Am I being unreasonable?

[Always_A_Moody_Mare]

I just wondered what you thought.

Basically I have been loaning/sharing for the last 4 years, but I am finding it very difficult to find the right combination of horse/owner and yard.

1. I had a pony on part loan for 3 years and it was amazing, I had the best time but I outgrew her so I had to move on, I would still be there if I hadnt grown too much!

2. Next was a very green horse that i got on with quite well however the yard became uncomfortable as they treated the younger people (me) with little respect so I left after 3 months i think.

3. The horse I was loaning was lame and the horse management of the owner was pretty shocking so i left after 2 months.

4. Currently the horse i have is lovely and so is the yard however for the past 4 months i have only been schooling, I have been on only a few hacks (only with the owner, not allowed on my own/with other under 18) and i have done no jumping. I wont go into too many details but I am being very controlled by the owner as to what i can and cannot do, and tbqh its getting me very down and im not enjoying riding anymore becuase as much as I dont mind dressage/flatwork for 4 months its is very tedious!

So what im asking is that am I being too fussy with the horses that im loaning/sharing and was I really lucky with the first horse that i shared, or have I just been unlucky and should I keep looking?

At the moment I feel like I should just give up until i can afford my own which will be a long way off yet as I can't afford it.

I apologise it was longer than i expected!

 

[MrsMozartletoe]

I think it's a case of either talking to the owner, or going looking for another horse.

 

[Honey08]

Reading between the lines, it sounds as though the owner is not totally confident in your riding/maturity, so perhaps this is not the best share for you both? It sounds as though you'd be better sharing another young person's horse, or setting down ground rules of what you'll be able to do before getting involved.