Anxious about accidents

[MochaDun]

Been reading a lot of posts on here about people lacking in confidence in their riding which I also had to tackle when I had my pony the first year as he got a bit nappy but we got ourselves sorted.

But currently I find myself with the most odd fears. Nothing to do with our riding but the dread of something happening to my horse that will mean I lose him through accident or injury. I know it's stemming from a lot of upheaval and the loss of security within my work and financial situation last year which has left me feeling very exposed and very aware of what are the truly important things in my life (my horse being one of those things). I'm still not back on track in those work/money areas, but hopefully with some work I've got across this year things will be building up again.

It just seems so ridiculous but currently my legs go to jelly when silly things happen around the yard which I never used to worry about. Eg, horses getting out of fields and loose around yard at speed, or the geldings fighting at the gate to come in, other peoples horses not well, etc. I find myself getting very stressed about it which I never used to. I'm trying to focus on my pony and I and look forward to summer and cranking up our riding again and have a couple of things I want to achieve this year but wish I could stop this unnecessary worrying.

I know stuff happens with horses, I've seen 3-4 people lose their horses in tragic circumstances since I've had mine but I want to live for the present with mine, not get bogged down in the what if. Anyone else found themselves with these sort of fears out of nowhere? This afternoon I saw what looked like a horse rescue situation with the fire brigade in a nearby field and I felt almost sick.

 

[TopTotty]

How about talking to a professional counsellor or someone who deals with neuro issues. You already think you know why it is happening and these people can help you sort your thoughts out and think in a slightly different way which will help you.
Good Luck

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[noblesteed]

Stress does funny things to you. It affects you in the most unexpected ways. I recently survived a redundancy situation and the stress made my eye twitch! Now my job is secure it has stopped completely! I also got very upset with my horse, who was picking up on my stress and playing me up terribly, and I thought of selling him etc.
It's illogical to worry in this way but your stress is affecting you and manifesting itself like this.
I found Paul McKenna's hypnosis CD very very helpful. Also herbal sleeping tablets helped me sleep. Failing that I was all ready to see a counsellor but thankfully things settled down at work.

 

[miss_c]

MD - if you're on FB I can fill you in about the horse rescue, a few people from ours were involved.

I absolutely dread anything happening to G, and I worry quite easily about small things (after the way I lost Mazzie, not surprising tbh). I'd like to be chilled about things but I just can't. Mentally it's taken its toll (I've been off about things now for a good year) and has affected my moods.

Don't really have any suitable advice, apart from focus on what's happening at that moment and how lucky you are to have such an amazing horse. That's what I do with G.

xxx