhand, and also cowardly to pm you, they werent brave anough to say it in front of everyone.
Easy for me to say, but take no notice of them, you'v been through the mill, and are very brave to get back on and ride!
 
Take no notice (easier said than done) but, there are some v odd people lurking even on HHO, they just get off on sending cruel PM's. Doesn't mean they actually believe what they wrote, they just want the reaction

Take no notice hun, you are very brave and are doing a great job with Delicia and deserve a huge pat on the back, not a kicking. FWIW she didn't look remotely unhappy to me.
 
someone high and mighty behind their keyboard! There is really no need, just ignore it.
You sound like you've came on leaps and bounds and you seem very determined- keep going and disregard any negative comments. :)
 
Oldmare- i dont think she is unhappy, now i am doubting myself, but i think the horse prefers two bits which i dont hold on to at all or one which i hold on to for dear life!

Muchadoaboutnothing - i know i am being silly, normally i ignore people like that, but this person just hit a nerve. Particuarly as im very proud of delicia and i have recieved some great feedback.
 
You've been through such alot and that person had no right to say that. There are far more many nice people on here than there are nasty ones. You don't need the opinion of someone that nasty at all, rely on what the decent people tell you! *hugs*
 
some people should get a life.

I saw the post (though didn't reply) and would never have known you don't have full control of your leg - your riding looks good to me, and Delicia is a lovely lovely horse. It looks like you have a very good relationship with her, and that you both enjoy what you're doing.

to have got this far is incredible from what you say in your OP - keep it up, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

P.s.... chin up - look where you want to go!
 
That is awful and extremely sly to pm you! You shoudnt have to feel the need to justify yourself like that, especially not on a forum!
I hope whoever it was reads post and apologises as they are right out of line!
I also hope you continue to build your confidence and don't let people like that put you off :)
 
MrsMozart said:
Name and shame.

And ignore the pm.
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I agree with MrsM.... there is absolutely no need for that kind of behaviour! Only one reason why they would put it in a PM, and that's because they know they would get ripped to shreds by others on the forum if they'd posted it on the thread.

Chin up, ignore the spineless coward!!
 
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As above - ignore it all, I looked at the thread and thought your girl is absolute stunning and you most importantly yous look like a fantastic partnership. I actually thought that she looked like she was really enjoying her work. If I can get my boy working like your beautiful girl in even three years I'll be elated. Also, if my position was as good as yours in canter I'd be out celebrating!

Cowardly and vicious to PM you, obviously if they couldn't say it in the thread they knew it was untrue (would've been ripped apart by everyone else).
 
What a shame they did not have the guts to post their remarks on the open forum where others could comment on them.
Keep your chin up, you have done wonders to even get back in the saddle.. that took guts, something your critic obviously lacks.
 
Said person is probably lacking in many areas, so puts other ppl down to make themself feel better! So many self righteous ppl around especially in forums, I have a tortoise and mooch about in that forum, some of those ppl are horrid too and think their way or the highway

You look like a great partnership



:p to the gutless pm errrr
 
Im not going to name and shame because i am the better person here :P

They are a spineless bully and as my mum says, the way to beat a bully like that is to beat them in a competition :D
 
Ignore them! I've just looked at your CC thread & she doesn't look unhappy, a little tense maybe, but as you said that you are not very confident I expect she is picking up on this slightly.
Keep up with the good work & I hope you both manage to build your confidence together :)

p.s she's a fantastic looking mare! :D
 
Ignor the pm.
They dont have the guts to say it in an open forum.
I'd be very tempted to follow MrsMozarts advice and name and shame.
Kx
 
jenki13 said:
Ignore them! I've just looked at your CC thread & she doesn't look unhappy, a little tense maybe, but as you said that you are not very confident I expect she is picking up on this slightly.
Keep up with the good work & I hope you both manage to build your confidence together :)

p.s she's a fantastic looking mare! :D
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With a pleb like me on board, no wonder she looks tense :P mind you, was very windy today and the door to the judges hut kepts banging. Its all about building blocks and i think i have come on so much

what i was like

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and now

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Black horse shut your ears to them now- I suffer low esteem I find it so hard to ride in front of ppl - yep ok i can ride ( told im good ) but I hate bitchy ppl - words of thumpers mum " if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all" I have sat at ring side and listened over years i have sat at the yard an just think sometimes you horrid people - i wont ride my 2 now ( my mare was dangerous unrideable but boy till her sight bad went we had a blast:) lol ) through horrid people - you have a soul mate you have a friend you love riding come on get in saddle smile and think " do you know what how good am i " and laugh :) narrow minded people are jealous hun :) xxxx bigggggggggggggggggggggg hugssssssssssssssss
 
babymare said:
Black horse shut your ears to them now- I suffer low esteem I find it so hard to ride in front of ppl - yep ok i can ride ( told im good ) but I hate bitchy ppl - words of thumpers mum " if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all" I have sat at ring side and listened over years i have sat at the yard an just think sometimes you horrid people - i wont ride my 2 now ( my mare was dangerous unrideable but boy till her sight bad went we had a blast:) lol ) through horrid people - you have a soul mate you have a friend you love riding come on get in saddle smile and think " do you know what how good am i " and laugh :) narrow minded people are jealous hun :) xxxx bigggggggggggggggggggggg hugssssssssssssssss
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Thank you hun. Yes the ring side of the collecting ring is NOT a nice place to be! My mother has heard many a sarky comment about me and delicia, but luckily she just ignore them or says 'yes well i am sure my daughter would let you get on and show her how to do it properly, why dont you ask?' :P
 
I expect they are jealous of your lovely horse who is a dream.

Hope you told them to feck right off back into their cave.

Idiots. You clearly love Delicia to pieces, you are always having lessons and stuff with her and working hard. And she is clearly pampered and happy. So sod them, and carry on what you're doing.
 
She's a lovely horse. It looks like you're getting a nice tune out of her & you're all set to improve - dream situation!

Did the original PM actually say your horse was being abused & you couldn't ride a donkey? If so that's despicable. However I have seen genuinely well intended advice be taken the wrong way on here, could it be you have (naturally & understandably) had an emotional reaction? Maybe you could post the PM here (minus the authors name - I think it's bad form to do that unless to a mod).
 
gugglebum said:
She's a lovely horse. It looks like you're getting a nice tune out of her & you're all set to improve - dream situation!

Did the original PM actually say your horse was being abused & you couldn't ride a donkey? If so that's despicable. However I have seen genuinely well intended advice be taken the wrong way on here, could it be you have (naturally & understandably) had an emotional reaction? Maybe you could post the PM here (minus the authors name - I think it's bad form to do that unless to a mod).
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The pm stated i had no right to be on the back of any horse if i couldnt do the simplest of tasks as to sit up in the saddle. That i was lucky i hadnt lamed my horse through my appauling ridding and it was tantamount to abuse the way the horse is so uncomfortable in the mouth. etc etc.

I didnt reply to the PM because i wasnt going to let the person think they got to me....but i ended up writing this instead. I have had some fantastic feedback on here and some brilliant CC, both good and bad. I am no GP rider, and i never profess to be, and i think i take all CC in good stead.
 
I totally agree with the name and shame.

Looks like you're doing incredibly well all things considered. I had a bad accident a couple of weeks ago with a share horse and I've given up riding for a few years after bad news from the doctors. I admire that you're in the same situation yet you've carried on going. Don't let the person who sent you a PM get to you, they probably just wanted to start some drama.
 
I believe I commented on that thread.
I thought you both looked confident and happy. Yes tense at times but much better then previous threads as I have followed your progress.
You are by no means a bad rider! You had certain things that need fine tuning but then don't we all! I have a daemonic left hand that looks like people have zapped it with electricity :D
Ignore what they think, they are jealous of your beautiful beautiful mare!
 
rquestrianabbie - i am sorry to hear that and wish you all the luck in the world :(

Damnation - yes you commented and it was a lovely comment, highlighted my good and not so good areas, a perfect CC :P
 
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