Annoyed and in a pickle, my missing thread now reposted without offensive language!

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*Reposted again as it was pulled and I got my wrist slapped (not the poorly one) by TFC. I have removed all offensive words, so if you wish to insert offensive words you will use your imagination. What were offesive words shall now be refered to by the word cookie*

So on Christmas day I got a text from one of my clients (I ride one of her horses), who just so happens to be my good friend's mother. She due to go on holiday on Monday (Yesterday), but the housesitter had let her down, and she wes desperate for somebody to come look after the 3 horses, 2 dogs, some sheep, and geese, and a cat. So me being me said with a bit of juggling I would be able to do it (bearing in mind I have my own yard, which currently has 9 horse's stabled ). I told her I would stay overnight and do morning and evening jobs, but during the day I would have to be at my yard, which she said was no problem as she understood it was short notice . She said she would pay me what she had been going to pay the original housesitter (which was a bit stingy considering I was to work 3 bank holidays and New Year), but seeing as I wouldn't be there most of the day I agreed . So Yesterday afternoon I turned up so she could show me where everything was, and how she did things, before she left in the evening. At which point she announces the dogs can't be left for more than 4 hours as they go ballistic, one of the horse's has laminitis, so has to stay in until lunch time, just going out in the afternoon. And then the geese have to be shut in by 4pm at the latest . I nicely reminded her I had a 9 horse yard to look after aswell, plus travel which takes half an hour each way. To which I was told I would just have 'to get on with it' and it wasn't her problem when I did my own yard . She also then announced she didn't have enough dog food to last the week, so I would have to go buy some more! Also one of the horse's is on 2 medications, both of which will run out tommorrow. Of course it being bank holiday the vets are closed, so tomorrow i'm going to have to call the vets to get a repeat prescription, then drive a 40 minute round trip, and find and pay for parking (which can take forever to get a space) to pick it up . Any body else get the feeling she is taking the proverbial ???????

Anyway got up today, did her animals, was carrying 2 buckets of water when I slipped over on the wet crazy paving . It really hurt, my wrist has swollen up, and can't put pressure on it, but can move all my fingers, so assuming it's just soft tissue damage. I also managed to bang my elbow which is now getting really stiff as i've sat down and stopped using it. And the worst being my back is now hurting alot (I broke it a few years ago doing a fair bit of damage to my spinal cord it is a miricle i'm still walking) and can't move it at all, i'm all out of ibruprofen, and paracetamol isn't touching it . I know it will be worse in the morning, when I last aggrivated it (which was about a year ago, and wasn't as bad as now) I couldn't ride or muck out for 2 weeks .

Luckily one of my lovely friends has stepped in to help out on my yard, but i'll still have a lot of heavy work to do, as well as riding the horses, plus all the work from the house i'm housesitting for. I feel a little bit like i'm up *cookie* creak without a paddle. Anybody got any bright ideas ??????

To add insult to injury the bucket of cold water landed on my head, drenching me from head to foot with icy cold water.

Sorry for the moan, just i'm so cross and my back really hurts . But there may be a fun sized bag of Haribo if youv'e got this far !
 
Well she's an ungrateful cookie isn't she?

I used to house sit for someone like this. It completely infuriated me

Get an xray. It could well be broken. I could still move my fingers both times I broke mine. Call her up and tell her she has to come home. You have hurt yourself. She needs to either come back or arrange something else.
 
Oh no! I had a bad feeling about this when you posted earlier, but hoped it would work out OK. She's taking the proverbial and I have a horrible feeling that you aren't charging a fraction of what you should be - now that she has revealed the true extent of the commitment.
Have they gone abroad? Regardless, I'd be inclined to give them 48 hours notice to get another sitter in because of your injury and give them the numbers of professional house/animal sitting companies. Surely you can afford to lose this person as a friend after they've decieved you about the extent of the work and doubtless paid you much less than the professional sitter was really going to charge.
I am quite volatile sometimes, and in your shoes when she said I'd "just have to get on with it" I'd have turned on my heel and kept walking.
 
You could also ask her for the number of her insurance company because you are going to sue her for the loss of earnings and expenses you will incur as a result of the injuries you sustained on her property?
 
I still reckon you should tell her about the accident and that she needs to find someone else to help her out!

I would also get the wrist checked out as well, at least you'll be able to get stronger pain killers at least!

**hugs and get well soon vibes***
 
Thanks guys! I've managed to get Dad to help on my yard at home, and mum is coming to help me housesitting (Thank god they are not working this week!). Good old parents, even at nearly 24 they still come to my rescue when I need them! They tell me to get on with it, and chalk it down to experiance.
 
How does angelish get b***ger through the filter when I sent a PM with the letter eff followed by 3 stars and it came out as no eff and 8 stars??? Hmph!

GO TO A&E. You can't risk displacing a fracture if it is broken.

Ring the woman, tell her you've had an accident while doing her horses and you can't continue. No amount of money is worth risking making your back worse, or further damaging your wrist, break or no break.

If she DARES to whinge, ask her very politely and firmly for her insurance company's details, as you will need to make a claim against her insurance.

And yes, I think she has taken the proverbial cookie. DO NOT go out of your way to continue to "do the right thing" by her - its completely unreasonable. Yes she will be landed in the creek, but if your friend is willing to do them for 24 or 48 hours (and for goodness sake get them to put a firm cap on it because I'm sure she'll squeeze people out further) then that is still over and above your call of duty and you may consider yourself sufficiently our of said creek.

and PLEASE, GO TO A&E. Even if it is "only" soft tissue, they may decide to strap you up.
 
You're nicer than me :)

Please go get an xray though eh? Arm, elbow and back if you need them all. That's why we pay our taxes after all
 
My plan is to see how I am tomorrow, i'm telling myself it will all be fine in the morning!!!! (denile??????-possibly!) Actually my wrist doesn't hurt anywhere near as much as my back! If it is still like this i'll go to the docs (I hate A&E!) tomorrow.
 
Yes, you are in denial, in the nicest possible way. Do what Naturally has told you, she's hit the nail on the head with a very large hammer. I dread to think what you ended up getting paid for this. You are a very, very nice person, but you need to be a little bit less nice now.
 
You need to go to A&E if you have damaged your back you need to be seen to asap!

Problem being, why should the animals suffer because she a jumped up watsit - If I was told "to get on with it" I would turn round say you have an attitude problem and I am not being your gopher!!!

She can put her money were her mouth is and pay for someone that is not broken and just drop into conversation that you would like her insurance details for loss of earnings!
 
Not Much help on the original post but can you turn your arm over? I fell in the snow last year and really hurt my arm but as i had managed to lift up my shopping bags and carry them home and I could move all my fngers I assumed i was fine. Over the next few hours the pain got worse and worse so i finally went to A&E & it turned out i had fractured my elbow! My nurse friend tells me one of the best tests you can do it if you are able to turn your arm over without the pain getting worse.
Hope you are ok!!
 
what was wrong with your other thread??
I said that i would have told her to take a hike if she had put all that extra on me and told me to get on with it.
I think i would have got a price from a free lancer and then told her that you had had an accident but had found someone else and it was going to cost whatever.
What a rude and obnoxious woman she sounds.

I would get checked out at a&e. also if you have run out of meds, call NHS24, they can call the pharmacy and get them to give you your normal meds to tide you over.

after being checked, i would take some arnica and have a hot bath. Hope you don't feel too terrible tomorrow.
 
siobhain said:
Not Much help on the original post but can you turn your arm over? I fell in the snow last year and really hurt my arm but as i had managed to lift up my shopping bags and carry them home and I could move all my fngers I assumed i was fine. Over the next few hours the pain got worse and worse so i finally went to A&E & it turned out i had fractured my elbow! My nurse friend tells me one of the best tests you can do it if you are able to turn your arm over without the pain getting worse.
Hope you are ok!!
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I can turn it over, bit sore once it get past 90 degrees, but I think it's ok, doesn't hurt as much as other breaks i've had! Might go see if a bath helps the back, i'm trying to be positive that it will all be ok in the morning!
 
Hope you get better soon, and glad friend/parents have stepped in to help. Next time anyone asks, you're busy!!! I personally would have told the lady to get lost when she gave me the list of jobs (esp the bit about not enough food/meds), and walked out, but I appreciate if your reputation needs to stay clean, that you can't do that.
 
Get your cookie-ing cookie to A&E now!

And I cookie speak as one cookie broken backed person to another!!

And as to the cookie cookie - tell her to call a house sitter as you are done. Any arguments from her, ask if her insurance is up to date!

In the meantime, have a hig and a hot choccy :)
 
naturally :p
its favoritism a tell ya
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Please go to A&E. My OH broke his wrist and didn't go to A&E, he reckoned that it couldn't be that bad as he went to the gym and did some weights after he'd done it. It turned out he had broken it and had to have a complex operation to have it plated. Ten years later on he still doesn't have full use of that wrist, I doubt he ever will. If he'd got it seen to at the time it would have healed properly.
 
Ditto the other about going to A and E, love it or hate it (and any normal person hates it!) you need to go! (and I'm a nurse, so consider yourself told!!!!!)

I think I'd have told her I wasn't getting the food or meds, as lets face it, she did know when she was going and how long for, so has no excuse. either that or charged her for your in-conveinience.

Good luck, hope nothing is seriously damaged, but please put yourself first. In future are you able to stretch a hosepipe instead of carting buckets about?
 
Ok , heres my take on things , prob won't help but here goes...first of all.... If I had said i can't work during day , then had got there and she said dogs couldn't be left for more than 4 hours and had a lamanitic pony, i would have walked away , unless she had someone covering the day shift.It was up to her to cover all the conditions you set .Next if ( and I often do )had left my animals in someone elses care , if all went horribly wrong and they broke something or for some reason got so injured they couldn't carry on and there was noone else reliable to carry on, I would want to know so I could come home .And yes I have booked a flight home from mauritius to get back when my plans of dog sitters let me down .How ever saying all this .If you are taking on a job where you have sole responsability of a yard then you have to do what ever is in your capabilities to carry on until the time you can no longer go it alone.If you work on an individual basis and people rely on you , you have to fight on, which it seems you are doing.
The owner to me has been irresponsible in not telling you the truth but you also are to blame for taking on to much if you were not up to both the jobs.
I hope you get well soon and learn a valuable lesson in life. Take care.
 
Please please go to A&E, I broke my wrist at the beginning of november and thought it was just a sprain but after 3 days i was still really painful. Because i carried on using it during the 3 days i have done loads more damage and have consequently been in pot for 2 months - no riding, mucking out, driving, etc etc etc. I have had to learn t do everything with my left and have been advised that i "may never regain the strength and abilities i had before the accident" :(

It is better to be safe than sorry :/

hope you manage to sort out the silly cookie woman and get yourself out she is using you and thats no way to treat friends

get well soon xx
 
The most valuable lesson I have learnt in life is learning to say no.
You wince and feel aweful the first time you do it but after a couple of times its very freeing and its suprising how many people who could not possbly cope with out your help can now do so.
Go to your GP or A/E, make a dairy of events and if you have to sue for loss of earnings.
A true friend would not have left you this mess, so she is not a friend but an oppotunest.
 
Please go to A&E. A young girl fell off my pony, banged her head & wrist. Arm seemed ok to us but I got her Dad to take her to A&E as I was worried that she was complaining of feeling dizzy - head was fine, wrist was broken.
 
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