As a bloke horse person...

"Bloke horse person" "Free help around the yard" "looking for horse share"


OP, it comes across like you're looking for a date hence no replies
 
I find it hilarious actually when a showjumper up here comes up to give lessons. He is a handsome guy and the women just flock around him, flirting like crazy. Think I was one of the few who never did, I was more just like "right having problems again, jump on my horse and see if you can make him listen, sorry if he tries to throw you off again". But while I know he is handsome I dont find him attractive, whereas they all do. Kind of figured most guys would get a lot of attention like that really for liking horses.
 
I've seen a few adverts on local FB horse pages from a man looking for female help with his ponies, smaller type which would attract younger females. The alarm bells nearly deafened me!
 
As a bloke my advice would be to get your own horse(s) and own yard and stay out of their way, they are all nut jobs these women!!
 
This is a little off topic but I have never encountered an average male rider. They're all either damn amazing or total novices!! I'm sure there are but I've just never encountered them :p

There was one male rider at my first yard where I had my first horse at 15. He was sooo attractive and I fancied him so much! It helped that he had a beautiful 17hh jet black warmblood too ;)
 
We have one guy on our yard - the husband of one of the other liveries. He's lovely and we all get on with him brilliantly. I never really think twice about him being a bloke to be honest, he's just a mate. Same at riding club. Not many men but those who are there fit right in and are usually at the centre of everything.

Finding the right sharer can be hard, it wouldn't bother me if the right person was a man in the slightest. In fact I had one arrange to come and see my boy but his (male) partner didn't like the idea so he pulled out.

Maybe you haven't worded your advert very well? We could help you draft a more suitable if you let us know your circumstances/ability?
 
Never had any issues mixing on a yard. I have had issues with two husbands who didn't seem to like their wives spending weekends away with me when competing but many others have been fine about it.
I do find that there is a section of people out there that assume because you are male then your riding style will be based around force rather than technique but it's a smallish group on the whole and consist of owners I probably wouldn't want to ride for anyway.
On the whole I have thoroughly enjoyed being male in a female dominated activity ;)
 
thegreenergrass said:
This is a little off topic but I have never encountered an average male rider. They're all either damn amazing or total novices!! I'm sure there are but I've just never encountered them :p

There was one male rider at my first yard where I had my first horse at 15. He was sooo attractive and I fancied him so much! It helped that he had a beautiful 17hh jet black warmblood too ;)
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I'm afraid I break the rule, I'm somewhere inbetween!
 
The ads offering free help would put me off. I have come across many good men who own and ride horses at all levels and the only one who totally creeped me out offered free help with horses. This middle aged guy would get responses and the only ones he would follow up were with vulnerable teen girls. He behaved inappropriately and became known for it, so that was the end of that. The other horsey men I have come across would help if needed or asked, but otherwise did their own thing.
 
thegreenergrass said:
This is a little off topic but I have never encountered an average male rider. They're all either damn amazing or total novices!! I'm sure there are but I've just never encountered them :p

There was one male rider at my first yard where I had my first horse at 15. He was sooo attractive and I fancied him so much! It helped that he had a beautiful 17hh jet black warmblood too ;)
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I break the rule as well
 
I've only kept horses on two (quite large) yards, but neither of them had any men keeping their horses there (apart from the yard owner's family but they didn't mix that much with the rest of us) - a few younger boys, but no adult men. Odd now I think about it.

I can see how it could be really hard. I'd get a loan or a share, or take lessons at a yard and start getting to know people - but don't try too hard to get into the social groups straight away - be the helpful, friendly but mysterious new guy ;-) You'll make friends in no time
 
I also break the rule. I am not bothered about horses and never have been particularly but I do like them and appreciate them. I grew up with lots of them, learnt to ride when I was very little, hunted from as soon as I could sit on a saddle and still do off and on.... definitely not a total novice and definitely not amazing.

I probably would ride more but don't really have time, and if I do get spare time it is so precious I would rather do something else....
 
I find the suspicion on this thread (and some of the others) a bit disappointing. Not all horsey men are dodgy old perves who are desperate to hook a horsey woman. Always makes me sad when a bloke posts on here, and is automatically assumed to be dodgy/after a date! Just because someone has a penis, it doesn't mean he necessarily intends to get it out and wave it at people

If a man turned up at my place, wanting to help out in exchange for riding, I'd have him attached to a wheelbarrow faster than the speed of light. If he was sufficiently witty, charming and devastatingly handsome, I'd probably date him too!
 
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