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Hi guys. Am a little scared shi***ss tonight. I've known my farrier for about 10 yrs. He was here last week shoeing shauna's pony. he is single. He has been texting me flat out since last week. Fairly basic, but lots of texts. Am I being silly thinking he's interested, I've kept the texts to just replies to questions/texts. Am I being silly, crap, I'm no good at this stuff. Out of practice. any help is good??
 
The texts are faurly straight, hi, how are you. just got a text now that basically asked me out, without doing so. It read " No point in waiting, we only live once". aghhhhh, am so scared to answer it back.
 
popeyesno1fan said:
The texts are faurly straight, hi, how are you. just got a text now that basically asked me out, without doing so. It read " No point in waiting, we only live once". aghhhhh, am so scared to answer it back.
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If you are frightened then this is more than inappropriate behaviour on his part and you don't have to put up with it. Can you get an older relative or the YO to speak to him and point out to him that he is probably breaking the law. If you feel you are being stalked report it to the police.
 
popeyesno1fan said:
The texts are faurly straight, hi, how are you. just got a text now that basically asked me out, without doing so. It read " No point in waiting, we only live once". aghhhhh, am so scared to answer it back.
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If you are frightened then this is more than inappropriate behaviour on his part and you don't have to put up with it. Can you get an older relative or the YO to speak to him and point out to him that he is probably breaking the law. Does your mobile allow you to block individual callers? If you feel you are being stalked report it to the police.

Can you change your farrier? If not don't be alone with this man. Arrange to have someone with you while he is doing your horse. Don't offer him a brew or do anything that he may interprete as being an encouragement from you and avoid him when he is not dealing with your horse.

You should definitely report this to your YO even if you don't ask him to intervene. He has a duty under Health and Safety legislation to protect clients on his property from fear and harassment. We had a similar problem on a yard I was on which culminated in the YO barring the farrier from the yard!

You don't have to put up with this. No man has the right to upset you and frighten you like this.
 
ED the OP might just be frightened of the great unknown, of rocking the boat, etc. :cool:

LL as far as I could read in the OP, there's no mention of another person/trout/or otherwise, so, as far as we can ascertain on the details before us, no triangle :rolleyes:

OP if a bit of the thought of it makes your heart sing go for it. Little steps. Hope it goes well :D

No doubt this will get moved to SB, so see y'all over there :cool: :D
 
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My yard owner allways tells me if a farrier, vet or farmer asks yu out go for it.... If you have horses you need all 3!!! Lol.. Unfortunately I am too old for this dating lark now so will stay a lonely widow ... I couldn't cope with a man on board as well as old parents, touchy teenager, two horses dog and cat!
 
on the basis you're scared because it's the unknown rather than because he's stalking you ;) then if you like him, go for it :D If you don't you'll regret it, and if you've known him for 10 years it's likely he genuinely likes you :)
 
I felt the same when mine asked me out and said no the first time but my mum made me go when he asked again-that was twenty years ago and we are married with three kids!!! But I remember the apprehension and the what ifs? But what I don't get from your post is do you actually like him? If you don't then you need to put him straight. Good luck.
 
In my opinion farriers are arrogant big headed womanisers who travel round yards and speak to many 'silly riding school girls' who are very 'easy' so in my opinion do whatever you feel but be on your guard. Who knows he could be txtin someone else also, how are you to know. Good luck with it tho
 
How old are you? Maybe the fact that you have been replying to his texts has encouraged him to think you are interested. Did you even ask why he was texting you?
 
Go for it. I know several lovely farriers, not all are the stereotype. Just keep your wits about you like you would with any bloke!

My fella sold me a horse (and spent hours 'helping out' with horse before finally asking me to move horse back with me in tow!) and his dad is a farrier and true gentleman. Did the same nervous thing you're doing now and worked out great :)
 
When I said I was scared, I didn't mean of him. I meant of making a fool of myself, He's a lovely guy, I've just been out of the dating game a very long time. I have gone for it, and so far so good. Sorry if people took me up wrong.
 
I'd go for it Darling!!! At least you will save on the farrier bill !!! If you like him you've nothing to loose. I made the huge mistake of letting an opportunity like this go once and really regret it !!! Good Luck!!!!!:)
 
^ I wouldnt go into a relationship with a farrier thinking your horses will get done at the drop of a hat. Ours were always last to get done!!
 
xloopylozzax said:
^ I wouldnt go into a relationship with a farrier thinking your horses will get done at the drop of a hat. Ours were always last to get done!!
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Def know the feeling, if you have an electrician in the family, your electrics are last to get done, same for plumber, etc so I'm under no illusions, maybe for a little while, eh!!! :)
 
horsemadmum1 said:
I felt the same when mine asked me out and said no the first time but my mum made me go when he asked again-that was twenty years ago and we are married with three kids!!! But I remember the apprehension and the what ifs? But what I don't get from your post is do you actually like him? If you don't then you need to put him straight. Good luck.
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I really should have put together a more detailed post to begin with. I really do like him, he's cute, witty, but is serious when needs be. A really lovely guy. I was only scared of making a fool of myself. I'm nearly 34, have 2 kids, was with their dad for 7 years, met a guy 3 years ago through mutual friends, so didnt really have the whole dating issues to deal with. Sadly, he took his own life last year, and i thought that was it for me, couldnt handle any more sadness. So havnt had any of the dating "issues" in a very long time, and at 18, your prob more equipped for it. fingers crossed it all goes well, and sure if it doesn't no harm done. thanks for all of the lovely replies, sorry i dint explain myself properly in the first place. x
 
popeyesno1fan said:
I really should have put together a more detailed post to begin with. I really do like him, he's cute, witty, but is serious when needs be. A really lovely guy. I was only scared of making a fool of myself. I'm nearly 34, have 2 kids, was with their dad for 7 years, met a guy 3 years ago through mutual friends, so didnt really have the whole dating issues to deal with. Sadly, he took his own life last year, and i thought that was it for me, couldnt handle any more sadness. So havnt had any of the dating "issues" in a very long time, and at 18, your prob more equipped for it. fingers crossed it all goes well, and sure if it doesn't no harm done. thanks for all of the lovely replies, sorry i dint explain myself properly in the first place. x
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You go girl! THe thought of dating is v scarey...don't drink too much! Best of lcuk.
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