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I found the horse that ticks all of my boxes as far as what i would like to do with them.

I put my mare up for sale/LWVTB because as much as i love her to bits (and said i would never sell her) she just isn't suitable for what i would like to do anymore. Anything more exciting than hacks and pleasure rides is just too much for her (she rears) and i've lost my confidence with her.

I have had a phone call from someone wanting to come and see her on Thursday to have her on loan wvtb till the end of Jan. However i know this person and whilst i know she would cope with her, It's not sitting that easy as i have had the mare for 4 years and not sure i could cope with her being just down the road and coming out on hacks etc with us knowing that she is no longer mine.

To top it all off the horse that i wanted to buy may no longer be available to me.

Am i being selfish in not wanting this person to have her because i couldn't face seeing regularly her with someone else.
 
I can see where you are coming from in not wanting to see her but if you know that she will be going to a loving home, after time goes by it will get better and you'll soon be able to see her without that feeling.
 
I just don't know whether it's just not sitting easy because the other horse may not available anymore or wether it's because of who it is that is wanting her.
 
I sold one of my horses to a girl just down from me. I had some who wanted her but they were up in Scottland, a young lad that wanted her to bs. Offered me very good money. But it just didn't sit right, so she got sold to the girl up the road who over the years that I've her, has always liked her. Took half the money and had a payment plan as she could afford her.

But now 6yrs later I know I did the right thing by her. I can go and see her when ever I want, I see out and about at small local shows or hunting.

Best thing I could of done for her, and I've got first refusal should the girl need to sell her, which I doubt will never happen.
 
burness_21 said:
I just don't know whether it's just not sitting easy because the other horse may not available anymore or wether it's because of who it is that is wanting her.
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If I were you I'd forget about the other horse interns of your current one. Think about them separately. Have a think if you happy seeing her often or not. Make that choice first then go after a new horse. :)
 
I think that it's both. If the horse that you want is unavailable I would still let this lady take your horse on loan with view to buy. It will take a while for you to get used to not having her any more but you will feel better knowing that she is being well looked after and happy just hacking about and going on pleasure rides.

You'll be ok! :)
 
Honestly if you've found somebody good who wants to take your mare on then I would jump at the chance.

It is a very very tough market at the moment and even straightforward horses are not selling - if you turn this girl down then you may struggle to find anybody else at all willing to take the mare.
 
If you know this person will give your mare a fantastic new home then let her go because her welfare is important. If you have doubts about this person's ability then don't let her go.
I would far rather sell to someone I knew would look after a horse than a complete stranger.
 
Am i being selfish in not wanting this person to have her because i couldn't face seeing regularly her with someone else.
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Not selfish, but perhaps a little silly.

Seeing her regularly whilst she's on loan means that you are easily able to keep an eye on her.

By the time she's sold, you'll be more than used to seeing her with someone else.
 
amymay said:
Not selfish, but perhaps a little silly.

Seeing her regularly whilst she's on loan means that you are easily able to keep an eye on her.

By the time she's sold, you'll be more than used to seeing her with someone else.
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I totaly agree with this. Having previously had a LWVTB go bad I cannot over emphasise the importance of being able to keep an eye on your horse, its quite handy that it will be over a notoriously difficulyt time of the year. If the girl makes a good job from now till Jan you can probably rest assured she will be a good owner. It is realy difficlt giving control of your horse over to someone else, but it does get easier. Also if your horse has quirks might be hard to find another suitable owner. Even with the horse you want possibly unavailable, at least with your current one rehomed you can put your attentions to finding another suitable partner.
 
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