the watcher
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Quite simply he needs to change his personal number and then with hold it on every call. None of this is rocket science.
AAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHH for god sake!!!
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AmyMay
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Now this is why i am soooo annoyed!! A member of his family does the answering of calls, books him in etc etc, but some still end up with his number!! Hes answer is, because its easier for me to give them a call and say il be five mins etc etc! I dont see why its easier, just get the family member to do it! simples!
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But surely there are times when a client needs to talk direct to the farrier - and I certainly expect to have my farriers number.
Now this is why i am soooo annoyed!! A member of his family does the answering of calls, books him in etc etc, but some still end up with his number!! Hes answer is, because its easier for me to give them a call and say il be five mins etc etc! I dont see why its easier, just get the family member to do it! simples!
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But surely there are times when a client needs to talk direct to the farrier - and I certainly expect to have my farriers number.
charlie55
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Exactly!! Which is why he goes to this family members place at least 3 times a day and anyone wanting to speak to him, he calls them back the same day, so it isnt rocket science no, so why doesnt he do it. God nose. xx
AmyMay
Situation normal
Probably because if he's going to a family member 3 times a day - he's not shoeing horses, and loosing money. Far easier to talk to your clients on the hoof so to speak.
Anyway. Good luck to the two of you. I'm even more unclear on what the problems are now - but I'm sure you'll work your way through it.
Anyway. Good luck to the two of you. I'm even more unclear on what the problems are now - but I'm sure you'll work your way through it.
Linz75
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IMHO - if you think there's more to this (and you know him well enough!) - then you have to confront HIM! Its not the girls...
He is no different from most farriers - except the ugly ones! I have not known any of our farriers to be cheats - there was one sh@gger but he was single, so free to do what he wanted, but he did have a notorious reputation with the girls.
I text my farrier & he texts me...when I had an horrific relationship split he text me all night one night, making sure I was alright. He has a girlfriend & maybe she wasn't happy about that (who knows) but I tell you, it meant a hell of a lot to me. I have known this guy for 15yrs+ and consider him one of my friends. I probably even put a X at the end of the texts as well..........
He is no different from most farriers - except the ugly ones! I have not known any of our farriers to be cheats - there was one sh@gger but he was single, so free to do what he wanted, but he did have a notorious reputation with the girls.
I text my farrier & he texts me...when I had an horrific relationship split he text me all night one night, making sure I was alright. He has a girlfriend & maybe she wasn't happy about that (who knows) but I tell you, it meant a hell of a lot to me. I have known this guy for 15yrs+ and consider him one of my friends. I probably even put a X at the end of the texts as well..........
CorvusCorax
Deary me...
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wizzi901
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I always put a text of a x on my farriers messages as I have known him for years, I am happily in relationship with chap 15 younger than me but wouldnt dream of thinking I was flirting.
I feel you have some confidence issues, you could have both had a good laugh about these idiots texting him if maybe you had more confidence in him and yourself? You say he woudlnt dream of anything? Sadly this behaviour goes with the territory.
My OH works for Equestrian Shop delivering all round the local area to the jodhpur clad girles!! - I just have to deal with it, he respects me more for not getting funny about it and I certaintly dont get wound up as I know most of them anyway!!
You cant stop girly idiot behaviour but if you could have dealt with it in a better way you would be the one laughing as i bet he came home to you everynight didnt he???
It sounds more like a trust issue. I get quietly mad occasionally, then I know actually I am pleased they think he is gorgeous, especially as he is all mine.....!!!! You need to turn all this on its head and have some counselling for sake of you and your little boy especially. The more you let these cretins think they have got to you....the more it will be a problem. I know its hard, being the older of the two in the relationship even I get insecure at times, but if I let it get to me, I am the only one who will lose out...xx
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I feel you have some confidence issues, you could have both had a good laugh about these idiots texting him if maybe you had more confidence in him and yourself? You say he woudlnt dream of anything? Sadly this behaviour goes with the territory.
My OH works for Equestrian Shop delivering all round the local area to the jodhpur clad girles!! - I just have to deal with it, he respects me more for not getting funny about it and I certaintly dont get wound up as I know most of them anyway!!
You cant stop girly idiot behaviour but if you could have dealt with it in a better way you would be the one laughing as i bet he came home to you everynight didnt he???
It sounds more like a trust issue. I get quietly mad occasionally, then I know actually I am pleased they think he is gorgeous, especially as he is all mine.....!!!! You need to turn all this on its head and have some counselling for sake of you and your little boy especially. The more you let these cretins think they have got to you....the more it will be a problem. I know its hard, being the older of the two in the relationship even I get insecure at times, but if I let it get to me, I am the only one who will lose out...xx
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Onyxia
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Why r you taking this as some joke? Im being serious, im asingle parent and my little boy has lost his dad because of slutty girls cant take nofor an answer and seem to love txting to wind me up! So you lot that do it, good on you, goruin more familes!
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K,assume you dont want o hear this right now BUT your son did not lose his Dad,he left you not his son,and TBH if he is a douce that would leave his child your son is better of without him.
Secondly,no woman in the world can make a guy leave a marriage they dont want to-your ex choose to cheat and he choose to leave.
Sorry,just really winds me up that married men are left to look like fools who dont and cant know any better while the SINGLE women are the scum of the earth
OP flirting is fun,it's good.
As long as it doesnt stop anyone getting work done (and done to the right quality) whats the problem?
Why r you taking this as some joke? Im being serious, im asingle parent and my little boy has lost his dad because of slutty girls cant take nofor an answer and seem to love txting to wind me up! So you lot that do it, good on you, goruin more familes!
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K,assume you dont want o hear this right now BUT your son did not lose his Dad,he left you not his son,and TBH if he is a douce that would leave his child your son is better of without him.
Secondly,no woman in the world can make a guy leave a marriage they dont want to-your ex choose to cheat and he choose to leave.
Sorry,just really winds me up that married men are left to look like fools who dont and cant know any better while the SINGLE women are the scum of the earth
OP flirting is fun,it's good.
As long as it doesnt stop anyone getting work done (and done to the right quality) whats the problem?
cattysmith
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Yikes. I'm yet (after over 20 years!) to meet a farrier who would be worthy of flirting with....where I am theres not exactly a Holloaks Hunks 2010 calendar going on......
MrsMozart
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It only happend last week, but i know he will see our son alot as hes a brill dad, at the moment he cant come round without getting upset, he hates whats these girls have done to us but they will not stop, so end of.
Just wish these immature twits would realise what they are actually doing!! Alot of my ex's mates have had the same problem and lost their partners over it.
I mean if you txt your farrier to ask about coming to get a shoe put back on would you follow it by xxxxxxxxxx. How sad!!
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There HAS to be more to the story than this surely? If someone texted my OH and added xxxx to the end I wouldn't kick him out over it - a)it's hardly his fault and b)he's not going to act on it. This really is very baffling.
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I end most of my texts with C.x - does not mean I fancy the person I'm texting for goodness sake! I also offer coffee and cake, in fact everything short of my soul, to get my farrier to come and put a shoe back on. He knows as well as I do that it stops at coffee and cake (in my case he'd die laughing at the thought of anything else).
I think it is desperately sad that one can't let the outside world do or say what it does. My husband, when I married him, was tall, long legged, blonde, blue/green eyes, and with the right amount of muscles in all the right places - even my friends would comment, so did strangers, but I knew he loved me and I didn't give a hoot about the comments.
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It only happend last week, but i know he will see our son alot as hes a brill dad, at the moment he cant come round without getting upset, he hates whats these girls have done to us but they will not stop, so end of.
Just wish these immature twits would realise what they are actually doing!! Alot of my ex's mates have had the same problem and lost their partners over it.
I mean if you txt your farrier to ask about coming to get a shoe put back on would you follow it by xxxxxxxxxx. How sad!!
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There HAS to be more to the story than this surely? If someone texted my OH and added xxxx to the end I wouldn't kick him out over it - a)it's hardly his fault and b)he's not going to act on it. This really is very baffling.
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I end most of my texts with C.x - does not mean I fancy the person I'm texting for goodness sake! I also offer coffee and cake, in fact everything short of my soul, to get my farrier to come and put a shoe back on. He knows as well as I do that it stops at coffee and cake (in my case he'd die laughing at the thought of anything else).
I think it is desperately sad that one can't let the outside world do or say what it does. My husband, when I married him, was tall, long legged, blonde, blue/green eyes, and with the right amount of muscles in all the right places - even my friends would comment, so did strangers, but I knew he loved me and I didn't give a hoot about the comments.
Arabelle
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Snigger, when my farrier calls, my OH hands the phone over saying loudly 'its your favourite man in the world'
I do hope my farrier doesn't have a paranoid missus
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Snigger, when my farrier calls, my OH hands the phone over saying loudly 'its your favourite man in the world'
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Cyberchick
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I think to be in a relationship with a farrier must be hard but you have to deal with it if you want them. Seeing lovely ladies all the time and getting fed tea and biscuits and a x at the end of texts are part of the job i'm afraid. I dont think I could be with a farrier or vet etc if I was a jealous person but he chose you, you to be the mother of his child, and yes he made a mistake but lots of us do.
I put xxx on the ends of my texts to my farrier (mainly cause I know he hates it) and I dont even make as much fuss about having milk in or choccy biscuits to my husband! but then he doesn't have anything to do with the welfare of my horse.
And the things my farrier says about some of the girls, I really dont think you need to worry and he's single. xxx
I put xxx on the ends of my texts to my farrier (mainly cause I know he hates it) and I dont even make as much fuss about having milk in or choccy biscuits to my husband! but then he doesn't have anything to do with the welfare of my horse.
And the things my farrier says about some of the girls, I really dont think you need to worry and he's single. xxx
Bowen4Horses
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it sounds to me like the real issue isn't these girls texting him. because, as everyone has said, that isn't really a problem. i think the issue is because he kissed someone else years ago and you're not really 'over' it and don't trust him.
regarding the texts. i'm sure there are loads of us that are ultra friendly to our farriers. hey, i flirt with my farrier, not cos i want to hump him (ergh) but because i'm quite a flirt generally, and i know i can get a good service from people by being very friendly. flirting doesn't mean wanting to hump someone.
if these texts really are going to cause your marriage to breakdown, then i'm very sorry. i can't begin to imagine how terrible that is for you. i am married, with 3 kids, and know how utterly devastated i'd be if my husband were to leave.
hope everything works out for you. insecurity is a horrible thing and can eat away at all that is good.
good luck
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regarding the texts. i'm sure there are loads of us that are ultra friendly to our farriers. hey, i flirt with my farrier, not cos i want to hump him (ergh) but because i'm quite a flirt generally, and i know i can get a good service from people by being very friendly. flirting doesn't mean wanting to hump someone.
if these texts really are going to cause your marriage to breakdown, then i'm very sorry. i can't begin to imagine how terrible that is for you. i am married, with 3 kids, and know how utterly devastated i'd be if my husband were to leave.
hope everything works out for you. insecurity is a horrible thing and can eat away at all that is good.
good luck
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