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Have been friends with my mate now for a few years, we are very close and would do anything for each other.

My horses are kept at her yard, and her daughter would ride mine when my back was too sore (had a car accident a while back)

Anyway we have a half share (recently bought) on a tack shop, lorry and horse. As she was a good friend, i never asked to get agreements signed.

Now things are going sour, shes always on my back, talking to me like im scum, her husband threatened me, shes telling me i dont spend enough time with my horses (there from 9am to 5pm everyday for them), twisting things i say and telling people lies about me.

Im now at the end of my tether, ive got 4 horses which i love to bits, my husband is into horses too so i feel lucky. I want out of my share of what we share, shes taking the fun out of me being with my horses, i dread going near the yard incase i get another mouthful.

I really feel stuck, it will cost me an arm and a leg to move the horses to a new yard. I just want to cry about even thinking of sharing with her. When i try talking to her about the way shes being, she tells me that im the one with the attitude and im causing tension and bad feeling around the yard.

What would yous do?
 
End the partnership and move the horses.

How sad
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Sounds like a right crack pot to me

Get your horses out asap and end the share but would get your horses away 1st as she sounds mad - god knows what she would do !!!

and lesson learnt - always draft up an agreement !
 
give her a smack and move.
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Seriously though you dont want to be around people like that, time with your horses should be a pleasure.
 
Thanks everyone, im just scared shes going to try and stiff me for the money. Its a hard lesson to learn, and i wont be doing that again.

Ive been finding out that my horses are rode when im not there, even my mare that only foaled 4 days ago
 
Well you want to knock her out :-)

and then take your horses and then call the RSPCA to let them know about horse cruelty.

If she is doing stuff like that then she is no friend - scratter!!!

Anyway - hopefully if you havent signed agreements - that could go in your favour?

If she is thick and poor - bully her with 'lets do this properly and sort it with solicitors love' she might panic and just be submissive?
 
Try and decide which of the shared things you want and which you are prepared to lose.
Regarding your horses being ridden and the mare who has recently foaled, absolutely disgraceful.

I hope you manage to sort it out.
 
I'd definitely have to be moving my horses if I was in your situation, don't think I'd be happy leaving them there - sounds like your so called friend has a few 'issues' !! And even if you do manage to sort your friendship out with her you have to seriously ask yourself would you really be happy leaving your horses there knowing what she has been doing behind your back ............. could you really ever trust it would never happen again ? I don't think so !! And your poor mare who's only just foaled !
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I feel for you - it must be so hard what you are going through - be strong and do the right thing for the safety and happiness of your horses............ its you they trust and rely on, remember that and let it give you strength when you need it most!

And good luck !
 
Keep all receipts and get copies of any you don't have which show what you have put into the business, bank statements showing transfers will help.

See a solicitor

Don't get into an argument again, if she starts shouting, as hard as it may be walk away.

"Or you could say "When you talk and not shout then I'll talk" then walk away.

Move your horses asap then start proceedings of getting out the business.

Don't talk to anyone else about the situation, it is surprising how many people can't help but spread gossip.

And yes Got to agree. A good lesson to remember in future, always get a contract drawn up no matter who it involves.
 
So sorry to hear that it has all gone wrong. It often happens when friends become business partners, but at the time, it all seemed a good idea!!

You could take the bull by the horns and have a one to one with her. There seems as though there is an underlying factor here that you haven't recognised. Get her to bring it all out in the open and discuss what is REALLY bugging her. Is she jealous, do you think? Are you spending more time enjoying work and horses, while she is tied to a boring job?

Glad to hear you have a supportive husband - is she jealous of your security and happiness?

Do let us know what the outcome is.

Best of Luck.
 
Shes always in bed cause of a sore back, it takes 3 people to help me on a horse, but once im up i never want down again lol.

Ive got bank statements that ive lifted the large amounts of money for the items, she doesnt. My sister said if i wanted to be a bitch, i could tell my solictor that i own everything, but im not like that.

The tack shop is only a portacabin in her property, we do new and 2nd hand things. I was there when the electrican gave an estimate to put electric into the shop, it was £300, and he told us that it will not be far from that. She sent me a text today (im sick in bed) saying that its going to cost us £550. I just dont trust her anymore, i think shes trying to screw me
 
Ask for the original receipt showing the breakdown of everything carried out including the vat etc.

Make sure its the original and has the companies logo on it and that the work is carried out by a corgi (I think its corgi)registered company and not a cowboy getting a quick buck.

Even phone the company and ask why the amount has nearly doubled from the original quote and possible get a second person in for another quote. Some people do rip you off..

I've watched too many .... from Hell programs LOL
 
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