Am I being stupid or should I just forget it?

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I got an email from a woman a few days ago asking if my horse was still looking for a loaner.
Now, The advert I placed hasn't been online for 8 months, and when someone replies to it they cannot see or obtain your email address. (To protect your identity I think).
So, this woman send a message directly to my email address so I asked her how she got my address.
If she had just said outright that she got it from... who said I was looking for a loaner I wouldn't have bat an eyelid.
However, When I asked she said 'euh.... well, I got it from an ad'. Sorry but she can't of got it from an ad because all is done through the site so the person can't see your email address. And also the fact my ad hasn't been online for 8 months..

What is more intriguing is that I have an EX friend at the yard this girl rode at (Yes.. Have been doing some facebook stalking :D) that knows I was looking for someone and doesn't know I have a new email address. The friendship ended very badly with the friend so I am thinking she has got something to do with it. out of spite no doubt.

Am I being paranoid or what? Why would this woman lie to me? What's the point? Surely It would be better just to say outright she got my address from someone that knows me (my ex friend).
No point in lying right from the first message?
I know I am probably being petty trying to get the truth out of her but I am very wary and don't know why anyone would lie like that without something to hide..
 
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Leave it be and don't loan your horse to her.

Delete all people who you would feel uncomfortable knowing your day to day business from FB.

Then sit back relax and leave the past behind you.
 
are you still looking for a loan home? either way id probably just forget about it... if not, then no harm done. and if you are still looking, then if you can be sure shes lied, then theres no point loaning your horse to someone who has lied to you.
 
I would just forget about it, but don't loan your horse to her. That way you have nothing to worry about. My guess is, when you feel something is not right, it usually isn't. Just tell her the horse is no longer for loan.:)
 
I am still looking for a loaner and have had only timewasters and joy riders so am desperate but not to the point of letting who ever comes along ride him. Hence why I am emailing her back and talking to her I think.. I am just willing to give everyone a chance to see what they have to offer as I really do need someone for the winter :(
I get home very late and there is no chance of riding in the evening. :(

The fact she makes me wary is that she is obviously lying and if she is telling porkies about something as small as that unless we set each other straight from the start she might lie about other things that are more important.
And I don't like to know my email address is being passed around to strangers I don't know..
But then again I am desperate to find someone so seem to be giving her the benefit of the doubt at the moment. Unless she comes out truthfully though I'll forget about her.

Shame really though, My horse is quite difficult to ride but he really is the most loving horse and tries hard to please.. :(

If I could change my hours I would in a heart beat to be able to ride him everyday in the winter. I have considered turning him away for the winter (and have done previous winters) as have had no choice but he really is a horse that likes to be out and about doing stuff. I keep him all to my self in the spring/summer/autumn but in the depths of the winter when it's dark at 5 O'clock I just can't ride him. I turn him out and lunge him but I really want to find a good nice SERIOUS person who would enjoy taking him out.
This is almost depressing!!! :(
 
Ahh the advantages of facebook stalking :)

I wouldn't loan your horse to her, if she's lying from the start you can't trust her with your horse.
 
how big/old is he and what has he done? Ive got a friend looking for something to loan to do a bit of everything with although nothing bigger than 15.2. (p.s they have alot more money than us re: my post) :p
 
Perhaps your ex friend said, "I know someone who has a horse to loan that might suit you, but we fell out, so don't tell her I put you on to her." There might be no malice involved at all.
If you can be unemotional about it why not ask your prospective loanee if that was where she got your email address from? and then quickly move on to determining whether she is suitable.
 
I'd just ask her again how she got your email address and tell her she can't have got it from the advert for the reasons you stated and see what she says.

Does all sound rather odd though. Hopefully there's nothing untoward going on and she will be suitable for your horse as your winter-time situation does sound a bit tricky!
 
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