Absolutely Devastated - Leaving horses behind *LONG*

I'm so sorry for you; what a terribly sad post and it tells of your dreadful upset.

You know your Dad is right though.....at least for the time being anyway. I really don't think you should be phoning them up tonight or tomorrow or the next day - let them stew and wait till they come begging for you to return. This is the only way with people like this I'm afraid. You HAVE to make them realise that you are in fact of value to them....if you back down now without a PROPER apology from the man then he won't change his mind about how important you actually are to him and his horses.

The horses won't die because you don't see them for a few days - he will feed them and he will water them, or at least he will have someone do it for him even if he doesn't do it himself.

Yes you are very lucky to have had the opportunities with having pretty much carte blanche and able to treat these horses pretty much as your own without paying anything for them - but the way I see it, it is a quid pro quo situation and the sooner he realises this, the better it will be in the long run for you.

Chin up - wait for him to call you!! Don't be tempted to call him.

Tia x
 
Thanks Gilly, i hope so too. More than anything atm.

Anakin - I sympathise with you having to move from a much loved horse. It really makes you reconsider why you ever get involved int he first place doesen't it? It never seems to end well.
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St_Bernard - Very accurate choice of words! I do think you're right and he'd rather they suffer than he admits his mistake. People that are that degree of selfish shouldn't be allowed the things they have IMO. I will not give calling the ILPH a second thought should it come to that. I hope and pray it doesent.

Thanks Chex, thought to be honest, i'd refuse his money. Dirty money IMO if this is the tactics he uses to get to where he is today. I don't want him to think that I do this for his dosh. I'd rather be in the position I am in now re:finances than be as well off as he is and be as utterly twattish.
 
missshell - I think you're right. Though that's not to say that most with money aren't delightful people. It seems we've just been unlucky with our millionaire. (!!!)

Thank you for your reply Tia - I do know he's right. It's just the resounding thought of Pally standing in without anyone coming tonight to see to him. I will try to stay here and resist the temptation to give in however much I do want to just for the horses sake.
They have a gardener/grounds keeper who I do think will throw him some hay and water, and give hima kind word. He's a nice guy. He should be in tomorrow. It's the not knowing whether they are being cared for that is hardest.
 
I don't think you should contact the guy at all, I know because I've read your previous posts and seen your photos just how much you love Pally and Bill, sit it out and wait to see what happens.

I think you should let the Vet know that you aren't able to attend to Pally, and that you don't know who will be. Suggest they ring the owner for their instructions?

So hoping it all works out for you.
 
Thank you.

Lucy - i didn't think of that and that's a very good idea. We're very close with the vets as they attend to all our horses and as they're oldies we tend to need them quite alot!
We'll drop in tomorrow and have a chat with them should we be no further forward by then.
Thank you
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Could you have a quiet word with the gardner tomorrow just to make sure he knows to feed and water the horses until the situation is sorted out?
 
You have to decide what is the best course of action - we can only give you pointers and as we are all individuals you will, and have had, conflicting suggestions and only you can choose what to do.

I personally wouldn't get involved with the vet, ILPH, gardner or anyone. I would just wash my hands of the situation until the owner recognised my value. I wouldn't want to stir up trouble either because that is a sure-fire way of never seeing the horses again......which I believe is not the outcome you want.

I know people like this (on a good friend basis and I see them treating other people in a similar fashion to the way you are being treated) and the best way to play them is to leave them to figure it out for themselves. They are often suspicious of people but when they realise that these people are genuine and aren't taking them for a ride, they then become far more respectful to them.

Of course I have always told my pompous friends off for being like this - 'cos I have a big mouth.
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You poor thing - this is a terrible story. This bloke has really bitten off his nose to spite his face in regards to his horses. Trouble is people like that will not put in the effort you have and will quite happily see them out in the field with ignorance and arrogence.

I don't know what to suggest but hope it works out in your favour. - I have often admired you photos of them and Rocco on the beach.
 
Boodle, you're right not to get involved again right now. If the owner is up on his toes and spoiling for a fight, he won't listen to reason at the moment, and (if you're a normal human being!) you will become far too emotional and the conversation will go to sh*t.

Talk to the vet, and take a step back for now, and hopefully it will get resolved.
 
Ha Tia... I think i'd get put through a wall if i told him where to go. As I have established.. we are not his friends, we are nothing.

I genuinely thank all of you for each and every post on here, I can't quite explain what the support means to me.

There has been no word from them today and I'm being torn apart inside by it. But we are staying away.

Should it end up, as it looks to be, that we do not return to these wonderful horses.. i do have to return and pick up my bridles, headcollars, numnahs, grooming kits and boots that I have bought for them. So I will get to say goodbye and see them both for one last time, which I'm sure will be the hardest part.
 
stay strong, he sounds like an absolute s*** and you would be better with someone who appreciates you and all your efforts, if he won't apologise.
very sad, as i know you love the horses. can you ring the gardener guy and check that the horses are getting hay and water at the very least?
*big hugs*
 
Just caught up with this, how awful. Unless this man is a complete and utter fool he will hopefully realise what you have done for him and his horses and will back down and let you carry on caring for them. Well done for being strong and keeping away, imo that is absoultely the best thing you can do at the moment. Fingers crossed he sees sense.
 
I really do feel for you. I cant believe that he has treated you in such an appalling way when you have been so good to those horses and treated them as your own.

I sincerely hope that everything works out in your favour.

Please keep us updated.

Take care.x
 
Hopefully when I go to get my stuff i'll see the gardener and ask him to make sure they're cared for. But it's going to be so, so, so hard. Thanks Kerilli.

Thanks MM and 05kitty93 also.
Thoughts much appreciated.
 
Is there any way someone else could collect your stuff for you and have a word with the gardener? Might just be harder to have to see them again.
 
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