awkward situation with loaner

[Orangehorse]

A text? Devil's invention. What has happened to picking up the phone or face to face?

Sorry OP, it is your horse, OK, but a good sharer is worth their weight in gold and should be treated as such. Big apology from you needed.

 

[Goldenstar]

Have to agree to ditch her by text after two years was very bad manners and I not surprised she bit back at you.
After a ghastly winter when presumably she reliably did her share I bet she feels very used.

 

[EquestrianFairy]

Has the OP disappeared?

FWIW i made this mistake once before with a sharer and will never do it again, i didnt take into consideration how much she had bonded with my horse and i had to move my horse 20 miles away as i moved house so i felt awful but i did the dreaded 'text' thing and learnt from it. She became a total nightmare for a few weeks until we moved. This was the first time i had needed a sharer so it was all new to me.

In hindsight while i couldnt change the fact i had to move, i do believe i should have told her to her face. It may not have changed her reaction and we were not friends but i think i overlooked her attatchment to my horse.
Anyway, since then ive only had two more sharers and i was upfront and honest with them both since the beginning and never had an issue again.

 

[Kellys Heroes]

As a sharer, I'd be mortified.

I think this sort of treatment would probably put me off ever sharing again. A text message after the winter and summer we've had (and I am in her position, I have shared over all the horrid weather etc!) just isn't acceptable.

I understand its your horse etc but if this was me I'd have taken her for a coffee or something, with a gift from you and horse and explain I wasn't thinking of keeping a sharer on at new yard, but she was welcome to pop up to see horse every now and then if she liked and that I'd keep an ear out for a new share on current or new yard if she wanted!

I feel for her.

K x

 

[Maesfen]

OP, you're a disgrace to the decent human race. Don't know how anyone can be so cruel to someone they profess is a friend let alone she has been bailing you out by paying for your horse. Your behaviour disgusts me.

 

[1Lucie]

I loaned many horses before buying my own. I treated them all like mine and loved them v much. If u had done that to me I would of been devastated!!!!! I think a text is v insensitive and could of been handled a lot better. Especially as she has been a good loaner! She can come loan my horse coz they r hard to come by!!!

 

[Spudlet]

I was a sharer dumped by text. It wasn't a surprise as the owner had been difficult throughout (I won't go into details, but there was some moving of goalposts and unreasonable behaviour, and I had already decided I was being taken for a ride and was going to end the share myself). I still wasn't best pleased to get a text though (fitted in with the owner generally mind you!).

I think your sharer has got you pegged OP... and I wouldn't hold your breath to find another sharer any time soon if you need one. It's a small world, the horse world, and news travels.