Are you a jealous rider?

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At most yards there are usually one or two more sucessful riders, are you jealous of them, or do you look up to them, would you actively avoid them because you cant face up to them being better in the saddle than yourself?

I can think of many especially pony club mums, who are fiercly jealous. I also remember as a kid being offered the ride of a nice pony, great, until i started beating the daughter.... didnt get many rides then LOL!

So speak honestly.... does your jealousy get the better of you?
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No I'm not. I have nothing to be jealous of, but even if I had, I wouldn't because I just don't "do" jealousy in any shape or form.
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i am an envious rider!! i envy those people who are out doing things and getting on when i'm still stuck on the lowest level, and i envy those who can canter, when i can't.....
 
I look upto people like that.. and like to ask advice i dnt like the type of people that think they are better than anyone when its very clear they arnt!! And i wnt take advice from anyone who is petrified of riding.
 
No- I'm happy, Pips happy and IMO is the best pony in the world
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, who cares if we can't jump a pole on the floor, we often don't win at dressage and alot of the other driving ponies are more attractive and flashy. Who cares 99% of ponies are more straight foward. I love Pip, and I feel we try hard but most of all we have fun.
 
I'm not at all,although I sometimes see a good rider and wish I was as good as them.When I first moved to the yard I am on I went to a competition and finished 2nd in their summer showjumping championships.I qualified for the final on the day and another girl from the yard was also competing.Her horse knocked down alot of the fences and she was not too happy about it.I only found out after she left that she had been slating my riding because I had beaten her in the ring.
 
not jelous of their horses but envy riders who are totally fearless as would love to be able to ride anything and do anything without being nervous.
 
No, I'm happy sticking to my low level BE as to be honest I couldn't handle any bigger jumps, PN scared me enough! And I know I'll never get anywhere with horses in general. . . I know what you mean about the PC - I was reluctant to join this year after people constantly backstabbing at me and my horses.
 
Not really - I would love to be a better rider but I find watching people who are better than me spurs me on and I work harder
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Now of course if said better rider was gorgeous, could ride for hours without a hair going out of place and without breaking into sweat then I would be jealous
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Yes to a healthy extent. Jealousy can be a good emotion as it inspires us to improve ourselves.

If you don't know how to control it then it gets dangerous.
 
no not jealous...am envious at times because i do wish i had the balls to jump higher,and jump solid fences(my horse is more than capable but my nerves over fences is stupid
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)...however i get help from these people which is great
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..i enjoy my time with my lad but i do want to do more(not alot...i would just like to get rid of the show nerves...even doing a dressage class frightens me
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)...this needs to be the yr!!
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Jealous is a very emotive word. I admire those who can canter and gallop out in open fields, I wish the open spaces did not go to Star's braincell and release her inner Kauto Star.

I get a bit fed up sometimes, when people have less challenging ponies than mine and go and and do/win the things I want to do, but then, Sucess can be measured by the journey taken..... Jealous - no! a bit frustrated at times - yes!
 
I am full of admiration for those who ride well (including my OH).

I have sympathy for those who try hard to improve themselves.

I am exasperated by those with ego's so huge (and mouths of equal size) who have such overblown opinions of their own ability and nothing but derision for all others.

I have contempt for those who kick, beat, and yank at their horses, blaming their poor unfortunate mount, for their own complete lack of ability and skill.
 
No- I am an ok rider (not one to blow my own trumpet in any way) and we have some fantastic young riders at the yard & its a pleasure to watch them & tell them how well they are doing when like all of us they have the I am rubbish moments (like I had last night).
 
I'm jealous of all the young ladies on our yard because I don't have the years left to be as good as them...lol (Old lady who arrived late to riding!) I suppose I could give up work, ride every day, have lessons as often as possible and cram 20 years of riding into one year! That sounds like a good idea...(((((toddles of to speak to husband about giving up work))))))
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Like other have said, not so much jealous but admire.I have a friend that when we used to compete we were on an even kill. IE she would win one week, I would win the next but shes bonded with her horse and has had huge sucess. I am really pleased for her and would do anything to help her. I have even asked for her to come and give a few tips on my riding sessions!

There are kids i admire for their courage! If im jeolous of anything its that they aren't scared at falling off or putting their horses to stupidly big fences
 
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Ditto.

ETA, Not really but I do think the people having more success aren't necessarily the best riders, just the ones with the most luck, money and ambition, sometimes to the detriment of their horses. The best rider on our yard is a joy to watch, but she barely ever competes.
 
No I'm not jealous, I look up to them and hope one day I might be able to ride half as well as them! I am sometimes envious of people's confidence though especially when they go out hacking. I just try to remember how lucky I am to even have a horse.
 
Nope, not at all.

I like to learn from people who are better than me. Crikey, if I was jealous of everyone who was a better rider than me I would not like very many people at all. Hahahahaaa!!

I have been the subject of jealousy though. Especially as a teenager. I worked two summers solid. 13 & 14 years old. In the Autumn I had saved up a thousand pounds and I was able to buy a 5 year old TB. He was/is a good looking chap (He is still going strong at 26 with the people I sold him to 14 years a go).

I had all sorts of nasty comments saying that I was spoilt etc. None of them wanted to hear that I had bought him with my own money.

When I was 10 I got my last pony from my parents. Dad told me then "This is the last pony I buy you, if you grow out of this one you will have to work for your next".

Jealousy is such a horrid, hideous, life eating, experience ruining, friendship wrecking wasteful emotion. I try and avoid people who suffer with jealousy as it is a very negative, boring, zero logic kind of way to be. LOL
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If you want to be a better rider you have to get off your butt, get some training from a decent trainer and work hard at it.
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I'm proud of what I've achieved with my horses as I'm totally self sufficient financially, always made the most of bargain basement youngsters or projects, while working full time and being a widowed mum of two.
However, I do get the odd green eyed twinge when I see people who have it handed to them on a plate by parents or OHs; while they wouldn't be successful without the necessary riding skills I do see people who don't seem to realise how lucky they are or maybe waste their opportunities through laziness.
 
dont do jealousy personally,dont see the point, but have seen some people turn quite insecure when the green eye'd monster comes to visit!! Watched a pro rider,just poetry in motion and who is awsome, do a lovely test on a very young tricky horse, when i heard someone say
"well its easy to produce a good dressage horse if thats all you do all day long!!!" I thought to myself you've obviously never had a young horse! People have different goals with horses tho, and one persons success is anothers failure!! Is deffo horses for courses!!
 
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Im not jelous of anyone at my yard. if i admire someones riding it just makes me think i need to put more work in, to achieve it.

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Yes but you're one of the good one's that everyone is jealous of...
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not jelous of their horses but envy riders who are totally fearless as would love to be able to ride anything and do anything without being nervous.

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Ok just to clarify, the oxford dictionary defines jealous as follows:

adjective 1 envious of someone else’s achievements or advantages.

So by definition if you are envious then you are jealous...

I'm not jealous at all, if I wanted what another rider had I would go and get it myself. No point in looking at people wishing you could do the same, work hard and you can achieve anything.
 
The only thing I'm jealous of is people whose horses aways look lovely and clean, with nice neat manes and tails. I am useless at mane pulling and my horse is the biggest minger on the yard. It has got to the stage where I'm embarassed to go in the school when other people are in as I think they'll all be laughing at how scruffy my girl is!
 
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