Am I being unreasonable?

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This is a genuine question as I am not sure if I am over reacting, so would appreciate your wise views!!

I recently set up a livery yard that is run from our family home. In the 'Yard rules' I ask that liveries ask me first prior to bringing 'non clients' onto the yard eg friends/work colleagues. However I have one livery who regularily does not do this, and tonight has just driven in accompanied by another car with 3 people in it that I do not know.

I have just spoken to her and felt horrible about it, but cannot afford to compromise the security of our home and that of other clients, equipment and horses.

Any opinions?

Thanks
 
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She knew the rules when she came to your yard so should abide by them - if she didn't think they were reasonable then she could have got livery somewhere else!

How was she when you spoke to her? Had she forgotton the rule or was she intentionally breaking it? She might be fine from now on - just needed a reminder!
 
I used to run a small yard not from my home, but once a livery had a friend who was thinking of moving to me and i turned up to meet new livery to find old livery showing her around. Saying this would be your stable and its cost this much a month etc was not happy.

I think as a livey on your yard I would want you to know the comings and goings. Im sure if the boot was on the other foot she would like to knw all her "gear" is safe
 
I have been on a yard similar although rather than it being to ask permission it was simply to inform YO who/how many people they're bringing on to yard.

I often take my nieces riding so this sort of agreement wouldn't work for me especially if I had to ask rather than just inform. If they knew the rules beforehand however, then it is different and they still chose to livery with you.

If the livery constantly brings people on without informing/asking you, then it's only right that you speak to them as you have done, as it then isn;t fair to have an exception for one livery and the others have to ask - especially if livery brings different people?

Did you livery understand your concerns when you spoke to her? Did you speak or rant as this can also make a difference. If you simply spoke to me and explained I would be happy but if you ranted and raved, as a livery I'd be unhappy.

I don't think your unreasonable and if that's the way you wish your livery set up, then the livery's need to appeciate that and go elsewhere if it's not to their liking :)
 
I used to have a few DIY liveries on my yard that is also our home. We had exactly the same rule. You are not overreacting at all. You should ask them how they would feel if strangers were wandering around their home. You are't telling them they can't bring anyone down, just that they let you know first. As you say security is priority.
I found complete strangers trying to get into my horsebox one day. A livery had bought them down with her and they decided to just "have a look around"!!
 
Not unreasonable at all, your yard your rules, and I share your concerns about strangers. As you are a new yard, this is one of those situations that will set down how you are seen by the liveries in the future- someone who makes people stick to the rules, or not! A firm but fair manager is the best thing to aim to be. Be brave about tackling her, and following it up with consequences if she won't comply even if it is scary to potentially lose clients, keep your emotions for when you are inside with family only.
 
I don't think you should feel bad at all. She should have asked, but didn't. Next time she will. At the end of the day its your home, your yard, and your rules (which are not unreasonable, its not as though you are saying no visitors, just ask 1st)
 
I dont think you are overreacting at all. She is aware of the rules and is putting you in an awkward position. All she need do is pick up a phone - how hard is that?

i would give her some kind of warning in writing, with the original rule she signed before she came to you. She should understand and would definitely take a dim view if someone else brought a dodgy one in and they came back and stole her horse.
 
Not unreasonable. I. Its only good manners 2. She knew the rules when she moved to you and 3.... if I was another livery on your yard I would not be happy with people turning up who no one else knew - in terms of security.
 
Thanks all, you have helped put my mind at ease.

I have the yard rules clearly displayed in both the livery stable block and in the tack room, and also issue a copy with their contracts when new clients arrive.

She has only been here since April and is a nice lady so suspect she just hasn't really taken on board the rules - I certainly did not have a 'go' at her, more a gentle reminder, so will see what happens in the future...!

The fun of being a YO?
 
i dont think your being unreasonable at all - with all the horrible events of late (horse abuse, theft, etc)you are just being security conscious - i think it is just courtesy and general good manners for a livery to inform you that she is bringing extras after all they could be any tom dick or harry!!:D I think if she cant follow the rules you should ask her to leave as she would soon complain if something of hers went missing or got broken:)
 
Yard rules or not, I wouldn't dream of bringing anyone on the yard without telling the yard owner who they were and in what capacity, end of.

Jane
 
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