Are OMGs and Hugs a substitute for constructive comments?

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Oh how lovely. Now you do patronising as well. Well done. Pat on the back. Have a hug as well.
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Do I?

Truely hadn't noticed TBH.

and I really don't do "hugs" either.
But...I can see through people, though...
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Well, I only say things like 'Please read my post with more care' when I really mean to say something rather ruder
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And LMAO. They're only virtual hugs. You don't actually have to touch anyone, which IMO makes them even better.
I'm not being sarcastic, BTW, I genuinely don't understand why someone would get affronted with a virtual hug (not you in particularly) as far as I'm concerned it means "I sympathize, hope you feel better soon" even if they can't offer practical advice. It's not a grope
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LOL! Well, I'd like to think I'm street-smarter and edgier with a sharper fashion sense than I used to have, but TBH I think I've just turned into dishevelled old cat lady
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I think I've just realised who you are
Hugs and kisses, MWAH, MWAHHHHHHH!!!
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Are you sure?

PM me...but please, try to leave the Cats out of it.
 
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LOL! Well, I'd like to think I'm street-smarter and edgier with a sharper fashion sense than I used to have, but TBH I think I've just turned into dishevelled old cat lady
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I think I've just realised who you are
Hugs and kisses, MWAH, MWAHHHHHHH!!!
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Are you sure?

PM me...but please, try to leave the Cats out of it.

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Nope, of course I'm not sure but I will PM you
 
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LOL! Well, I'd like to think I'm street-smarter and edgier with a sharper fashion sense than I used to have, but TBH I think I've just turned into dishevelled old cat lady
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I think I've just realised who you are
Hugs and kisses, MWAH, MWAHHHHHHH!!!
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You only just figured it out. Man, it was obvious from about the 10th of her posts!
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LOL! Well, I'd like to think I'm street-smarter and edgier with a sharper fashion sense than I used to have, but TBH I think I've just turned into dishevelled old cat lady
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I think I've just realised who you are
Hugs and kisses, MWAH, MWAHHHHHHH!!!
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You only just figured it out. Man, it was obvious from about the 10th of her posts!
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*Ahem* Well, this is actually a bit embarrassing, but I PMed her and I was mistaken
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I did get it on the second attempt.
I don't think my first guess was that far off... in essence.
I will happily MWAHHHHH either of them
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<font color="blue"> You only just figured it out. Man, it was obvious from about the 10th of her posts!
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It was? Not to me
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It never, ever is...


I need a (((hug))) and some intelligence &lt;&lt;&lt;vibes&gt;&gt;&gt;
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I can take any amount of "virtual, verbal beating up". As MFH09 says, I am of a certain age - and it is as water off a duck's back to me. However, it has rather upset me that some posters on here are becoming very nasty to others and I am sorry that my post appears to have prompted this behaviour.
Re: my OP. Does no-one have any "proper" friends any more - the ones who walk, talk and do practical things in times of crisis? The sort of friends who existed well before these forums ever did - and still do in my life.
Form an orderly queue please.
 
I feel very sad for you MrWoof if your life is as completely devoid of emotion and compassion as you are telling us it is.

Yes, I have friends who I know I can go to in a crisis where I need practical help - people who can help with the horse, with the elctrics, organising finance bill payments and student loan forms.

However, I am also exceptionally lucky that I (and I do pity you for lacking this) have friends who I can call up and have a good long moan at, who can come round to my house for a cup of tea, a biscuit, and a good chinwag. Someone who CAN give me a hug, because it's the kind of problem which has affected my moods and feelings which ARE important.

As long as the practical stuff is sorted, then everyone needs to nurture their emotional well-being.

I love it when friends tell me how grateful they are to me for just "being there", for listening and understanding.

My friend has recently split up with her boyfriend, and feels sad about it. There's nothing practical to be done - the break up has happened, so she just comes round and "wilts" (my word for being really sad but not crying) and gets a big hug off me.

Equally, another friend has just had a massive problem with her mother. It's too complicated to go into, but her family are siding with the mother, she feels alone and upset. So when I say to her "oh my god, that's awful, poor you" it makes her feel better that someone else sympathises with her - that her problems ARE real, ARE upsetting, and not just in her head, or an over reaction.

Poor you. (And I honestly do feel bad for you).
 
Please do not feel sorry for me.
I really do not want - nor do I need your "sympathy".
I have a very solid core of friends who have been there for me - and me for them - for over 50 years.
I have sent you a PM re: the fact that you know absolutely zilch about my life, my lifestyle, my relations and friends who have died recently (including BOTH my parents) or how I treat my loved ones.
How dare you be so arrogant and intrusive.
 
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Please do not feel sorry for me.
I really do not want - nor do I need your "sympathy".
I have a very solid core of friends who have been there for me - and me for them - for over 50 years.
I have sent you a PM re: the fact that you know absolutely zilch about my life, my lifestyle, my relations and friends who have died recently (including BOTH my parents) or how I treat my loved ones.
How dare you be so arrogant and intrusive.

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You're calling ME arrogant and intrusive?! HAH
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Do you think you are the only one who has lost loved ones - some of the people you have insulted and offended on this thread may themselves be going through tough times.

I am sorry you have lost friends and parents. But so has many people, myself included. That does not give you the right to criticise people's reactions, or how they choose to show compassion and sympathy to others.

I think this thread is over now, but it does make me sad thinking of how awful some people on here must be feeling. I hope it doesn't deter them from posting, or how they react to other people in real life.

I hope one day you can learn some form of compassion. I understand you have lost people close to you, and maybe it is that which has affected how you view 'the mushy stuff'.

Goodbye
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