Am I the biggest coward in the world when it comes to buying?

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I must have looked at every horse selling website and every picture of every horse thinking about getting around to buying another horse. Even had photos from a HHO contact and have I followed up any, have I been to try any - nope. There is one for sale that I very nearly almost rang up about and then when I looked at the photo again I realised why it appealed to me its a Doppelganger for my retired lad. My worst friend would send me out to try a 3 legged EMU bless her she does not give sound advice but at least she is someone to ignore.
So finally I decided to ring a friend who deals and who I trust and found myself ringing his number while he would be out how sad is that?
I was nearly having a heart attack as I waited for the phone to be answered by his daughter and he is going to ring me back tonight. I know he will tell it like it is to me and maybe get my bum in gear. Why oh why cant you get horses off Amazon or Ebay (only joking I havent got any blonde hair its dyed to hide the grey.)

Am I bonkers ??
 
No I am the same praying for the answerphone to come on so I don't need to speak directly to anyone.

I scoured all the internet sites looking for the "one" and loved it when I saw an email address as a form of contact.

I have now found one and fingers crossed he'll do me proud.

I'm no spring chicken and old enough to know better.

So no your not bonkers.
 
I terrible with phoning people up...i hate it! Was lucky with daisy mae as there was a email address instead to contact.
 
Stay focused in knowing exactly what you want, try and be positive (there is a horse out there for everyone..honest!) and be confident in yourself, otherwise you will either get talked into buying a horse your not 100% sure about.. or people may take advantage of you etc.

There are good dealers out there, some that will go out and find the right horse for you, don't rush things, take a deap breath and enjoy looking for your pefect partner...its like dating lol!
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Thanks Henrys mum I may yet take you up on that. My head say get an older experienced horse my heart says get something young and pretty. Go to horsequest and look at pricemovers and see who the third one down reminds you of TALENTED SPORT HORSE.
Another one I should not be looking at has no photos displayed the link must be broke its a Skewbald called 'Spot the Dot' probably too small probably unsuitable and probably not the sort of skewbald I like.

T think I have answered my own question I probably am bonkers.
 
I know how you feel but please don't do what I did, found my ideal horse, sounded wonderful, was being vetted over the phone by owner and me asking the most stupid questions, went to try the horse, well the horse was malnourished (sp) didn't look anyhting like the pictures, one leg was longer than the other, missing a front tooth, so smiled sweetly and said he was lovely, tried him, he was nice but was asked every 5 secs whether I was happy with him as I was the only one they had seen him go nicely with. came to the crunch and the people were so nice and made me feel guilty I said I would have him. all the way home and that night I was panicking as I didn't want another horse that I wasn't happy with I called to say that I had changed my mind but before I could get it out they were saying that they were so pleased as we were made for each other - in the end I had to lie - i mean a HUGE lie and said I'd fallen off another horse and broken my leg - they then turned into stalkers and said they would keep him until I was better (3 months or so) drop his price and pay for the livery!!! Luckily I managed to avoid all calls after that - but my god did I feel like a complete nutter - sorry if this was hijaking but I thought it might make you laugh and know that you are not that bad!!!!xx
 
I found it really difficult to make any calls, and only went to see horses my friends recommended to start off with, then i tentivily started calling the ones i wanted and some had gone, that got my attention!
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so i stalked HH and horsemart checking the sites every hour in case a new one had been added and if i liked it i called straight away and made a viewing, i forced myself to be honest when i saw the horse in real life and let them know straight away if it wasnt for me, once you have done it once it is much easier, i promise
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one thing that helped with the phone calls - i made a list of questions and ran through them and made notes, it took my mind off beeing terrified!
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ooh no lochpearl thats not Hi-Jacking. When I bought the lovely Gulliver I had tried a disaster and felt so deparate that I asked for it on trial I phoned up when I got home and cencelled it.
The rule will be if I dont like it I wont even get on it. This will probably be my last horse if I am lucky (53 + at least 10 is 63 make that 15 thats 68) and it rides better than it looks is no use to me. I have to worship it when I am at my lowest ebb just like piccys 2 Shady Lady and 3 Gulliver in my sig both times I got to the yard and thought damn I like it and I havent even sat on it. Then sat on them and loved them Shady Lady aka Rhoda is now happily retired as a plodder and is er ummh I have lost count 24 or 25 and Gulliver bless him ummmh I'll fess up lives with Henry as a companion and is 17.
 
I think i could have passed out when i had to phone up about Buddy. First horse makes it all so exciting but also had all this nervous energy aswell, i was shaking all the time on the phone. She was such a lovely lady though...and i am so glad i did pick up the phone even though it was so scary! Couldnt be without him now!!!
 
Well done you are all making me feel so much better! I have spent all day humming and umming and erring about trying horses and I do now swear to shift my butt.

Please Santa send me something pretty to try that makes me giggle with happiness.
 
When I posted it before I was told I was too piccy and was limiting myself but about 16hh age 6 to 8 good looking not grey can jump do a bit of dressage, cross country play with in school.

The not Grey bit is because I have very bad light sensitivity and when I owned a grey (I Hate her still as she wax a major error in judgement) she hurt my eyes in the summer (seriously)

I have become a little wary from the horror stories I have read on here I must admit.
 
Oh gosh don't get me started - i HATE using the phone at the best of times, and when enquiring about a horse I get breathless, red blotches creep up my chest and neck, my palms sweat etc...If there is an email contact on an advert then I enquire (which is largely pointless as most sellers don't reply and you can't get a feel for the person without listening to their voice and have to speak to them in person at some stage...). I must have missed on lots of 'perfect for me' horses by not ringing directly.

To cap it all, tomorrow a friend is going to look at a horse for me (I did ring up about this one, see above scenario) as she lives about an hour away and I'm about 4 hours away, and to be completely honest if she thinks it is the horse for me I'll buy it (after vetting) which will be my ideal as I won't have to ride it with people watching me which totally freaks me out (slap me now) and I'm already dreading the fact that I may have to speak to the seller again to agree price etc (I'm even worse talking about money)...

God I'm crap, and I hate myself for it! Older enough to know better and to get a bl**dy grip!
 
lol, i love phoning up, gives me a chance to talk about myself some more! Just kidding. But no, buying horses is a tricky thing, good luck!
 
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