Am I taking advantage of her ?!?

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Sorry to bother you again
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Well the thing is feel really bad towards Sian (lady who is currently schooling Sol) .
She says she is really happy riding Sol (upto/usually 5 times a week ) but I feel like I'm reallt taking the p*ss TBH .
She knows that I want to compete her etc but she still offers to do it !
Pretty much people at the yard are saying I am taking the p*ss big time and I ask too much off her as she has her own dressage horse to keep fit/in work

So do you think I am taking liberties and should just do it myself ?
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ETA - I offered to pay her , she said no ! We came to the arrangment that whenever I go anywhere she brings a horse too , and we don't want diesel of her . Also she rides Sol in lessons and she takes her horse too !
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If she is happy and you are happy with her and what she is doing for/with Sol, then I see no problem. Pay no attention to what other people say. If you are really unhappy and feel you are taking advantage then you need to speak to Sian and say that if she really is happy with the amount she is doing then you feel you must do something for her even if it's buying her a new pair of jods for dressage or something like that every so often.
 
I did give her a new pair of Toggi Breeches this PM .
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I just feel like she wouldn't say anything if she was pissed off because she loves Sol and wants to keep involved with her as she has been there since day one
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No, you arent. She obviously enjoys riding the horse and you have offered to pay her and she said no, so she cant be peed off at all. Sounds like a very nice arrangement and everyone is happy.
 
i think, unless you are very thick skinned, you would notice if she was getting pee'd off. Go with it for the time being, keep your eyes open to her mood and ignore everyone else. Short of calling it off and risking upsetting and alienating her, that's all you can do.
 
If she's happy (and by that she's not trying to stick a dagger in your back as she says she's fine :-))

Then perhaps treat her with a few present as other people have suggested. as she has a dressage horse perhaps find a few good show that are predominately dressage and make sure she goes with her horse. Or find out when one of the top flight events are on and suprise her with tickets.

It sounds like you have a good 'un there - don't let her go.

Well actually i take that back - you are more than welcome to send her my way - my dressage is shocking!

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tell the people offering opinions that it is none of their business quite frankly
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They will never leave me alone
But atleast now I can tell them to shove it up their ars*s !
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Is there any reason in particular you don't ride her? I'm not getting at you, I'm just wondering why someone else is riding your horse. It's so lovely to ride that when I get the opportunity, I'm on!

If you've asked to pay her and she's said no and you've got this arrangement about her coming with you to competitions, I don't think you can take the p*ss. What's it got to do with the other people on the yard - nosey whatsits!
 
No as long as everyone is happy then whats the problem? If you are providing transport to shows because she doesn't have any then it is a mutually beneficial arrangement.
I have done similar things in the past with riding other peoples horses, some I would ride for free because I was rewarded with something other than money, and some I was paid to ride.
Do what suits you and Sian!
 
You've spoken openly about it, you're both okay with the situation as it is so there's no problem.
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To the people who can't stay out of it, merely smile and tell them you are both happy with the situation as you've arranged it and no one is feeling hard done by. Don't make it a big deal - because it isn't - just keep it simple and don't get justifying yourself. They will soon loose interest if you don't react and go off to find someone else to get a rise out of.
 
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