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I will apologise in advance for bad spelling as I am on my phone and the keypad is crap.

Obviously its winter which means dark nights and mud but at the moment im feeling really down.
Ive had a horse on loan from a young woman for about 3 months now, lets call her Lucy. Another girl also has a horse on loan from Lucy. The twi horses are good friends and shared a stable for the past 3 years. Now we have two seperatw stable for them. However Im finding that all the work is being left to me. Me and the Other girl take it in turns to bring horses in for a short amount of time each day (they live out the rest of the time). However I am at 6th form and have exams coming up soon. The other girl has left me to bring the horses in most of the time and qhen she does do them she leaves all the mucking out for me to do! On top of that some days when I cannot get to the yard she willingly offers to go feed them, and recently i find she hasnt been going up when she says and so poor horses are not been fed.
On top of all this the family who own the horse in the stable next to our stable think its alright to hog all the storage room at the stables and in the tack room as well as insult my horse. Theyve made petty little comments but with all the stress of everything else its just getting me down and im trying to avoid seeing them when im up at the yard. I have never been good at sticking up for myself as I was bullied as a child and suffer from depression. All this is ruining the time with my horse that I should be enjoying.
No mean or nasty comments please and if you got this far then thanks for reading and sorry if non of this makes sense. Will be happy to clarify any points and any advice greatly apreciated as im really struggling at the moment :(
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First off, ignore the comments, smile sweetly and just think in your head "Ignorant twits" or some other pertinent phrase that makes you smile. If all else fails imagine them falling in a big muddy puddle. Check with YO and get a sufficient sized lockable cabinet, put it in your area of the tackroom and they won't be able to hog that space at least. Speak to YO about other storage issues, ask if there is an allotted space for you and ask her to clarify where each person's space is.

You could raise the issues with the horses' owner if she is on the yard as well.

As for the other sharer. If she isn't doing your mucking out don't do hers! Don't stress about it just don't do it. If she doesn't do yours don't panic, ok it's nice to have a clean stable but tbh the horse probably doesn't even notice! The feeding is a bit of a problem but provided you are talking about hard feed and your horse is still being given hay again it won't kill him.
 
Talk to the horses owner? Or as suggested possibly think about a share instead :) Im going to sound like an old woman but exams are important - dont potentially ruin them because some pleb isnt pulling their weight.
 
People are only jealous of what the can't have, if that includes your loan horse then they will try to make themselves feel better by knocking it. And maybe they are jealous of you having a chance to educate yourself, when I was doing my a levels I had lots of catty comments about how I kept my horses. I put it down to them being jealous that I could both look after and compete my horses to a higher level than them plus educate myself to a level of literacy they could only dream of. :-)
 
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