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- if your that nervous to go down the road and back you either a) shouldnt have a horse and should go back to the riding school and gain confidence or b) you have bought the wrong horse.

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Sorry, but i think that is a bit harsh. Lots of very capable people lose their confidence, even on horses they've had for years. To say they shouldn't have a horse is wrong IMO. The roads are dangerous places nowadays, and i'm not surprised so many people are nervous.
 
No, you're not mean at all. Go out for a hack with her....... but take some parcel tape to stick over her gob......then you'll have the peace & quiet you wanted
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To those in Cornwall - can only agree - it's freezing!!!

To OP. If you really don't want to, then don't. Just say you really need to be on your own tonight, sorry, can we make it another day?
 
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Its not like she goes out with you on a regular basis from what you are saying, it is a pain and yes in theory it isnt your problem... but SURELY if you are just going for a wander anyway, why be so mean? I honestly think this is the problem with most people these days, its a case of 'im allright Jack' if it was me and it wasnt everyday, then yes i would certainly help her, i just hope you dont go and get stuck with a problem horse in the future, then you might not be so unsympathetic...
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Or worse, end up on a yard with patronising people telling you what you ought to be doing, and how nice they are in comparison to you. Brilliant.
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I often find myself in similar situations and have to remind myself that I too was once that nervous person (although as a mum taking lead rein kid out on my own to shows etc) and would have chewed my arm off for someone to come along with me or help me out, just having someone's company can make it so much easier. Now I do try to help others in the same boat - what goes around comes around. If you help her now she hopefully will in time overcome her nerves and then not only have you really helped someone out but may end up with someone to do more adventurous things with. If your ponio has a tad sore back then would it really hurt to take it steady with this girl for a while? And of course there is always the issue of earning brownie points that you can call in later when you need a favour! Go on, help her out, just think how saintly you'll feel about it afterwards. Having said all that, if you don't want to go, just don't go, have the courage of your convictions and don't beat yourself up about it! But if you are going to feel bad about it all weekend then.....!
 
well this has turned into a bit of a debate. That's me home now. yes we rode together, another girl came with us with her youngster and it was a fine hack. Schooled a bit when we got back and he went quite well.

I maybe was a bit mean to want to get out of it, but I just needed a bit of quiet time to chill the brain cells. anyhoo all done, everyone happy hosses in bed.

Shilasdair, I hope you didn't mean me there. I don't rate myself as an expert and do try not to patronise or give advice unless it's asked for.

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Shilasdair, I hope you didn't mean me there. I don't rate myself as an expert and do try not to patronise or give advice unless it's asked for.

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Sorry, no, I meant the person who was lecturing you about what you ought to do....life's too short to spend your leisure time suiting other people.
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doh! god, I am oversensative and grumpy just now. It's amazing anyone wants to talk to me, let alone hack out with me. lol. well well, time for a g&t.

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Well I think that you are a very kind person to do what you did this evening especially after you explainbed about your weekend etc. I hope that she appreciated it. Have a good weekend and enjoy your F&T
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