Am I being unreasonable?

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I share a yard with one of my relatives and we split the rent equally. I have 1 there and she has 2, but as I am looking for another for my daughter I don't mind paying the extra to keep the space free, plus we're the only ones there and it's nice to have our own place. Thing is she wants to get another but I don't want to pay the same amount if she has 3 and I still only have 1, even if I am still looking for another - am I being unreasonable? I feel so guilty because we are so close but I don't know how to tell her either and I know she can't afford to pay more on the livery
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If she cant afford to pay more livery then how can she afford another horse????

Surely the cost should be split 2:1 at the mo as she has 2 horses and you only have one... and when you get a 2nd, then split it equally!!
 
If she cant afford to pay more on the livery how can she afford to a) purchase and b) keep another horse?
You do need to sort this out or it will become a problem.
 
I think she'll pay for horse on visa or get one on loan with view to buy
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I know it's really irresponsible. I'm just dreading the fall out, I really don't know how to tell her and because it's family it will effect everyone - and I'm the black sheep!
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so it's easy to blame me!
 
Perhaps say that until you get the second one you want her to pay the extra then go halves again when you get the other one?
 
If she does get a third one you really shouldn't be paying half of the fees as thats really not fair on you. I suggest you to speak to her before she gets the third horse otherwise its going to be really hard as she will probably say she was unaware that the agreement would change if she got another horse.

Plus if you currently pay equal amounts and she has 2 horse and you have 1 and are reserving space for your daughters new horse (I'm assuming you have 4 stalls in total) where exactly does she intend to keep this new horse of hers?

Definately talk to her sooner rather than later otherwise you could have a huge issue on your hands.
 
I feel for you. I share with a friend I am very close to and it is very awkward. We originally had horse each, then got a companion for her horse while mine was on box rest, we have now kept that pony. My mare is having a foal in May so difficult to know how to split the rent!

I hate money!
 
Thanks, at least I know I'm not being mean! We do have 4 stables but they all live out with access to shelter and there is plenty of grazing so room isn't an issue, I just don't think it's fair money wise. I will try to talk to her but no doubt I'll be posting in a few days crying!
 
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