Anyone ended up with a hosey OH?!

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And does it make your life happier/easier? Just curious as i often wonder how good it could be if you're both into the same lifestyle or not maybe???
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*horsey I meant
 
Mine rode as a child and now rides my elderly cob, and we're about to loan a horse for him on a long term basis, he's very happy to do whatever needs to be done with the horses. He prefers dogs though, we have four. He shoots, beats and picks up in season and is generally a dog person - I can take or leave dogs!
 
Oh I wish! Even if not "horsey" per se, just one that could understand the obsession and see it as not "just an animal" or "just a hobby".

To be fair to him though, he grew up in a country where it can be difficult enough to feed your family sometimes, let alone a pet. Unless it can do a job / generate income - an animal sadly has little value here I find :(
 
my other half had never been around horses when we met 14yrs ago,
hes now a natural horsemanship/western trainer, deals with loading issues and problem horses.!!!
im now the one waiting freezing to go home :}
 
Mine started riding a few years back- I guess it was a 'if you can't beat them join them' mentality. He had lessons and can walk/trot/canter/hack out without any problems, although he doesn't have a clue how to get a horse working properly (but he's not really interested in that).

We occasionally hack out together but he doesn't like riding my TB as he's a tad sharp for him. (He scared himself a year ago by coming off him when D was going full tilt and he couldn't slow him down). He's also very good at coming away to comps with me as I don't like to go on my own, he will do poles, and help load/unload/clean the trailer. As long as he has a newspaper, food, and he won't get cold he doesn't grumble! (Too much anyway!)
I consider myself lucky that he puts up with this on his weekends off, but I wouldn't consider him horsey. I do wish he enjoyed it a but more though. I often wonder if I got him a nice un-sharp gentlemans hunter type and took him hunting whether he might change.
 
My husband isn't horsey but over the last month or so has become quite interested which is nice. He has expressed an interest in driving one of the ponies in the future which I would love him to do.

This morning we both took a stable each, mucked out and put the remainder of the bedding up for the floor to dry - his stable was much neater than mine! He is learning fast lol
 
Mines a farmer who wasn't horsey. I met him with 2 horses. I now have 9 thanks to him (3 of which he reckons he owns) he doesn't ride at all although he has sat on a couple for a few mins.
He sometimes helps me muck out. But supplies them with hay and straw. Built me an arena and another barn and stabling to fit them in. He sometimes comes to a very local shows (but I think that's more to talk to other people than to actually watch me)
He no longer bats an eyelid when I buy them luxuries (hot horse shower, hurricane blaster hair dryer & solarium)
I'm very lucky to have him and it would be nice if he did ride but can't have it all ways I suppose.
 
Mine is confidant around the boys and I trust him to deal with them if I can't. He loves them and feels they are very much family but he's not overly interested in riding. I got him on and we went out last week together one riding one walking in the wood which he did love so I'm happy with that, I try not to force it on him too much!
 
I had a horsey OH years ago. It was nice as we rode out together and there was always someone to help at shows. I also did alot more riding wise as in drag hunting and team chasing as we were quite competitive with each other. I even took one of our pointers over the point to point jumps on the lincs gallops because he said I wouldn't dare!!! On the downside he was too much of a mummy's boy!! My current partner puts up with the horse, moans about horse abit but understands that it's my hobby and I had horses along time before he came along!!
 
Yes. Mine was not horsey, tho loved them as a kid, had had a few goes at riding the wild ones near where he grew up (!) and was generally really happy to support me to finally own my own.
Over the years he has been a willing pair of hands in various circumstances, including young horse, difficult horse, lead rein pony holder and generally mucked in. It helps that he is very calm, unflappable, has a good feel for animals generally, and crucially is always happy to learn and ask questions. He'll happily stand in for me with the basics if need be and will ask if he's not sure whether something is right. I'd rather have him along side on horsey missions than many a more experienced or knowledgeable horsey type.
He has no great desire to ride (tho I know he'd love a go on the youngster one day cos he loves him to bits) but would really like to drive the sec a one day....we have a harness for sec a now so once we're back in the swing after mini CCW #2 is born, we'll try to find a cart and have a go at that.
I think it was also a big factor for him as a proud Welsh man keeping Welsh cobs and ponies in their native environment connected him to a big part of his heritage and he has really found it meaningful.
 
My OH isn't horsey but he will muck out and look after them if I have to stay away. He will mend fencing and sort drainage. He will feed in a morning on a weekend if he gets up early and I want a lay in and he will lead my big horse out if he is being a handful. He also went on a working horse course with me ready for when the little one gets broken in to help around the place. But he still thinks they are a pain in the neck :D
 
Yes, my OH is horsey. It's great. We live a couple of hours away from each other at the moment (work-related) so it's very convenient knowing the other one understands the need to get up first thing at the weekend (after a long commute the night before) to go and ride the horses. We ride each other's, swap training tips, ride together when we get the chance/take the horses on holidays to stay at the other person's yard, and really enjoy having a shared interest.
 
Mine comes from a very horsey family, rode show ponies as a child, but very rarely groomed, mucked out or rode for pleasure! Still thinks he knows it all though and woe betide me if there is a speck of hay on the yard. I would love to see him ride now he has lunged mine when he has been a bit of a knobber and does not take any messing!!
 
when we got together many years ago, OH didn't know one end of a horse from another - at first he went through the interested but slightly baffled phase, then came the jealous and resentful stage - when he realised the horses were going nowhere, this was followed by the learning to ride stage, followed swiftly by the falling off stage. He now follows the path of least resistance and has reached the stage of being really useful -mucking out, handling and makes a fantastic 'eyes on the ground' trainer. Its been a long haul training him, but careful handling, lots of treats, a firm hand when required and plenty of praise.........turned out lovely!
 
I sent mine on a level 1 nvq horse care course that was attached to the riding school he started going to after he met me ! He is pretty useful now although no longer rides.
 
Mine wasnt when I met him 10 years ago. He now has his own 5 year old who he bought at 2 and backed her himself. Seriously into Clinton Anderson and western type riding. Its great sharing horsey chores such as poo picking but has led to a good few arguments when he tries to tell me what I should be doing with my horse training wise lol :)
 
He is, he has his own, although sometimes I wonder if a non-horsey but understanding OH might be the better bet.
He doesn't get time to ride much but will come for a potter with me when he can but he's now pretty strongly involved in the horse world apart from that. He's handy for a spare body for inhand showing youngsters when I've got another in the ring, but he refuses to do any prep :p As of last month he now owns 'my' 2 yo filly that wasn't right for me and he's talking about showing her this season. He's bought himself (another) new jacket especially. He'll have me turning her out though, I can predict! :D
 
my ex had a pony when he was growing up & we rode together but when l look back we didnt have many other interests so split up. My hubby isn't horsey he's more into other country pursuits. However he's worth his weight in gold as he helps me & with the horses come rain or shine maintaining our field (caring for the grass & maintaining stabling) driving me & our daughter to shows & acting as our stable lad preparing for classes & holding one whilst we're in a class lol. At weekends & on my day off he'll go to the horses first thing to turnout out, muck out & hay up (even though he suffers from hay fever in summer) whilst l care for our children. He even bought & repaired a poo picker so that it'll give me more riding time for the drier months. Although he's sat on my ISH he didn't feel in control & even though shes 16hh he looked massive on her as hes 6ft 7in tall. It would be nice to have a other half to hack but you can't have it all & l find as we've other interests we get on so much better. However, l do help him repair our vehicles on the odd time they need attention & doubt many women would do the same getting elbow deep in grease but its nice to help him when he helps me so much whether its with the horses or our children we're lucky to have him.
 
Me!! He sorted the horses for me while i was getting ready last night and also did them for me this morning when i had a hangover...
 
My OH is horsey and it works perfectly. We spend a LOT of our life and money on the yard and with the horses so thank goodness!

The great thing is that we both do completely different sports with our horses (I'm an eventer at heart and he plays polocrosse) so we can help each other as we have different strengths.

Also.... means that I have my own crash dummy when any of the horses are fresh or playing up!!!
 
Mine grew up around horses. He is a fantastic rider. He does prefer his cars to horses but he is always up for a hack out and is considering buying one of his own once we have settled somewhere.

Perfect level of horsey-ness IMO. He's happy to let me have my horses, he'll join in on occasion but ultimately, it's still my space and my escape.
 
When i met mine eons ago neither of us were horsey, fast forward and almost 4 yrs ago I was horsey and he was so unconfident about horses he wouldn't meet me at the yard... fast forward and he is now competing his own horse and helping others with tricky loaders and is beating all his unconfidence demons as he goes! The majority of the time its a huge blessing but on a bad day its not so much! Then I think of the summers evenings hacking out together ;) :D
 
Mine was not horsey at all, but after 10 years he finally decided to have a ride and now he's hooked! Unfortunately he's rather good at it and I keep having to remind his instructor that he's not supposed to be better than me! He's happy to help me muck out, sweep the yard, groom etc and today he sat and watched while I lunged, just in case I needed some help. So I'm pretty lucky really. Oh, and he didn't turn a hair when I told him my pony`s operation was going to cost £3.5k!!! Actually make that really lucky.
 
Mine is fairly horsey in that she has ridden on and off for years. However she is still learning about horse care, rugs, etc. and takes twice as long to muck out as I do. She rides my old lad as he is sensible, but not the new one as he is too sharp for her.
 
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