been dreading this.

Chestnuttymare

Chestnuttymare

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Going to try to not make this a novel or cry all the way thro typing it.
I have been diagnosed with quite a serious illness. It looks like I am not going to be able to keep my lovely mare. I want to put her on a long term loan but panicking quite a lot after reading the various threads on loaning. i will want her near me so that i can go and visit on a regular basis. i can't possibly not ever see her again. She is an ex racer and i have had her for 5 years. she came with lots of issues but we have worked thro them and she is a lovely horse to ride and very respectful on the ground. She is very sensitive and needs light hands. she is ridden in a myler or french link. goes from canter to trot with just your voice, perfect brakes, never bucked or reared even at her worst.
She will need someone who will assure her routine and respect her need for rugs, suncream in the summer, mudblock in the winter. She is a lovely jumper and never fizzes up. bomb proof in traffic although there may be a scary misshapen leaf that may just threaten to jump up and eat her!
so where do i advertise her. we are in central scotland. she could stay at present yard in west lothian. any tips to make this as painless as possible, for both of us.
i also have a sec a that i will try to hang on to at the mo as he is low maintenance or try and get someone to loan him and keep him at yard as he is getting on a bit and had cancer last year. he is fine now tho and a lovely wee lad for a nice kind kiddy.
I am totally heartbroken but i have to do what is best for them. i just don't know how long i will be able to keep up with the work. i am coping at the moment tho'.
so if anyone has any ideas, i would appreciate it.
I thought of ILPH or WHW as they are now but they don't let you keep in touch with them and they just cannot be pushed from pillar to post.
cookies if you got this far, so much for no novel or tears.
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Could you not find a loaner via word of mouth through your yard-you could always specify in the loan agreement that she's to stay at the present yard but there's a good chance then that the potential loanee will be known by other liveries.

I'm sorry about your illness *hugs* and I hope you get it sorted, what an awful situation to be in.
 
I'm so sorry to hear about your illness *hugs*
I would be inclined to agree with HeidiBoo, try and find someone through word of mouth. It will probably help in the long run, knowing that you know the same type of people.
 
I'm so sorry to hear about this
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Could you find someone who would share your mare so you can still have contain with her but not the work/financial outlay? If that doesn't work I think your best approach has got to be riding club/older pony club members. Best of luck finding someone.
 
I think i have been avoiding it, i want to avoid the numpties if that is at all possible. She isn't the type that i can have lots of people coming up for a 'shot' if you know what i mean. i am a member of 2 of the ex racer clubs so hopefully something may come from them. I just thought some of you guys might have suggestions. we are just a small yard heidi and the guys aren't really out and about sorts. If she stayed there, then they would keep an eye for me tho' if i wasn't able to get up.
Thanks for you suggestions and hugs. what a nightmare this all is. My horses were to be with me forever, never thought for a moment this would happen to me.

eta Panda, the share thing crossed my mind, but i might get to the stage where i can't get up at all or if i can, not be well enough to do anything useful.
 
Sorry no advice other than what has already been given but

<<healing vibes>>> and (((hugs))) for you

I really hope you manage to sort things out and things are not as dark as you fear
 
Sorry, no suggestions other than what has been mentioned already - I just wanted to say how sorry I am that you are in a position where you might be unable to continue with your horses, I am sure it is hearbreaking for you and I really hope you find a happy solution.

Big (((HUGS)))xx
 
If i were you I would go for a loan to remain at the same stables. So sorry to hear you are unwell. I am sure there are lots of lovely people out there who would like to loan your horses.
 
What an awful situation. So sorry you are ill. It sounds like you've done a great job training your horse. There are always lots of good, quiet riders looking for loan horses, there are a lot of unsound, unsellable cast offs available but a safe, sound quality horse with a genuine reason for being loaned - you will be able to take your pick of applicants. Start only advertising locally, then any potential loaners can come and ride her at your place many times to make sure they click with your horse, and to give you a chance to assess their suitability.

You will find the right person to take good care of your horse, and then you can concentrate on looking after yourself.
 
I'm sticking my neck out here, but these are exceptionally sad circumstances. I would call anyone with a similar sounding horse advertised for loan and ask, politely (though I doubt you'd be anything else), what sort of a response they have had. This, after explaining to them your position and reluctance, in the light of your illness, to launch into full advertising mode, with all the resulting incompetents, time-wasters and joy-riders adding to your difficulties. If I had the pick of two prospective loaners I liked very much , I'm jolly certain I'd refer the unlucky one to another, similar horse for free.

That's incredibly bad luck, but honestly, there are good loaners out there - excellent ones in fact
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who care more deeply for their beloved loan ponies than many care for their expensive bought ones, and would fight to the death for them, so take heart and don't panic. There is someone out there and the answer will come.
 
hi there sorry to hear about your illness and the sadnessit has caused regarding your horse. you could try local riding clubs,feed merchands, tack shops. there is also a fewwebsites you could try like ad trader, gumtree and horse trader online i do hope you get things sorted out and do try and get her to remain at present yard even if it is onlky on a trial bases. i wish you all the luck in the world
 
Being an ex-racer have you tried any of the ex-racehorse charities? I went to visit HEROS in Lambourne and they did have a couple of horses that may have come from a similar stiuation as yours both up for loan and for sale. They were regulating the loans and keeping track of the horses and were also prepared to take them back if it didnt work out. I know that they are a long way from you but I think that there are other charities that may be closer to you.
 
I'm very sorry to hear of your illness and difficulties securing the future of your mare. I am not far away from you and if you want to pm me an "advert" or information about her and the person you would ideally like for her I will help pass the information around the local area.

Best wishes
 
atthechav, thanks, did think about this but want to be able to keep an eye on her myself.and these places are awfully far from me.
measles thanks to you you too, will pm you. i don't want her on tack shop doors as i think i will attract the numpties but word of mouth will be great.
thanks to you all for your kind words and pms, i am totally overwhelmed by your kindness.
xxxxx
 
I sadly have no advice but just wanted to send you hugs and hope that the future is positive for you and you can one day have your horses back. Its a situation Im sure we all dread, and I often give thought to what would happen to my horses should something awful happen to me. It almost does not bear thinking about but we should all make plans - in the same way that we do for any children that we have.

My mother has her horse on loan to an equestrian college, which has worked out very well for her and for her horse. There must be some option for you and your horses other than loosing them completely
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I sincerely hope that you are well soon.
 
I am so sorry to hear this news. I hope you are ok and send my best wishes as I can only imagine the worry you will be feeling trying to sort your girl a new home.

I have no real advice except if loaning let the new home be at a distance you can check up on them. My second lad I loaned out on a full loan ended abruptly without warning last week and I had no sign that the loaner was unhappy just found them packing their belongings one evening when they thought I was away. I had not communication so would have been left unknown until the next morning.
So for your horses welfare and your sanity if loaning make sure in checking distance, have a solid loan contract (even if they are so called friends I sadly found this means nothing). Make sure responsibilities are clear – mine was full loan but I did most if not all of the turnout and bringing in and make sure you have a back up to looking after them if needed so if the loan does end you can step in until something else can be sorted. The horse’s welfare is all that matters.

If loaning keep the insurance in your name and them as authorised on the policy – again learnt this through experience sadly. You don’t want them walking and the policy ending especially if they have an injury that’s happened in their care. Also have a contingency for money – I have been left with a 1k vet bill.

It’s a minefield I’m afraid I heard/read of all the bad stories but never believed they would happen to me, I thought our loan was solid as the horse was bought specifically for them but you can be proved so wrong time and time again. So really take everything at fact value not face value.

I do find loaning offers the easiness of just ‘handing’ the horse back. Its an easy get out clause, they don’t see it as the same responsibility as financially owning them – a convenient way of owning without the true responsibility.

Last bit of advice – it’s a contract, leave it as a contract don’t enter into the friendship stage so it can all stay above board and you don’t end up bending over backwards to please them and then being left high and dry. Make sure communication is completely open this is the only way it will work.
 
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