Am i just overreacting ?

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swallow shares a field with another mare but both can other horses close by. it has been made a understanding between us that both horses can be left for short periods on their own.

it's the other ladies choice to allow her horse to stay out on her own overnight so 24/7 the other horse is fine with being alone.
we had a routine going and the same happened everyday sometimes with the other horse coming out for a few hours for work.

this was all fine until about a week ago I arrived at the yard at my normal time in the evening to find this other mare in another field.... I got swallow but the stress was a lot for her.

As you can probably guess I was annoyed. understatement tbh

so her owner texted me the next day after another fellow livery happened to mention seeing swallow stressed.

apologizing and saying she would let me no if she was moving her horse for the night so I thought fair enough. live and let live


so tonight I go up....... again her horse is not in the field.

go down to a dripping wet horse again.

I want to say something but i'm not sure if i'm just overreacting?
 
Well as unpleasant as it is for your horse to get stressed, I dont see how you can possibly complain. This woman is not beholden to you, nor you her.

Why not turn out in group turnout?
 
Seems you had agree originally this arrangement was ok? How long is yours alone for? Maybe suggest you will move her horse when you bring hers in? I am assuming here yours and hers are together all day and then she moves hers later as she knows you're bringing yours in?
 
amymay said:
Well as unpleasant as it is for your horse to get stressed, I dont see how you can possibly complain. This woman is not beholden to you, nor you her.

Why not turn out in group turnout?
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I maybe didn't make it clear her horse is only meant to be in a paddock with mine or in her stable not just in a another field.

the yard owner doesn't like group turnout. no more than three I think if I remember right.
ladyt25 said:
Seems you had agree originally this arrangement was ok? How long is yours alone for? Maybe suggest you will move her horse when you bring hers in? I am assuming here yours and hers are together all day and then she moves hers later as she knows you're bringing yours in?
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she brought her in last night before I brought in swallow and she was fine as she had only been out on her own but I guess she turned her horse out into the another field right at the top of the yard so she was on her own all day today. she randomly brings her some night but i'm not sure why.
 
amymay said:
Then you need to discuss this with the yo to find out what the situation is.
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she not meant to have the horse in there and was asked by the yo to move it back but is taking no notice

it's the fact that after the first time and her saying she'd tell me to yet again not I'm trying to get swallow used to being on her own but increase the hours if she'd have just let me know I could of gone up earlier she had a horse put down last year for a field accident I thought she might have been understanding.
 
Is there maybe a reason why the lady is avoiding using the normal field? perhaps your horse is causing her a problem, is there enough grass? are you both poo picking etc etc.. If up till now the lady has been ok and has suddenly changed without apparently taking your situation in to account I would be broaching the subject gently
 
Sounds like a situation for your YO to sort out, don't get mixed up in it, it doesn't sound like it's going to end well if the woman is doing her own thing and ignoring the YO.
 
WelshD said:
Is there maybe a reason why the lady is avoiding using the normal field? perhaps your horse is causing her a problem, is there enough grass? are you both poo picking etc etc.. If up till now the lady has been ok and has suddenly changed without apparently taking your situation in to account I would be broaching the subject gently
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this isn't the first time. the reason mainly is she doesn't want to walk to the other field. the excuse she is trying to say is that her horse grass muzzle rubs. but she keeps it on her for weeks on end. so she's in the other field because she thinks afew days in the there will make a huge weightloss...
Booboos said:
Sounds like a situation for your YO to sort out, don't get mixed up in it, it doesn't sound like it's going to end well if the woman is doing her own thing and ignoring the YO.
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i'm trying not to but the yo has told me to just tell her she has to be in the other field. I just don't need the hassle right now :(
 
Tell the YO that you don't want to play Chinese Whispers between her and the other livery, it's not your job to make sure people turn out in their allocated fields, it is her job to sort it out.
 
Booboos said:
Tell the YO that you don't want to play Chinese Whispers between her and the other livery, it's not your job to make sure people turn out in their allocated fields, it is her job to sort it out.
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Exactly.

Christ the world is full of idiots.
 
I think the only way to co-share a field, is by communication to ensure the arrangement works for the two horses and owners.

Horses and people's routine's change, so the arrangement needs to be flexible. If it's not working for you or the other lady, see if the YO will allow you to swop with someone else.

In an ideal world it's much simpler to have herd turnout or to keep 2 horses at livery , which isn't much help to you OP at the moment. Hope you get something sorted.
 
Booboos said:
Tell the YO that you don't want to play Chinese Whispers between her and the other livery, it's not your job to make sure people turn out in their allocated fields, it is her job to sort it out.
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I know :(
dogatemysalad said:
I think the only way to co-share a field, is by communication to ensure the arrangement works for the two horses and owners.

Horses and people's routine's change, so the arrangement needs to be flexible. If it's not working for you or the other lady, see if the YO will allow you to swop with someone else.

In an ideal world it's much simpler to have herd turnout or to keep 2 horses at livery , which isn't much help to you OP at the moment. Hope you get something sorted.
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See as far as I was aware and have been told this is true by the yo. the routine for 5 months has been. Swallow is in the field in the day and will come in at night every night without fail now her. the another horse stays out at night most of the time til randomly she'll bring her in for a night to lose some weight :rolleyes3:. then she'd normally go back out with swallow for week or so. but the last two times now she has been placed in the other field after being in. which has never been agreed.I just want a decision making as swallow is getting stress and her horse and the one she keeps putting her in with randomly I just want to no where I stand. :(
 
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