Are all pony clubs full of stuck up people or is it just my local one?

Some branches are friendlier than others I have found. You can see that at area competitions.

The branch I teach for are very friendly. The kids all really support each other which is so great! :)

Camp week from Monday! I love it!
 
Agree with one of the previous posters about reverse snobbery... You post as though you consider you are better than her because she has an "expensive push button horse" and yours is "more challenging"? So what? If she's happy with her horse and you're happy with yours then just stay away from each other.
 
Lolo said:
If you don't mind me asking, what PC branch was this?

Tbh, you sound you had a rough time. Why your friend didn't stick up for you, or you for yourself bemuses me though.
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I best not say the PC branch, just in case!

my friend isnt exactly a good friend, im not actually sure why she invited me to be honest, she is not the type to invite me just because she feels sorry for you (though im not an anti-social loner with no friends) and the girl who i know from school (who i called lucy) is very clever, iv known her since reception (where we used to be bff's in primary school) she knows not to say stuff infront of people

i didn't stick up for myself because iv done that before, it didn't work! she just acted like we had been bff's all along (when she was horrible to me) and i had offended her! i didnt say anything mean, i looked at it from both mine and her points of view and she made up that i had said things i didnt (for example, your a bitch i hate you your family are horrible and you deserve to die) even though i never said anything close to that, i just find not acting bothered by it is the best way, try and fool her i dont care (she can smell fear from a mile away) which does not always work, she is very very clever

as for the rest of the girls in the group, i didnt actually know them before hand so i didnt know how to deal with them, i just left it, kept my gob shut and did the whole dont speak until your spoken to thing

ooohh why are there people like this in the world, they may have problems themselves, but i think no matter how bad your life is on the inside, i dont think it gives you an excuse to act horrible to people who dont know about it, iv had to deal with a fair share myself (divorces, cancer, deaths, deaths because of cancer, too many to list to be honest) but i still make sure i dont offend anyone, oh well not everyone is perfect, not me not anyone

ill make the most of my loan horse, lucky i can have a good old rant to her just to let some steam off
 
I think those talking about 'reverse snobbery' need to remember the age that the OP is.
Don't tell me in your teens you never felt insecure and tried to make your self feel better about what you did have.
I think that's a pointless thing to say to a young person and by bringing them down by using a different angle is unfair when they are just looking for reassurance.

OP whatever people do or don't have or whatever you do or don't have just remember to smile and be friendly and polite to whoever is talking to you, no matter what they say. That is being classy and you can't go far wrong with that approach. You will be the one that people will want to be friends with and talk to and trust.

I can't believe a mother, an adult would sneer down at a young lady the same age as her own daughter, that's dispicable.
 
blueneonrainbow said:
Agree with one of the previous posters about reverse snobbery... You post as though you consider you are better than her because she has an "expensive push button horse" and yours is "more challenging"? So what? If she's happy with her horse and you're happy with yours then just stay away from each other.
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im annoyed at myself it looked like that! im a crap rider i know i am, my hands wont stay still and my lower leg comes up to my ears when i jump

she wont look at a horse unless its got a big price tag (not saying that horses deserve to have price tags on them, they are animals not things) and has no bond with them whatsoever (i do know this, my friend used to be friends with her and went to her yard once to see the horse be tacked up and untacked for her)

when i wrote this post, i was just fuming so im sorry if it came out like that, i just wasnt paying much attention to what i was typing
 
As I said, you don't like her and she doesn't like you just keep away from her. It's a lesson I took a long time to learn for myself- don't waste time and emotion on people you don't like. Put that energy into your real friends and your horse.
 
Perhaps if you ever run into people who sneer at you for "just" having a loan horse, you could point them at this asdvert in H&H;

http://www.horseandhound.co.uk/clas...1_f1_si=CAT*1**0_f1_sr=h_f1_cr=9_f1_sn&cc=2.1

Thats a 4* horse, and i would bet my boots that the sneerers couldn't ride one side of her, whether they loaned her or owned her.

People who try to put others down are often very insecure about themselves inside, however smart and confident they appear on the outside.You can't always stop them being nasty, or shrug off their stupid comments, but you can try not to take their nonsense to heart. Focus on making friends with the decent people, and enjoy the times with your pony.
 
A few useful things to remember throughout life:

1) if anyone has had all the advantages handed to them on a plate they can feel under a lot of pressure to succeed.
2) People under a lot of pressure to succeed can feel very threatened & lash out.
3) people who are just complete bitches hate it if you smile & act as if nothing has happened when they are trying hard to upset you.
4) whenever you feel you can't do that remember the guy whose son was run down by rioters & how dignified he was - your troubles will seem petty all of a sudden.
 
From the tone of your post, I wonder whether you already feel inferior because you don't have your own horse? If this is the case maybe you are on the defensive and are looking for insults when these people talk to you? It could be you need a bit more self-confidence so you find it easier to brush off this sort of behaviour.

Remember life isn't fair - there will always be people with more expensive horses, better transport, bigger houses, etc etc than you. This does not make them better people than you - sadly there is a small minority who think it does. The secret is to be happy with what you've got and not give a stuff about what anyone else thinks. Enjoy your loan horse, be proud of what you achieve with him and do your best to avoid this girl and her mum as they will only wind you up (and to be honest she doesn't sound much fun to be around!)
 
When I was around 10-11 I helped at our local riding school and took the yards 'naughty horse' unyder my wing - nobody could catch him, nobody wanted to brush him as he bit you but he did OK in the lessons ... the local pony club was actually on the grounds of this said yard so the owners let me take 'Charlie' to these - we must have looked a right state with me looking like an 8 year old boy (thanks mum for the dodgy hair cut), dressed in non-fitting clothing and him looking like he'd been dragged through a hedge but you know what although he want mine I used to be soooooooo proud of him - we never won anything BUT what Im trying to say is stuff them all chic, concentrate on what makes you happy and enjoy yourself ... ;)
 
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