Anyone just feel like giving it all up??

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Think Im just going through a bad patch but Im fed up with the whole horsey scene. Ive got a nice horse, a bit quirky though, finally managed to buy a horsebox, so why am I so down about it all? Ive been to a couple of comps and said quirky horse was an irrational wally at the most stupid things. Hes like a pro until something stupid sends him off the rails. Im not expecting him to be a superstar, I just want him to be 'normal' if thats the word.

Sorry for the moan, just sat here.... well moaning
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Sometimes feel stressed out by it all but I couldn't imagine my life without horses.. dunno what I would do with myself. Bad patch will most likely pass just give it a bit of time.
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Poor you. I guess we all feel like that sometimes.If you give up, you will undoubtedly be richer, have more time, be less stressed-------and probably bored to tears.Think of a day when your nice little horse went well and tomorrow is another day.
 
Keep plugging away, we all get like that - he'll be as excited as you ar with a new box going places, it will all settle down - just get out to as many things as you can and you'll be grand
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We all get these feelings! You should count your self lucky... there's plenty of little girls out there who would love to have their own quirky horse and horse box.... me being one of them!

Just think of the fun times and look forward to some more....

Horses are like men and relationships, sometimes you want to tell them to go away others times, they don't ever seem to put a foot wrong!
 
Awww thanks. Im glad Im not alone and hopefully it will pass.
About xmas time I said right the next 12 mths is make or break and its going fast. I love my boy to bits, I bought him 6 yrs ago with a home for life but hes been so hard and I think thats why I often think is it all worth it. I reckon hes a bit bored really and could do with a bit of fun put into his life. Mine too I suppose. Ive had my share of horses over the years, most ending in tears, through injury, illness (colic, ringbone, navic etc) and my last horse was a dream horse but sadly was pts, so she was a hard act to follow as I could do anything with her. He is a different horse altogether, clever, talented but a total wally with it and I just wish we could get it together. Even hacking is a challenge. He doesnt scare me, more annoy me at his stupidness. Saying that it would break my heart to sell him so I suppose I should just shut up and stop my damn useless moaning.
Thanks for listenning
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I now what its like when your wanting a quiet hack and you don't that!

The coloured mare in my siggy is my dream horse and everything I want in a trusty steed, but she is a baby and a typical one at that. XC she is VERY bold and will jump anything but if they is a plant growing next to said jump, my god does she react!! I found the best way to tackle it is to laugh!! She always "looks" at birds in bushes and flowers on the ground, and spooks as if a monster was after her, but I just laugh it off, and tell her to stop being a wally!

Laughter is the best medicine!!
 
Yes, I think we all do. I am sure your boy will get better and better with the competing thing the more you do. Keep going if you can

I sympathise though, I have a LOU horse, plus my old mare who is not likely to be able to do very much anymore (if anything as she is lame with probable ringbone, awaiting further vet investigations)

So if I want to carry on actually riding - more than the very odd hack if my old mare cames soundish - I have got to really get my act together and start looking for another horse. Trouble is I kind of lack the energy for a new horse if that doesn't sound too mad. All that getting to know each other and all that.

So I think I do inderstand. But the problem is what do normal people DO if they don't have horses?
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I know, I would have so much time to do .... nothing!
My boy was better behaved as a 4 yr old which sounds pretty bad really. He is such a character, all front.
And as for xc well, he spooked at the jump that my friend was sat on waiting for me to do my dressage test. No chance of jumping it, he wouldnt go near it.
Then theres bikes, no not the motorised ones, they arent scary, its pushbikes, oh people. Yes normal people stood watching, oh so scary. Buckets for a while! I suppose he had a reason for that (had to flush his sinus out and he knew what was coming when he saw the bucket) Bells!! boy did he flip when the judge rang the bell. I better stop there
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Least I smiling now, I will try the laughing next time.
Thanks everyone.
 
My pony has got better the more I've taken her out since I got my box. Take her out about once a week and she now enjoys her outings, she likes being nosey and is a lot more relaxed. Just think how lucky you are. I try to remember this, it took me until I was 21 to get a horse then till I was 23 to get a horsebox- lot of saving but I was desperate to go out competing.
 
Leave him out in the field and have a bit of time off to yourself. I think we all get like that at times, although generally it happens about February after a long winter I think.

I got so fed up with mine I put all seven on the market the other day. I actually DID sell two of them, but chickened out when push came to shove and enquiries started coming in about another two.
 
Tell me about it!!!

I've two lame atm - one pretty much will be for the rest of his life a little bit, the other I bought as Riv had to be retired - and now needs up to 8 months off... coupled with livery yard problems leading to a huge hike in bills and trying to find ANYWHERE else that can accomodate two cripples!!! Loosing the will to live may be a better expression.

Think we all get fed up sometimes... just give him a holiday and you some time... you'll come back refreshed and ready to get cracking again!

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Sorry but he sounds like the wrong horse for you, it's been 6 years if I read your post right and he's getting more stupid than when he was 4? You say you decided it was make or break at christmas...surely then it has been on your mind that this horse is not right for you.

There are so many horse's out there that would give you a nice quiet hack, go to shows and have a bit of fun without being a twat and generally just be lovely. We have a fair few at our yard and none of them cost mega bucks!

I would say sell and get something that gives you pleasure. the moment I thought about jacking it in I would put my horse up for sale, the amount they cost each month you should enjoy them day in and day out. And I am speaking from experience, I spent 5 years thinking it's make or break and taking my WB to show after show after show and hack after hack after hack and he never got any less silly (given he never got worse) it was who he was and I couldn't be bothered with it! I now have horse that really isn't a straight forward ride but is exactly what I can be bothered with, her quirks make me laugh rather than making me want to scream.
 
lots and lots of times.... When I first got Teddy he was a nightmare and came close to selling him but persisted and glad I did he is great now a diff ponio
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Keep your spirits up and when things do go wrong think of the times when they went right... you will get there
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PrincessSpark1e has a valid point. I had a mare on loan at the beginning of the year, and after not riding her due to no saddle and then a foot abscess, when I did finally get to ride her, she just didn't feel right. Not as in lame, I just didn't "click" with her, and in the end, it was like constant rows in the school. She was a lovely sweet mare and never nasty, just her schooling was VERY backward and I wanted something to enjoy and relax on!

I decided to give her back to her owner, and although I miss her, it was the right thing to do. You spend so much time and money with your own horse, it should be fun and you should WANT to go to the yard. As soon as it becomes a chore and the bain of your life, thats when you need to stop, and look at the situation!! Good Luck!
 
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I know, I would have so much time to do .... nothing!
My boy was better behaved as a 4 yr old which sounds pretty bad really. He is such a character, all front.
And as for xc well, he spooked at the jump that my friend was sat on waiting for me to do my dressage test. No chance of jumping it, he wouldnt go near it.
Then theres bikes, no not the motorised ones, they arent scary, its pushbikes, oh people. Yes normal people stood watching, oh so scary. Buckets for a while! I suppose he had a reason for that (had to flush his sinus out and he knew what was coming when he saw the bucket) Bells!! boy did he flip when the judge rang the bell. I better stop there
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Least I smiling now, I will try the laughing next time.
Thanks everyone.

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I think i might have one of those too. My horse is scared of cars when they stop because he thinks the people will get out of them, he fell over trying to spook a couple weeks ago cos my mum dared to move while i was riding in the field, its taken me 3 years to get him to finish a 1.05 course in the ring even though he was olympic potential in germany as a baby, he has to be sedated to be clipped, wont have any cream/gel/fly spray anywhere near him i could go on. I've considered selling him but for one thing it would be very difficult to find someone to take him and for another i couldn't imagine being without him. I have days when i think why do i bother when i see other people at shows with new horses winning classes and i'm still struggling but then he gives me a spark of hope that it's going to work out
 
I too have a very quirky horse and he is now a 9 yrs field ornament cos he's a professionals horse without enough ability for a pro to bother to ride through. I too starter resenting horses but I realised its not horses per se, its just this one.

If your horse is really that tiresome that he's spoiling your enjoyment with no light at the end of the tunnel I would change him. As harsh as it sounds horses should be fun.
 
I know huni its not nice, My boy bless him has many a time made me look like a total div in the show ring by pissing about beacuse of something in the other ring like for example my last show jumping show (last one we ever did) we were jumping 2'9 so we got in the show ring and he was a bit bouncy but ok and we cleared the first fence and then something happened in the next ring and he went crazy and i couldnt get him over the next fence for love nore money so got eliminated and went into the minimus and cleared a 2,9 / 3ft course, Now thats a kick in the teeth but you just need to learn from it and look at why he did it.
Get up brush down and get back in the saddle and think positive. Good luck
 
I went through that all last summer and barely rode my horse at all as just got sick of him as he wasdiagnosed as a headshaker and then in winter i got a yearling and now i am happy again just keep going and if its your horse thats stopping you from enjoying yourself then maybe its time to sell and get something that fits the bill
 
Yes at the moment i feel the same, i'm longing to go for hacks without major drama's and risking my life!! But then that said i love my lad so much, i wanted him to be with me forever, so i'm trying to give it my all and stop being negative about his quirks. My one saving grace is that my lad is never ever nasty, just a big whimp!!! x
 
Deep down I know your right. I think hes always been like this as I keep in touch with his breeder who a long time ago mentioned something along the lines of 'the quirky ones are always talented'. I think I need to give myself a kick up the backside, put 100% into him and see if a bit of hard work can help turn us both arround and failing that I need to have a long hard think
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. He is unpredictable, always has been, prob always will be?? and if Im totally honest I really miss my 'fun' mare that I lost.
Thanks everyone
 
Aw hun
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I know that feeling I miss my fun gelding I lost too, some horses really cannot be replaced.

If you give it 100% get as much training as you can and try as hard as you can then at least if you still feel like it's just not working at the end of the year you can look back and know you gave it everything and it wasn't meant to be.

I know I did with my boy, lessons every week, shows every weekend, hacking whenever I could get company but after 5 years I stepped back and though why am I fighting to keep this horse who I don't enjoy. He was a star on the ground and such a baby (for a 17.2 Bavarian WB that's saying something!) but to ride he was quirky (never nasty) and we just never clicked
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I miss him but I look forward to riding now which I didn't used to in nearly the 5 years I had him. And I never regret making the decision, it was tough but as soon as he was gone I knew I'd done the right thing.
 
Ahhh feel your pain - have one horse on long term rest with a poor prognosis and a lovely loan horse who has come in from the field with a fat leg and we don't know why but vet is concerned as pain in a bad place so he is on box rest awaiting further investigative visit from vet. All this just before daughters area qualfiiers and her school holidays. But hey ho that's horses.

Though I do wonder just how many holidays etc I could have, hours to myself doing something normal like watching TV if I did not have 3 horses - but soon come back to my senses and realise I will be bored in 5 mins.
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