Advice please

[Skhosu]

So I had a good day today, but sister didn't. She moved up to pre-novice, it wasn't a big course. The mare has been increasingly nappy since we got her. She did ok dressage, 2 down SJ and was a bit stroppy. Went xc,(we had to persuade sister to go as horse was being difficult, but still going?) and span after the first fence, then continued on until they had to go properly away from everyone, and the mare stopped in the middle of the field and span around and refused to go forwards, even when a lead was waited for.
Sister is devestated and v. hard as well as all the rest of us had good days. Now mare had a 'black eye' a few weeks ago, which is still a cut but she's been jumping at home fine.
Mare also had a bit of tenderness when the saddle was checked, but behind the saddle and didn't think it would cause a lot of problems? Checked today after xc and she was dipping a cm or two so taking her to the vet on tues to get checked out.
Now, the problem is I'm pretty sure she's in a habit now of this, she will rear if pushed, and does it at home in certain places again. I'm not sure sister can push her through this, but what is the best course of action?
We've had her 9mnths now, and everyone keeps saying she's wonderful, but I tbh can't see it with this behvaiour..

 

[carthorse]

Give her the benefit of doubt at the moment and get her checked out.At home does she work on surface, is the ground hard where you are?
We were worried about our last two events but if you read my post in competition you will see things can turn round.
Get her checked thoroughly and some really good lessons in case she is a sensitive type and the fault is with the rider.
Then if she is still not happy move on even if it means losing money on the horse, life is too short

 

[bellaM]

Sounds like your horse is in pain!! Vets aren't always good with back problems, do go to your vet though and get them to reccommend you a good physio and a chiropracter, give your mare a thorough going over, also get a BAEDT registered dentist out. A good way of finding good professionals is to go to your local equine charity and ask them also get the saddle fitter out.
Your horse dipping its back adn the tenderness actually says a lot, remember that your horse may still act up after treatment for a while as she is still expecting pain, bear with her good luck.