AARRGGHHHH**RANT**What would you do?

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I posted a couple of months ago as the YM was on her 3 w holiday and the other owners husband was very poorly so despite being a yard newbie I pitched in and did 95+% of the field poo picking for all 4 horses and lots of the extras that just need doing. The YM thanked me on her return the other owner didn't , they were other little niggles too. For instance I sked the other Owner for help twice during 4 months and both times was a no. So basically I said I wasn't prepared to continue being so helpful (?dogsbody) and it was agreed I'd do 2 days poo picking as would the other YM(1 horse owner) and the 'unhelpful' owner would do 3 days a week(she has 2 horses). Anyway to get back to my point I really have done more than my fair share(doormat) and am doing an extra day poo picking every week to cover half the YM 'duties' as she is again away for 3 weeks next week. The horses are in at night at the mo. and outside help is brought in to muck her horse out and prepare feeds. I mentioned that I'm looking to take my holiday in the summer when the horses are living out and asked what the procedures are.Here we go... I will have to get outside help in to do my share of the field poo picking as it's different in Summer WTF!!! I said 'What about all the help I've done and am about to do' and was told that it will not count as Summer is different and they are not prepared to pick up my horses poo's. OK at least I know wear I stand but should I say I'm not doing that extra day a week for 3 w when she's away and in fact never again full stop?
Honestly I just don't see the logic and should find the situation hilarious but I'm sooo fuming
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The YM takes 6weeks or more holiday a year , the other owner took a couple of months last year, no idea what she is doing this year-terrible communication and vagueness, and I'm looking a 2 holidays of 7-10 days each.
Please offer advice ....
 
From this moment on, just do your share of the duties; do not cover for anyone. When summer comes, get your own person to do your duties and don't rely on them for help.
 
Unless this is an absolutely amazing yard in all other respects I think I would be moving... otherwise I'd be following Tias advice- sort yourself out and sod everyone else.
 
Def time to move, the atmosphere must be terrible too if you have all this going on and people being selfish... you go up to your horse to have fun etc, you dont need all the attitude problems, def look for another yard is my advice...
 
Thanks
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I'd rather not move her as the yard has the potential to suit us
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BUT as a brand new yard is being set up a stones throw away so I'll sit on this thought for now
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I had a chat with nearly hubby and he said what Tia said albeit not put as eloquently(?Sp) as Tia
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So yes I'll just sort myself out now and do 'my fair share' only. They can do the same. Sorted, I feel much better, Thanks
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Wow - how much poo are they expecting your horse to produce whilst you are away? !! Isn't it something like 8 poos a day per horse? THey must be seriously sad people if they have time to work out that summer poo picking is different to winter poo picking!
 
I know
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I do have a life honest but these other 2, well it's always like the horses come second to husband, getting the tea ready etc. They are both retired housewives, kids all grown up etc. Oh I dunno, it's probably me but then I'm lucky in that nearly hubby thinks the same as me, on this point anyway
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I kept Jazz 'at home' for 10 years, I do miss not being 'my own boss' so to speak but have really tried to think of others BUT NO MORE
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Enjoy your yard x I'm not jealous, I'm not
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***********UPDATE******************
OK All, I had a polite word with YM this evening. I basically said I had found someone(I have !!) with good references to come in daily to check Jazz, feet etc and do my share of the poo picking . This will cost me £10 an hour which I'm happy to pay. My horse, my responsibility etc. I thought yes I am sorted. WRONG!!!!! The YM still wants me to do an extra day each week for the next 3 weeks as she doesn't want the other owner having to do 5 days a week! I've got a bit firmer by now, but still pleasant , and insisted that I be allowed to do my 2 days poo picking this week and that I think the issuie is with YM and other owner now. OMG this is so frustrating. Sorry for letting off steam again...........I'm tired now
 
If the YM is willing to pay you, then yes, do the extra, but otherwise tell her to boil her head. If I asked for favours with my ponies (and they ARE easy to do!), I would EXPECT to have to return the favour!
 
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