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Today new beastie arrived, she travelled lovely, walked off ramp sensibly and after a couple of hours seemed to settle well. She arrived about midday and I told yard owner I would be back later to rug her up etc. Arrived at 5.30 pm to be told she had been rugged up and fed already! Now whilest that is very kind of them, I would very much like to bond with my new horse- I couldnt even feed her today as it had already been done, I felt really useless and a bit angrey. As it was they had put a full neck heavyweight on her which I felt a bit much at this time of year so I took it off and put a lightweight fal whith 60gram filling which is more appropriate for this time of year imho. Anyway, I am annnoyed that they did not ask me if I wanted her rugged etc, they dont even know what feed quantity she gets! Would you say something about this to the yard owner? After all she is on DIY- or am I making a big fuss and perhaps I should be grateful for the help. (Pics later in gallery)
 
As she is on DIY livery, I would be very peeved. I would say something now as if you don't, you will find that your horse's care is completely taken over. As for putting on a heavyweight rug in this mild weather
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- what will the poor horse be wearing when it is actually cold. Apart from that, I hope you will be very happy with your new horse - any piccies yet (without rug!)
 
I wouldnt be cross, just leave her food ready mixed and rug on door in future, i always quite appreciate people doing things for me, usually people couldnt give a stuff, if all the other horses were coming in then im sure they felt it would be better and more settling for her to come in with them. In one paticular diy yard i have been at we all help each other out to keep horses in good routine.
 
I would say something now, just say that you appriciate their help but that you would rather they didnt feed her as you wouldnt want to come down and ride her not knowing that she had been fed
 
It's difficult because you don't want to be in a position where they won't help you when you actually need it - so if you do say something be as tactful and 'grateful' as possible...

Actually... the more I think about it the more I would be inclined to leave it this once and say something only if it happens again....
 
Yep, leave it this once, they may be almost as excited as you are. On DIY you need all the help you can get, so don't upset them at this early stage.
Depending on how you do things at your yard, you will maybe need to leave rugs for other people to use, and leave feeds prepared for all the horses to be fed at once. (In fact, maybe they fed her so she wouldn't get upset when others were fed around her?). You need to find out what the routines are at that yard and then get yourself set up accordingly.
I always have the feeds made up in advance by the owners, s that I can be sure all the horses that are in get fed together. I don't think it's fair to have them all fed, and turned out for that matter, at different times.
 
They probably just meant to be welcoming and friendly to you, so I wouldn't say anything unless it keeps happening.
Or ask them not to feed it as you are coming back later...and want to get to know it (him/her?)
When it's peeing down in the winter, you'll be grateful for someone to do it...so don't burn your bridges quite yet.
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