Advice/suggestions needed, daughter and horse

Sell the mare- she's lovely and like you said needs a job. Horses need consistent work, not the odd bomb around a field. Ditto eveyone else above - I'd kill for your daughter's situation - I've always looked after them myself even when I've had flu I still get up to feed and turn out!
Also, if she really wanted to ride, she'd do it alongside boyfriend and even uni (I am at vet school and have 2 horses which are on assisted DIY livery (money comes out of my student loan!), and a boyfriend, and so far I've managed!
Even is she hates you for selling horse, I'd hope that one day when she has kids she'll realise that you did it because you thought it was best. Definitely a difficult decision when animals are involved! Good luck
 
Can you tell her you plan to sell pony in 6 months so if she wants to keep her she has time to save up the money - then it's her horse, her decision, her responsibility. She's got time to seriously think about it, and if she's going to save up anywhere near enough to buy the pony off you (presumably you'd sell for whatever she could save) it'll show she's committed.

FWIW I was the 'horses handed on a plate' child of a horsey family and I never really realised how hard it was doing all the work until I left home and did it for myself - because you always have family on hand to help you kind of don't get it. If she sticks with horses she'll appreciate further down the line all you've done to set her up.

Don't be too hard on her, sounds like she is trying to help (you said she fed the sheep - presumably not 'her' sheep?) and remember that every time she feeds all four horses she's doing three jobs for you - every time you feed all 4 you're only doing one extra!

only my 2p worth....
 
Could you try the local pony club, I know of ponies in our pony club that have been passed down through the many pony clubber hands, because the owners are reluctant to sell and because the ponies are so good.

Yours looks as though it would be snapped up, and generally pony club homes have either knowledgeable parents or very keen children (or both) !

You could agree a fixed term loan period, which could be renewed by joint agreement. A lot of PC parents appreciate these deals, as when children grow it stops them having to make the decision to sell the outgrown pony.

You will get the opportunity to see your pony and your daughter would get the opportunity to grow up and take responsibility for her pony at some point in the future (if thats what she really wants). If your pony is as good as she looks then there will be people queuing up to have her when the first loan ends !
 
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