Am I a bad person?

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I lost my gorgeous girlie less tham a week ago and am still struggling to cope. But I found myself looking at ridgeback rescue sites and have found a breeder locally who has a litter of pups born early March.
Hubby has said a definite no but I just feel the need to have 3 dogs agin.
Please don't think badly of me, I am never going to try and replace Matty, she was a special lady, but I cannot stop looking.
 
Of course you're not a bad person. You could offer a great home to a rescue or a puppy and if it gives you something to focus on and gives your other two a bit of pep, I am sure your OH will come round....but it is still early days yet, make sure it's a head thing as well as a heart thing x
 
CaveCanem said:
Of course you're not a bad person. You could offer a great home to a rescue or a puppy and if it gives you something to focus on and gives your other two a bit of pep, I am sure your OH will come round....but it is still early days yet, make sure it's a head thing as well as a heart thing x
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Totaly agree.
 
Absolutely not. I do exactly the same - I tell myself it is because I will not have an only dog while I go out to work, but I am sure there is more to it than that!

Three is a fab number of dogs to have, I am so pleased I have got that number :) Ignore your OH, just show him a pic of a litter of puppies or a rescue in need of love, he will come round :p:)
 
The right time to get a new dog after having lost one, is always when it feels right for yourself, not when others think it is appropriate.

Personally I think they can both be a replacement to fill a void in our life and not a replacement at all, if that makes any sense.
 
Oh you aren't a bad person M!
I was exactly the same when our last vizz went, I wanted another vizz in the house so badly, it was so quiet. I was still very much mourning Acorn but it only took me a week to decide I needed another vizz. OH didn't want another straight away, his coping process was obviously different. I kept looking though and when the right puppy came up a few months later OH was also ready for another and it just fell into place. For me the looking for those few months was an important part of the grieving process and gave me something to focus on and research whilst also feeling that focus was connected to Acorn in some way.
Big hugs xxx
 
slinkyunicorn said:
Not at all M.:)

I managed to go a whole 3 weeks after I lost Kira before going to see and choose St Sweep:) - I then had to wait another 5 weeks to bring home my big bean bag puppy!!:D I like to think that St Sweep arrived as my Kira left so he was meant to be.:):):)
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I read a book when I was young about someone with a GSD called Raya and I fell in love with the name, when I bought my first bitch some years later, I suggested that we should call her Raya but the family objected and eventually I agreed that the name didn't suit her.

When we bought dog number two, a Doberman cross, again I suggested the name Raya but again the family objected and it didn't really suit her either. Sadly she had health and mental problems and we had to euthanize her when she was only about 2 years old.


About two weeks later, as I recall it, I saw an add about Smooth Collie puppies, we went to see them and gave a deposit for a tricolour bitch puppy. Towards the end of this or our second visit, the breeder asked if we had decided what we would call her? I replied that we hadn't yet decided on a name and followed up with inquiring about what name she had in her pedigree/certificate?

- Soraya!

When she was 8 weeks old and we could take her home, there was never any discussion about what her name should be, it truly felt like it was meant that she would be my Raya.
It must be about 17 years ago by now that this happened, but I still vividly remember my surprise over her name.

:)
 
Thanks guys! Now all I have to do is persuade OH. Matty has left a huge hole in our lives and it is ridgeback shaped.
The dogs don't seem to be missing her too much. Sage did initially which was very upsetting to see.
The rescues I have looked at are all lovely, partucularly a 6 year old bitch who had the same look as Matt. Not sure I could cope with that though. The pups were born at the beginning of March so would be ready early April. 6 girls and 4 boys.
 
It is totally individual when/if to get another dog after you've lost one - regardless of having other dogs.

2 days after having Murphy, my dally PTS I went and collected Paddington as a 10 week old pup. Was no decision to make - I had to have him. My other dog was missing him as much as I was at it was 100% the right decision for me and my other dog at the time.

If you think your others would accept another adult dog and your OH may come round, then go for it. Really hope it helps you :)
 
mollichop said:
If you think your others would accept another adult dog and your OH may come round, then go for it. Really hope it helps you :)
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That is the other thing I have to consider. At 3 and 4 they are fully mature (almost anyway) and may not accept amother adult dog.

When we lost our first rottie we ended up getting Sage 2 days later. Purely by chance but we adored her the moment we set eyes on her. She was 6 months old but Matty is such a sweetie she would get on with anything. For me it helped as I tend to cope with the loss of my animals very badly.
 
Hugs to you! Our ridgy is 12 (13 in october!) and we have all acceped she wont make it that far. I know that she will leave a very big hole in the family (that my love of terriers wont fill!) as you say yours has :(

Unfortunately in afew months we will be having the same dilemma as you, we only have one other dog and so we are considering getting another pup before our ridgy goes, to save us having to decide when the time is right.
 
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