Advice please

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this is going to be a long post so bear with me!

Basic background - started riding at 5, got a 3 year old when I was 12, sold her, bought another horse who was PTS in 2002. Also begged/borrowed rides and had loan horses in between. Last horse as above PTS in 2002, I quit riding and horses totally. Started again last May, realised what I was missing, started sharing 2 horses who then went out of full loan
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Now back from Talland, confidence through the roof and desparate to ride and practice but no horse
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Now trying to make a decision and don't know what to do

- try to beg borrow steal rides
- share a horse
- look for one on loan
- give up

Decision made harder as

- share horse - all seem to be £35 a week plus, I am willing to care for more than one horse but seems daft to share if I can put that £35 into savings
- loan horse - worked out at £300 a month for everything inc contingency fund - not sure if it is doable and Mum v against it

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Gentle advice pls, I have been in tears today trying to work out what to do, I've neve before been in a position of being desparate to ride, and not able to
I don't want to go and have lessons as I need to practice what I have learnt, and I want the care and chores of a horse too

Wispa Gold if you get this far!
 
No advice, sorry, but lots of sympathy. I know exactly what you're feeling. What I'm feeling now is that I wish I loved knitting not riding, then life would be so much simpler. And I might have some money.

You could try negotiating over a share - practical help rather than money? Depends on their situation, obviously.

Or something like exercising hunters if you're in the right kind of area? When I did this owners were often pleased to have their horses schooled for free.
Good luck.
 
Flipping heck! Why £300 a month? The pones are roughly £150 per month including DIY livery.

Could you look to exercise one or two?

There's a girl at the yard who will ride Dizz for me when need her to, and her son might ride LL - no financial contributions either way.

Keep looking hun, put some notes up in saddlers.

Anyway, if you save £35 per week over a number of months you'll have saved enough to buy your own
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Well I added up bedding, haylage, shoes, worming, insurance and livery
I work 12 hr shifts so horse would have to go on part for 13 days a month
I also added in a contingency fund as I wanted to make sure if I could afford it, it wasn't so tight that if something went wrong, I would have the money IYSWIM
 
Sorry but what is IYSWIM?
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Are there any livery yards nearby? Go and have a chat with them as some of them may have 2 or 3 horses and be pleased to have some one do some excercise/schooling as well as yard/stable duties.
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I'm afraid I don't understand it - there are people at my yard who think they will get someone to come and ride a couple of times a week and do mucking out/poo picking and give them a tenner a time!! They aren't prepared to call it sharing or come up with a proper agreement all because they are too skint to pay someone to excercise them/pay the YO extras and don't have time to do it themselves - I call it taking the p*ss!!
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Ooops sorry - rant over!!
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sorry it means - If you see what I mean!!!!
I've advertised twice now for a share horse and been to see 3. 2 were not as described (one was very strong, the other I actually refused to get one)
One was lovely but it was a long drive, she wanted £30 a week, and for me to muck out her other 2 horses on the days I did them

I'm also scared about taking another share on. I loved my 2 share horses to bits, and I had no notice and they went within 2 weeks

I'm happy to muck out more than one in exchange for riding or even pay £10 a week - which would cover shoes
 
I wish you lived near me - I have 2 horses and can't ride either at the moment due to health issues (mine, not the horses)!

Good luck, I hope you find something nice to share soon. Keep looking, perhaps place an ad yourself - I'm sure something will crop up.
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You see I just think a lot of people see sharing as a cheap option for keeping a horse and getting cheap labour for the jobs they don't want to do - cheeky cow wanting you to pay £30 and muck out her other 2 horses!!
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Sorry maybe its just me but if I wanted/needed a sharer for one of my two I wouldn't expect any money but would expect them to be looked after as I would look after them myself and if the sharer offered to muck out and do a bit more or affer a contribution towards shoes etc that would be a bonus - I must be sadly out of touch!!
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Yep £30 is defo a p1ss take, things cost more down south and I've never paid more than £100 a month for 3 days, and I had no stable duties aside from grooming.

Keep looking and good luck! Once i get a full time job i'll be looking too so no doubt I'll be posting about the difficulties of finding a horse!!
 
I agree with Silky, some people are just greedy. I would be only to pleased to find somebody suitable to share my horse and for me a minor contribution would be all that's necessary just to show willing and commitment. Anyway. I like doing the chores, my sharer would get most of the riding!
 
Shame you are not near me, you could ride mine for free!!
My mare is limited, but i am hoping to get someone to ride her once/twice a week in the school, in turn they just need to feed her that day and make sure she is fine, should be having a young girl out in next couple of weeks to try her.
Financial contribution isn't what everyone is looking for, if my mare wasn't limited in her riding i would possibly charge a small fee of 15per week for 2 days, it seems people can often overcharge. Bearing in mind my mare costs about 300per month to keep, a contribution would be nice, but just the help will do me these days.
Hope you find a nice share or horsey to ride
 
we have had arrangements with a couple of people in the past who were just grateful to have someone ride. We offered to pay shoes but that is all we did. mucked out a bit at weekends.

This came from putting up adverts in local large tack shops just saying rider available, being truthful about level and confidence. (not advertising for a share) got about 8 phonecalls over the space of a month and could choose what best suited. I have since advised a couple of friends to do the same and they have also had this sort of quantity of repsonse (and one was not the most confident of riders but I told her to be truthful) and both are happy riding horses for other people now.

Off the top of my head I know of at least 3 people who have horses that need riding

are you a member of a riding club, you might find joining gives you more contacts if you get involved and may well find someone who needs some help that way too.
 
I offered you a share of my horse last year when you asked on here but you weren't keen because she is only young.

PM me if you'd be interested in seeing her now. I wouldn't want money, I'd be grateful of the help.
 
put out 2 adverts and had some replies, all wanting money. I just don't get it. If I get my own horse I would have to have either part livery or a sharer. If I got a sharer, I would be grateful they were saving me part livery and I wouldn't want any money. If the horse is being ridden for the same amount of time, there's no extra costs involved.
I am so close to giving up totally, I've just had enough
Either that or finding my own horse and someone to pay ME £35 a week!
 
I'm in Lancs and share my horse out. I've also been a sharer in the past.
I'm sure there will be share's out there for less money than that, my sharer pays just over 20 a week. I think it's fair to pay as horses cost a lot of money to keep and if you share your getting part of the enjoyment, plus if you think what riding lessons cost these days.

Have you tried newrider website?
 
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