Anyone ever had a relationship breakdown/issues with a horse?

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As in the tittle i want to know if anyone has ever had or has a horse who you perhaps had trouble bonding with, loss each others trust, kept falling out with each other?

Did you resolve your issues and make up again, for good? Looking for some reassurance that things can work out ok.
Thanks in advance x
 
I had some fairly heated moments/fall outs with an old horse of mine but these were mainly down to either me losing confidence or him losing confidence but I found that if I remained calm the fall outs decreased but that was when I was schooling him.

I think most horse/pony owners have moments of doubting their bonds with their neds at some point, do you think theres a specific issue that causes you to fall out?
 
Issues with horses as you describe are usually because of one thing- communication. Or specifically, the horse doesnt understand you and you him. You haveto make sure that you are not asking too much from the horse, physically and mentally and communicate with him in a way that understands him and how horses think/behave. Take a step back and assess your problems and try to see why they are happening. remember to look rom the horses point of view too
 
i don't click with my mare and when ridden we do quite reguarlly have arguements but my instructor has taught me to work with her rather than against (in way making her think she is doing it her way but really she is doing it mine)

we do have some very good moments and she is a lovely mare. however, i feel that she isn't the right horse for me and when she is better i am going to either loan or sell her to hopefully the right person
 
When I bought my current horse three years ago we had mega-huge confidence issues: He'd never been hacked solo and would nap and spook - I hadn't ridden for years and needed something steady.

I'd made up my mind to sell him, but decided (as a last ditch attempt) to get some help just to see if there was anything that could be done.

To cut a very long story short; my boy and I are fully bonded and he's such a lovely buddy. The right instructor made all the difference, she pointed out my horse's napping was just his way of saying he wasn't confident in me, his rider, and I had to start being the herd leader and give him confidence.

I'm so glad I didn't sell him! Gosh, how unthinkable that I could ever have thought of getting rid of my lovely boy.

I've now got a lovely, chilled out, confident horse; he can deal with gunshot at close range and dogs barking under his legs just when you have to keep in beside the road to let a bus pass! We hack regularly beside a main trunk road and he doesn't flinch. But it took time, and the right person to come along and help us, and that's what made the difference (Jan if you're reading this, your'e a star - but you know that anyway!!!! ;)
 
Oh yes! Had my girl 18yrs this July and I am still trying to fully trust her again, we are getting there though.
She kicked my in the back about a year or so ago and fractured my coccyx, I suppose when I look back I cannot really blame her entirely. I was walking her inhand as she had only just seemingly come sound, someone I know was riding her horse, she went to take off and Seren kicked out at me a few times (got my leg too). She should have known better I feel in some ways and listened to me, but this person did go to take off at speed without even giving me a chance to consider it properly.
I mean its not a good idea at all is it if someone is on foot with a horse to take off on your horse if your riding.
I don't think it would ever have happened if this person had not gone to take off, so I am trying to put it into perspective. I did feel very hurt and angry at my mare as she did kick out after all, and she didn't have to do that! She had never done anything like this before, always been such a sweetheart, and still is really.

I am still working on the trust issue, I do not trust her fully which is sad as I used to 100%, but hopefully with some more quality time together this summer we will get there.

Sorry that was rather long!
 
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