Am I mad???

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Hi,

Hoping to get some feedback from likeminded souls on here to help me feel slightly less crazy... or perhaps you will all just confirm I am mad!!!!!!!:rolleyes:

I am a 31 year old single Mum, my daughter is nine and until now I have managed to afford to rent a tiny 2 bed house and keep our horse and pony. I work, don't depend on benefits. But, the house bills have all gone up and things have got very difficult to impossible. My mother luckily has a three bed house and has suggested we join forces and live together, so i will help her out by paying half her bills. My daughter is over the moon as her bedroom at my Mum's house is much larger than the boxroom that barely fits her bed in at our current home.

It wasn't until we had decided this was the best plan of action I realised at no point did we think of letting go of the horses rather than lose our home! Do you think this is normal? I have to say my horse is my best friend and I couldn't possibly ever think of losing him. I asked my little girl and she was horrified at the idea and said she would rather be homeless than horseless any day!:eek:

My non horsey friends, family and collegues think I am nuts, to the point where I am trying not to tell anybody what's happening anymore.

I actually saw it as a positive as I will have far more money to buy more horsey things!! :D (I will be sensible and try to save for a house deposit too!)

So am I mad or would you do the same???? :)
 
If you think it will be beneficial to live with your mum, then I don't think you are mad. Daughter gets a bigger room, to see her granny every day and have a better relationship with her, and to have a happier mum who isn't tearing her hair out over bills every day. The move makes life better and is a win win for all three of you and you get to keep the animals that give the two of you quality of life. People have a horror of living with extended family, which I think is sad. From your mum's point of view, when my grandfather died, one of my aunts and her teenage children moved in with my granny to care for her. A lot of our family though this was a bad idea and that two teenagers and an elderly lady was not a good mix. But my cousins gave my granny a new lease of life and she was happier living in a bustling, vibrant family home than living on her own in her last years. She never stopped missing my granda but it gave her a distraction. And its pointless talking to non-horsey people about horses they will never agree with you and you are ALWAYS mentally unstable! I think it sounds like a great arrangement. I think the fact that your initial reaction to your mother's suggesstion was happiness, says it all.
 
I dont think your mad, I would do the same my little cob has helped me through a lot and was always a good shoulder to cry on, it ripped me to pieces when I had to sell him in April due to my health :( but I think moving in with your mum is a good think as you are each helping one another out and your daughter seems very happy at the idea :) just remember every one is feeling the pinch at the moment :) hope every thing goes well
 
I think it's a good idea and you are not mad. It's not really a case of "homeless or horseless" as you still have somewhere to live, so make the most of it and enjoy the extra money!

However, I admit I would rather be horseless than homeless (as in, having absolutely nowhere to live!)
 
move in with your mum, whole family kept together ( including horses) sounds great to me if I were you I would go for it like a bullet.
 
I grew up with my Granny living with us, I loved having her as part of our family, 'tho I'm not so sure it was always easy on my Mum and Dad.
 
Becuase of horses (ie the expense of keeping them....) I moved back in with my mum and kind of got stuck there......I finally bought my own house with my partner 18 months ago, and to be honest, i don;t think I could do it again (move back with parents)

So i guess it depends on your relationship with your mum, if its good and can withstand living together, then go for it!
 
Well if your mum has a horse too then insanity must be in your genes!

Living in an extended family was ther norm once upon a time and still is in other countries. It wont just be money yopu save, but (depending on where your neds live) you could help out with doing each others horses, housework, childcare and cooking. If you think you can all get on ok then go for it.
 
You're not mad at all!! I've just done exactly the same so I can keep the neddies!!

I have bought a house with my sister and her husband (and kids, and mum lives with us as well!), and we share all of the bills, allowing me to spare up some money for my boy!

It just makes sense!! I have helped them out by splitting bills, and they have helped me out by splitting bills!

You will be giving your mum a helping hand as you will be paying towards the house freeing up money for her, and you'll be close as a family!

I love living with my family, wouldn't have it any other way!!! :D
 
Magicmillbrook said:
Well if your mum has a horse too then insanity must be in your genes!

Living in an extended family was ther norm once upon a time and still is in other countries. It wont just be money yopu save, but (depending on where your neds live) you could help out with doing each others horses, housework, childcare and cooking. If you think you can all get on ok then go for it.
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Agreed - I'd actually love my parents to live with us (not sure my hubby would agree!) but luckily I have them nearby so kids get lots of grandparent time. I do from time to time, look at houses for sale locally and think "that'd be great if we all moved in together".
 
I have a friends who with her husband and her 2 step kids live with his parents and grandad! That I couldnt cope with!! I think aslong as you have your own space it will be great! Think of all the things you can buy
 
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