Anyone else just think they can't do this?

Horsegirl said:
A week??? I have 2 horses both 16.1 who eat non stop unlimited hay and I pick 2 barrows a week out of their field and it is completely clear.
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HOW????
I've two 14.2hh ponies, a standard barrow and I take one full barrow out PER day. Actually the other day, I just couldn't fit any on the first and had to go to a second wheelbarrow :( I think mine must be throwing parties and they're all leaving their shi t behind!! :D
 
Puppy said:
Actually, I think we've established that your horses are clearly lobbing their poos into in MY horses' paddocks! :mad:
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That just made me chuckle :D this thread reminds me of a post a few weeks ago:

The truth is...

I'd rather be with horses than with most people.
I'd rather scrub buckets than scrub dishes.
I'd rather go to a tack shop than go to a supermarket.
I'd rather clean a stable than clean the house...

and I much prefer horse **** to BULL ****

horses are what keep me sane :D
 
The Fuzzy Furry said:
Actually, I think we need a new thread - for wheelbarrow SIZE - as this has not yet been taken into account :mad:
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Indeed.

In fact- sadly- last night I was thinking about this thread as I did my poo-picking.

3 horses out for at least 12 hours per day = roughly one orange B+Q wheelbarrow.

So it would take my horses 3 weeks to fill roughly the same amount of barrows as Cedars was complaining about.

So if I had 4 horses - give or take -2 weeks to acheive the 18 barrow figure....

I poo pick every day cos I hate doing it.....only takes 10-15 mins per day and then you don't have to do a marathon sesh.

Either that or I pay my teenage son:D


(FWIW....I guess theres loads of us that manage multiple horses on top of a full time job, kids etc- so I'm a total meaner but no sympathy from me:rolleyes:)
 
Do I get a prize for having a poo picking poem?

Every s h i t that I shift is one less to lift:D

After developing that and chanting it thousands of times my mother said "What on earth are you poo picking for? We never used to with the farm horses, no-one does for cows, why don't you just harrow?"

So whilst I was waiting for the harrow to arrive I could be found singing this:
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whilst dancing around madly and kicking s h i t out of the piles on the field.
 
Oh Cedars, I had no idea things were this bad 80( From the picture you've painted I think it's easy to say 'He doesn't really love you, MIL doesn't like you so leave', but only you know the detailed lay of the landscape, and I trust you'll make the right decisions to make yourself happy.

I've discovered that, when I need to explain to my OH about how things are getting on top me, I first of all acknowledge everything I'm lucky enough to have. So I'd open a big chat about how much you appreciate the yard, Puz etc, so he can scrap that ungreatful claim. I also find that men in general need to be told not just that x is happening, but "this is how x makes me feel". Certainly my OH is sensitive, but he does respond emotionally very differently than I do, and explaining the exact emotions that certain situations cause me always opens his eyes and makes him more sympathetic.

With all that in mind and giving that you plan to say, I think it's only fair that your 'weekend' or 'day off' at least is disucessed and sorted. Your OH clearly has a day or two off work, and your MIL has her non-horsey day at the weekend (the weekdays being your livery-payment duties). It's only fair that you be granted the same, or at least that you're only responsible for Puz on that day/those days, rather than general yard duties like poo picking.

As you are paying for your livery in toil, I'd highlight what livery allows: i.e. bedding, stable, field, hay and ACCESS TO FACILITIES! Having a school but not being able to use does not qualify as livery: it is a necessary part of the fee you pay in livery. The fact that your fee is not in cash should not enter the picture. (If OH is away all week, I'd be busy in that school and on that quad as no one would know, but it would be much better for things to be open and honest rather than needing to resort to that).

What would really hurt me though, is if my MIL-to-be said something to my OH about me and he automatically believed her without even asking me. I know his Mum has been so all his life and he has no reason to think she'd be lying, but he loves and trusts me, so would have no reason to believe I'd been up to no good/been lazy either. I'd expect him to ask me about it and have a rational conversation. That's not too much to ask for, and I hope in future your OH grants you this.

FWIW, a ring on the finger wouldn't help in my opinion - if he truly believes that you're too young but would give you a ring to keep hold of you, you could end up having a five year engagement to counteract it. The financial pressure of a wedding wouldn't likely help at this junction either.

Whatever your plans are though, and whether your OH is yours or not for life, I'd be pursuing the loan issue with the welfare charity and changing it to your name as soon as possible. As I say, it needn't be anything to do with an exit strategy, but it is both smart and fair. Perhaps when the time comes that you meet their criteria, you suggest it as the best b'day/xmas gift ever? Men do love it when they don't have to think of a gift, espeically one that will undoubtedly make you so happy.

Wishing you well in every single way my dear. If I was nearby, I'd happily pop over to help with yard chores x

ETA: just because you haven't ridden regularly in so long doesn't mean you're not fit to share. As long as you're honest about your past experience and your rustiness with the owner, it shouldn't be an issue. You certainly must be a skilled carer, running your yard on your own!

Also, I'd ask why you're not allowed to ride their horses. I think your OH horses are event horses if I remember rightly, so some people aren't keen on them being ridden for leisure for others. What about asking for lessons on them though from your OH? There are things to be learned about riding a horse from watching it too: you could both find it really useful in your training.
 
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EllenJay said:
Does it actually matter if the OP was telling the truth? She raises topics that others discuss - and for all you know someone else may be is a similar position, but too shy to post about their issues, can read the well thought out replies and it may help them out.

I can understand how some of you longer term members feel let down, but in the great scheme of things does it really matter?
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I've come into this rather late, and wasn't going to comment, but feel I have to reply to this post.

Yes it does matter if people are telling the truth. Of course it does.

Quite often, people will draw on their own painful experiences, to give advice and support to others who seem genuinely distressed.They do it out of the goodness of their hearts even though it can be extremely difficult for them to do so.

It's not nice when you have done that, and then find the poster is lying through their teeth.

I am not saying this is the case here with this OP, but there have been odd users who have been extreme attention seekers, told a pack of lies, got tons of support, then have just turned around and thrown it back in the faces of those who have taken the time and effort to help.

I am not naive enough to think that everybody tells the truth all the time, and there are some top rate b*ll shi**ers on this forum, but it is one thing to over exaggerate, and quite another to cause people to be genuinely concerned through lying.
 
fatpiggy said:
My mother nags me about not getting any physio for my very dodgy back, but can't see that I'd undo all the good work the very next day. I might as well tear up £10 notes.
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Thought Id address this before I see if I can offer any advice to cedar...

You really really need to go see a physio if your back is bad fatpiggy. Im a training physio, but you seem to think that what the physio will do will be undone soon as you get back to the yard. It is true that we can loosen muscles, but what the physio will also do is teach you ways to strengthen your back, the point of physio is not just to have sessions where we palpate your back but we also can educate you how to protect your back and strengthen it in the future. You could be doing some really terrible damage to your back not having it treated.


Cedar.. Im really sorry for you, I can relate in someways, Im at uni doing a full time physio course (its supposed to be a 4 yr course but they have now squished it into 3 yrs so v.v. full on) I have 3 horses of my own to look after, an extremely grumpy farmer bf who suffers with depression so having to deal with his constant outbursts and I also work so I can support the horses.

I do think it is terrible how your OH has spoken to you. Maybe you should just take a break, see how he feels when he really does have to do all the work, he might actually miss you! Although after what he said , if you left the horses you can leave the house and the relationship it really does cast a black cloud over why he really wants to be with you... Perhaps it was just said in the heat of the moment??

I always found writing down my points I wanted to get across to one of my ex's when we had arguments, then going to a public place, like a park or shopping centre, a place where people were too busy with their own lives to ear wag, then talking them through there always worked wonders.

I guess it really doesnt help your feeling terrible, uni-flu is the worst, espcially when essays are due or your going on placement to somewhere new... Hope you feel better soon and you work things out with your OH. You have enough stress with uni and horses with out emotional turmoil as well :(
 
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