annoying liveries wwyd?

I have downloaded Audible to my phone and lisren to books while I am mucking out and doing chores - works a treat - as does saying "excuse me while I just crack on" . . . you son't have to be rude but it's perfectly ok to say that you need to get on.

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If I don't want to socialise, I say a quick hello, plug my iPod in and get on with what I have to do.
Surely that's all that's needed here, OP.

As for people saying you're depressing, that's not fair. If I've had a busy day at work, sometimes the last thing I want to do when I go up to the yard is shove a fake grin on my face and chat about lame horses and annoying yard rules. I want to sort my horse out and spend time with him and wind down!
 
I don't understand this at all :confused:
If you don't want to talk, just walk past, saying "hello" as you go, and get on with your jobs. I'm not one for gossip and when I was on a larger yard this is what I would do. Otherwise, stop for a quick chat, then say "right, must get on with my jobs" and go and do your thing. No-one is making you talk to them!
 
This can be such a difficult situation if they are gossiping, rather than just being friendly...

My previous yard had a group of women like this - if you didn't join in with the 'discussions', and take all advice offered (without asking for it!), then you were being antisocial... If I just said hello and got on with the horse, I was being rude. If I tried to make an effort to have a cup of tea and chat, I was told how I should be doing xyz differently...

Got to the point several times where I just didn't want to be there, as whatever I did was wrong... Ended up moving to a different yard and it's the best thing I ever did - I enjoy going up there, and everyone is lovely. Advice is offered if asked for, everyone is supportive, rather than giving the vibe that they're being nice, then moaning about you as soon as you're gone :(

Wish I'd moved earlier! My theory being that it isn't just riding the horse - it's all the other things, and if I'm avoiding the yard, that isn't what I'm paying for!

Perhaps they did sometimes genuinely think they were being nice, perhaps not, either way, I wasn't comfortable with the way they spoke about other people, and expect they were and are talking about me that way too!
 
Sometimes I will talk to the other liveries and sometimes I won't. I always say hello and I am polite, but just by walking on and doing my horses, or feeds etc, it is clear I am not stopping for a chat. No one takes offence and I don't if they do it with me either.

I get little time each day to do the horses as it is, so don't want to spend all my time there talking - I want to spend it with my horses - everyone is fairly much in the same boat though. Just do the same?
 
Rose Folly said:
I have a livery who sounds a bit like you. She is depressing, as she only wants to talk if SHE has something to say, and then she talks in cliches anyway.

Perhaps you should find a livery, like on a farm, where you are the only client. The farmer certainly won't have time to talk to you all day, and you can have all the horse time you want?
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You dont sound much of a dream either tbh
 
Is there anything you can do to remove yourself and your horse out of their way?

Haven't been on a yard for years but on bigger yards there's sometimes out of the way corners where you can take the horse in hand to have a bit of grass or a walk round.

It would drive me nuts if there was always somebody hanging around while I was doing stuff with my pony.
She's the one I enjoy talking to, got a houseful at home for conversations.

Find a place where if they do follow you, they will look weird.:D
 
As many others have said, I would happily say hi, make a throwaway comment about something trivial like the weather, and walk on by with purpose. Do your jobs, ride your horse, whatever you need to do - and leave, with a cheery goodbye. Overly chatty people can be a bit much I suppose, but I'd trade that any day over being ignored.
 
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