advice please! abusive messages from on off yard employee

showpony said:
Just back in door from wonderful hack on my mare- really cleared my head. YO is taking it very seriously and one good thing to come out of it I found out today when I was up at yard, was nearly in tears - the amount of people behind me is unbelievable, people have said such nice things , have called and text aswell:) and do you know what - this episode has made me even more bloody determined to compete successfully with my mare after which I will shove my results and rosettes in his face:) also thanks to my hho family who have been very kind with all the positive comments.
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:D that's more like it:D
 
Sorry to read your latest post, try not to get upset, don't think about it, just do what you said, one more post and you will notify police, this is that one more post.

It is bullying and harrassment and only you can stop it by taking action. Speak again to YO, if it is an employee they need to take action.

Most working enviroments, schools etc today have policies about bullying and harrassment, sad that it is getting to the stage where yards need to also think about this and how they handle such incidents.

Sending you hugs, and try to have a good nights sleep so you wake ready to deal with this.
 
i no how horrible and upset you must feel, BUT your are riding to better youself and boost ur confidence. im asumming you have friends there and no who this person is. i would talk to your friends about it and mention ur gonna go to the police if it carries on. besides what you do has nothing to do with this person
so i dont no why they have to be sticking there nose in they mightbe jealous.

i really wish you good luck :) and congrats on ur competition and keep it up
 
Bullies pick on people they are jealous/frightened of, in my experience. They dont tend to have any friends either. I would much prefer to have you round my horses than him! Dangerous? Yeah, right! You have achieved far more than he will, because you are honest, brave, determined and have friends in RL and on here. You also have a lovely horse with whom you have a good partnership and the confidence to go out and compete successfully. Now, what has he got, apart from a saddo habit of texting nasty lies to a successful woman? Either ignore him, make him very sorry he ever started this, via the legal route, or send some 'heavy' friends round, to have a wee word.
 
Quite frankly, he needs a good kick in the nuts.

We don't however, condone violence in our polite society but it certainly wouldn't do him any harm!

Get to the Police this morning, asap.
 
If it was me I would print of the offending messsages & put them in a place where everyone can see them & let everyone know what is going on. This type of bullying can only succeed if you keep it to yourself. Letting others know will bring you a lot of support. It's not you in the wrong after all.
 
Sounds like this person has a fixation on you. Maybe he fancies you and has been rebuffed, or thinks he would be? It's getting a bit stalkerish and there are new laws going through to deal with such things. Obviously he is a coward as all these things are being said by text message. Nasty piece of work. Though I don't understand why it would bother you that he is telling people you are a dangerous person to be around. Anyone is going to see through that and think he's barking! :confused:
 
POLLDARK said:
If it was me I would print of the offending messsages & put them in a place where everyone can see them & let everyone know what is going on. This type of bullying can only succeed if you keep it to yourself. Letting others know will bring you a lot of support. It's not you in the wrong after all.
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That's a good idea.
 
do as someone else said the min you get a text forward the text back to them with this written underneath [ you message could not be delivered at this time and has been banked at the Malicious Communications Log Bureau] log ref 8903339

Then tell the police, print off all communications etc etc
 
POLLDARK said:
If it was me I would print of the offending messsages & put them in a place where everyone can see them & let everyone know what is going on. This type of bullying can only succeed if you keep it to yourself. Letting others know will bring you a lot of support. It's not you in the wrong after all.
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Best advice on the thread. Great idea.
 
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