ANOTHER sharer rant

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I got a new sharer (must be the eighth) We was due for a hack last sunday but my horse came out of its stable lame. I txt the sharer to say best leave it she is lame.. needs a bit of time off i think.. and she text back FAIR ENOUGH
Thats it! No, well i will come and groom anyway, give her some love or anything. This was last Sunday.. and she hasnt text all week to ask how she is.....

Should i get rid of this 'sharer'... another one... AGAIN! I know no-one is perfect and they dont USUALLY look after your horse as good as you but this is getting silly now. Or am i being harsh...
 
If I were you I would just text her with an update saying how the horse is and ask if she is still wanting to continue with the arrangement, considering he is lame.

How long has she been sharing him?
 
i dont think your being harsh i think she has gone funny

maybe ring her? or txt her
if she dosent reply i would look for a new sharer but that is my opinoin.
its up to you

good luck
 
About 2 weeks... came up about 8 times i guess. she was another one that didnt muck out or anything so no great loss i guess. I dont ask for any money and have come to terms with the fact i dont think they like muckimg out and that...
 
Im fed up... she has copd and mud fever at the minute so could do with a hand too. I just dont think she cares... and that to me is really important more than money, skills and knowledge etc..
 
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I dont ask for any money and have come to terms with the fact i dont think they like mucking out and that...

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No mucking out and you don't ask for money , I can't believe some people still don't make the effort !!
 
If she's been up 8 times in 2 weeks I would count that as good.
To a certain extent as a sharer , particularly if I had a long journey and knew the owner was doing the jobs etc. I would not go up if the horse was lame, particularly if I hadn't been doing itlong..
Or maybe she is waiting for you to make contact?
 
Indeed, i really thought she would put in the riding hours and thought, okay, i will pay and do the chores (even though advert was for loan/half loan originally) as she seems keen to come up and ride... she doesnt have a long journey (10 mins) but didnt really expect her to come up to a certain extent ... but did expect a text or phone call to see how she was? Maybe i am being unreasonable, i dunno! I just want her to have someone to love her like their own. I have 2 horses, and bad i know, but all my time and love goes to the other.
 
Maybe its just the way I'm reading what you text her but the way I read it, it sounds like you sort of told her to leave things for a while as your horse needed time off. I realise after reading your reply to someone else that is not what you meant but maybe she thinks you don't want her there at the moment.?
 
Ooh, maybe - texts are cr** really... you sometimes come across wrong. I shall text and say i am dissapointed she hasnt checked on mistys status but is okay now if she wants to come up.
 
I've given up on sharers. Its fantastic when it works out but its too difficult to find a good, reliable one. Its too disruptive going through the many that get bored of their new toy after a few weeks and let you down.

It seems to be the sad truth that people have no interest in caring for something that isn't theirs. If I had been riding a horse that went lame, I would still go up and visit it and groom it. I was offering an even better deal to my sharers than you - horse on full livery, no charge, just 2 days a week when they could ride and could spend unlimited other time with horse if they wanted TOTALLY FREE. Horse really well behaved and well schooled. I got 2 that both seemed keen at first. Then was shocked when one obviously wasnt coming up without telling me, which was annoying as meant my horse wasnt fed as told yard staff to leave feed aside until after being ridden. This happened at least 3 times then she just sort of faded away without bothering to tell me - she has her own horse now. The other got fed up after 2 months and cancelled the arrangement, which I preferred.
 
i dont think your being harsh at all,i think the same way.i have a sharer who just rides also, (im fussy about the way her stable is done and we have never got around to sorting out any financial contribution) i to would be a bit miffed if the horse was off work and the sharer didnt at least inquire after her once in a while or pop up and just spend time with the horse on occasion. it would make me wonder if they did actually care about the horse or if they were just in it for the free ride regardless!
 
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Ooh, maybe - texts are cr** really... you sometimes come across wrong. I shall text ...

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As you say, texts can come across wrongly (and may have done on both sides), so why text again? A phone call would mean you both know what each other means.
 
Crikey......... I share a horse who has been lame for three weeks now (foot abcess) I still go up there on "my" days and muck out, I also muck out the owners other horse, and do all their chores, and sometimes ride her other horse aswell... i wouldnt dream of doing nothing just because Boris is lame... I just like being around horses, its not ALL about the riding!

See there are still some good sharers out there!!
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I ride April for someone
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I love her just as much as if she was mine and I am probably more over protective because she's not.

I would visit her if she was lame and I quite often go to see her even when it's not to ride just to say hello. I don't want to be the one that just goes to ride her, I like to groom her and play with her just as much.

I don't muck out as I work full time and only visit at weekends but I pay for her shoes, vaccs and insurance. I always muck out when I can and help them with their other 10 horses.
No-one would ride her if I didn't as her owners ride Western.

Good luck with your one. Maybe you need to ring her and have more of a personal touch.
When I started riding April I was terrified of being unwelcome and over-stepping the mark so you need to make sure your sharer feels welcome
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April's owners are amazing, they love her to get out and about and always encourage me to take her places and we are having so much fun.
 
Your sharer got a good deal - I shared a horse b4 I got my own that was only able to be ridden in gentle walk for months and then went lame again and I mucked and did my chores and paid £25 a week. I was not able to ride her properly for about 6 months in total!
 
your not being harsh, my sharer is awful... not heard from her for a week and im not bothering to contact her until she gets in touch first!! wont be finding another sharer as id rather handle the financial side of things myself now and keep the 2 kids that ride my pony doing the grooming and riding, they dont pay anything but they love him and him them!!
 
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