Be honest, is it possible? ?

[Arzada]

TBH, when you first posted about this, I thought that you had possibly been too quick to make up your mind.
You have had 2 major issues in your life in a very short time, with the loss of your daughter and now your accident. In your place, I would turn the horse away and take time to heal, physically and emotionally. Then think again when you know how you feel, when your doctor says it is appropriate for you to ride again.
It may well be that you decide that you are over-horsed and it would be better to sell him to a more experienced home, or that you decide to have some schoolmaster lessons yourself and send the horse to schooling livery before having lessons on him to help you work out the best way to ride him. Remember he will be maturing all the time he is turned away.

Very good advice. Decision-making during while grieving is a tricky one - it's really worth giving yourself more time before you make this important decision re you and your horse.

 

[SatansLittleHelper]

Many many thanks for the lovely supportive advice and comments.
I have decided to leave it til I'm out of plaster (July 13th all being well) and start having some regular lessons again. I will also get horse restarted and ridden out with a professional at the same time.
Either we will work it out and I'll gain confidence, or I won't. Either way me and horse both win as he will stand a chance of a better home if he is doing more, and I'll get a better price for more choice in new horse plus I will be able to put my hand on my heart and say I have done all I can. If I have to sell him then it will be knowing for sure it's the right thing for us both. Xx

 

[Gloi]

Many many thanks for the lovely supportive advice and comments.
I have decided to leave it til I'm out of plaster (July 13th all being well) and start having some regular lessons again. I will also get horse restarted and ridden out with a professional at the same time.
Either we will work it out and I'll gain confidence, or I won't. Either way me and horse both win as he will stand a chance of a better home if he is doing more, and I'll get a better price for more choice in new horse plus I will be able to put my hand on my heart and say I have done all I can. If I have to sell him then it will be knowing for sure it's the right thing for us both. Xx

That all sounds a very good idea. A newly backed horse that has then had a break is always likely to do unexpected things. You may well find that he just needed more time being ridden by a professional before he is ready to be a suitable horse for you and that with that time put in he will be fine.

 

[Adopter]

Many many thanks for the lovely supportive advice and comments.
I have decided to leave it til I'm out of plaster (July 13th all being well) and start having some regular lessons again. I will also get horse restarted and ridden out with a professional at the same time.
Either we will work it out and I'll gain confidence, or I won't. Either way me and horse both win as he will stand a chance of a better home if he is doing more, and I'll get a better price for more choice in new horse plus I will be able to put my hand on my heart and say I have done all I can. If I have to sell him then it will be knowing for sure it's the right thing for us both. Xx

Wishing you success with this, sounds a positive plan for both you and your horse, and and you will be able to be more confident with a decision being right when you have both had more time. Sending hugs xx